Relationship with Flatmates/Friends

[blackbobcat]

Ok so im 21 and im living in this flat with a few others... a couple, a single man in a long distance relationship and a stoner (but he lives in the shed out the back so he doesnt really count)

anyway we have recently had this new flatmate (shes 23) move in and i quite like her... shes good looking, has a great personality and we both like kinda similar things.. and she has the most beautiful eyes i've ever seen (please dont tell me this makes me gay??)

anyway i mentioned to my flat mates when she first moved in that i quite liked her and one day while she was out we had a "flat meeting" and they all pretyy much said "no stop trying to molest the new girl.. dont do or say anything to her" (for the record i am not a molester)

anyway they basically all told me to drop the idea because i could make things awkward in the flat or it might not work out and turn to shit or i might scare her off... im not that bad looking..

but the problem is that i do really really like her and i get along with most people i meet and i get along with her really well... so id really like to ask her out or at least drop hints to see if the feeling may possibly be mutual...

SO MY QUESTION IS THIS: Should you not ask someone out just to please others or because your worried about what "could" happen... or should you adopt the philosophy of "you never know until you try and deal with the consequences when they arise"

im of the 2nd option mostly but most others i know are of the first one...

I would also be interested to hear from any females who are flatting/ living with other guys to tell me if they would feel awkward of one of their flatmates/friends asked them out and the feeling was not mutual... or anyone who is/has been in the same situation as this

thanks

 

[Alakaizer]

First question I have is are these other people just roommates, or close friends?

EDIT: Thinking a little more about things, I'd say ask her out, the sooner the better. I became friends with a girl in about 2002-2003, asked her out pretty quickly, she turned me down, but she's one of my best friends now.

Basically, if she says yes, then good for the both of you. If she says no, but there's no bad blood between you two, then later on you can still get the benefit of her company. If she says no, but things break down, then...seek support of good friends, and try to make the best of the situation.

Also, you'd only be gay for liking pretty eyes if the eyes you like are in someone of the same gender.

 

[ham and red bull]

Hypocrites, the couple living there together! Jump this girl, she sounds awesome, BUT DON'T MOLEST HER!

 

[AngryLawnNinja]

Didn't you say that some of your other flatmates are in a relationship? There's your answer. What right do they have to deny you a chance at romance? Go for it man! Live by your own terms.

 

[LawlessSquirrel]

I say you can go for it, if you don't handle it poorly. If it turns sour it could be a problem, so just try not to let that happen. I know, easier said than done, but it's not like it's an inevitability. Just don't push hard or piss her off.

I have no experience in your situation though, so I guess take this with a grain of salt.