Relationships, and getting a partner.

[TheRealJLars]

I agree that jumping into something too quickly is a terrible idea.

Give yourself a couple months to clear your head. End all contact with her. Delete her number, hide her on facebook, untag all your photos, etc. You know the drill. The sooner you do this, the easier it's going to be. She may "want to be your friend" now, but that's not to say she'll want to be 6 months from now.

While you do this, find enjoyable things to do with your friends. If they're things you can do and meet women at the same time, then Bonus. Learn a musical instrument, or a new one if you can already play one. Go to clubs, concerts, pubs, parks, outdoor festivals. Anything to get yourself out of the house. The important thing is to stay busy.

I'm not sure if you have that option across the water, but joining my university's marching band was probably the best thing I could've done after my last relationship ended.

captcha: too bad

 

[Bouncer]

I find it funny to see this thread considering it's the entire reason why I'm here, in fact, Checking out new places and trying to make new friends. I parted with my girlfriend nearly a year ago and am just now realising that the void she left in my life that I've been filling with alcohol is just getting very vast.

I know some of the people here have been telling you to wait, and they are right to tell you that. Rushing into trying to find a new girlfriend is a bad idea, it won't be the same and even if it's better, it will be difficult. However don't make the mistake of ignoring the fact that you are now single. Try to view this as an opportunity rather than an obligation, you're free and this means that you can do whatever you want.

My advice is the following: If you have a hard time meeting strangers, there are countless books and tutorials scattered about the internet that can help you with that. It's time to make new experiements, put yourself out there.

Good hunting

 

[krection]

I don't know.....be more proactiv? That's just my guess, I kind of see the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing as kind of stupid. Maybe it's because I'm a cynic or maybe it's becasue I generally don't like people.

 

[Risingblade]

Don't rush into anything too serious, go out with someone if you want to but don't go rushing into a another relationship you'll just end up setting yourself for disappointment.

 

[Lock-Os]

Best thing to do is not to look, it sounds daft but the right one will come to you.

Yes and no. I tried waiting for the better part of 5 years, and not a single soul was found. Granted, I live basically by myself on the outskirts of a small city filled with old people, so yeah... not like it's brimming with dates, or at least the part of the city where I live. College groups are okay, but ideally, look for groups outside of school, so that summer or winter breaks won't stop you from interacting.

Oh, and dating sites, so you'll run into people looking for a date.

However, I would get over the break up. I suffered the same thing, and she broke up on my birthday no less. Time will heal, so just go out and enjoy yourself at the moment.

 

[Bouncer]

Best thing to do is not to look, it sounds daft but the right one will come to you.

Yes and no. I tried waiting for the better part of 5 years, and not a single soul was found.

I agree, honestly if you're not looking you won't find. Although I guess it's different if you're dating men.

 

[idodo35]

I used to be a loner, and I didn't quite realise how much I grew to enjoy having someone to share everything with. And I worry I won't find someone to do so with again.

well its important that you remember that being alone might not be so bad it frees a lot of time and what not... so dont be in a rush just kick back do what you like and enjoy! no need to start runing around looking for a new girlfriend...