Relationships... online?
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Most of my relationships have developed from the internet, but I have never gone into one without meeting up first.
To add to my original post, and to explain my views a bit more.
I believe in e-buddies. You know, 'the guild' or 'the community' and that sort of thing. However, in a way these people are little more than conscious pixels. They 'cease' existing the moment you log off, and they're back 'alive' when you log in.
A real relation, both normal friendships as romantical ones, need that physical dimension. You need to see, hear and feel your friends, because interaction (which is at the center of it all) is so much more than just communication through language.
That's why I don't believe in distance-and-digital relationships, because you lack that physical dimension. Sure, you can call or chat, but that's absolutely no substitute.
That, and the internet is a treacherous place, full of liars.
I believe in e-buddies. You know, 'the guild' or 'the community' and that sort of thing. However, in a way these people are little more than conscious pixels. They 'cease' existing the moment you log off, and they're back 'alive' when you log in.
A real relation, both normal friendships as romantical ones, need that physical dimension. You need to see, hear and feel your friends, because interaction (which is at the center of it all) is so much more than just communication through language.
That's why I don't believe in distance-and-digital relationships, because you lack that physical dimension. Sure, you can call or chat, but that's absolutely no substitute.
That, and the internet is a treacherous place, full of liars.
Well I'm obviously not going to dispute your feelings because they're your own, I just have doubts in general. Do you have any prospect of meeting her or anything? I personally think the physical side of a relationship is important too. Does that not bother you?Spygon said:
I'm just curious, you don't have to go into it.
Heh. Point taken, but it is harder to be a liar in real life. Because, you know, the physical dimension. Lying through text is easy, lying when people can see, smell, hear, feel and touch you, it becomes infinitely more difficult.captainfluoxetine said:Muuuuuuuuuch differernt to real life thenSpinozaad said:
"Great Personality" is always attractive, But only having a "Great personality" and having a face like a badger thats been hit by a cricket bat?Silent Lycoris said:There is an increasing amount of people that find an attractive personality to be more important then Physical, so the above is a little old.Insanum said:
As for my input.
Have I been in one before? Yes.
Did it go very far? No, not really.
Do I regret it? If I had my time over again I would have done the same thing, so no I don't. =3
Some people cling to the hope that a "Good personality" is all that is needed to find their dream person. There is a name for these people: Ugly people.
And thus, The internet, Where your face can be disguised, And you only have an online conversation, where you sit and reflect before you post, giving people the illusion you're quick witted, is a breeding ground for people too socially inept to find any partner in real life.
I have, and it did not end well. She broke up with me without even really telling me why[I guess she thought I was lying when I said I didn't even know?], then she went out with my depressed friend who I introduced her to. She then broke up with him even faster than she broke up with me and made him even more convinced he would never find love. I'm still trying to help him recover from that one.
So no, it didn't end well. Although it was fun while it lasted.
And I texted her about an hour before I read this thread [coincidence] and she hasn't texted back even though she was the one who wanted to be friends if [when] we broke up. Tch... Figures. >_>
So no, it didn't end well. Although it was fun while it lasted.
And I texted her about an hour before I read this thread [coincidence] and she hasn't texted back even though she was the one who wanted to be friends if [when] we broke up. Tch... Figures. >_>
Not really. I've had a few people i've been interested in, and i've had a few people interested in me, but never a match between two that promised to go anywhere. With my real world living situation however (an atheist living in the middle of fundamentalist christian lands) with no way of escaping it in the present, I see little chance outside of the online domain, as sad as that seems.
Even so, I don't really like the idea. I deliberately cut my online persona off from my real one by never giving a name and other similar measures, even if my personality is roughly the same. Like others have said, I feel as if people online are either far too different from their real personalities - or they are just looking to use other people for their own needs - for me to want to deal with them.
I am not in this business because I take friendships and relationships very seriously.
Even so, I don't really like the idea. I deliberately cut my online persona off from my real one by never giving a name and other similar measures, even if my personality is roughly the same. Like others have said, I feel as if people online are either far too different from their real personalities - or they are just looking to use other people for their own needs - for me to want to deal with them.
I am not in this business because I take friendships and relationships very seriously.
Current girlfriend I met online (over at GameSpot). Of course we've moved onto bigger things since then, but we meet for the first time soon.
Again, semi old fashioned and semi-moot with the existence and common usage of webcams and mics (Perfect example, MSN supports both, go figure)Insanum said:"Great Personality" is always attractive, But only having a "Great personality" and having a face like a badger thats been hit by a cricket bat?Silent Lycoris said:There is an increasing amount of people that find an attractive personality to be more important then Physical, so the above is a little old.Insanum said:
As for my input.
Have I been in one before? Yes.
Did it go very far? No, not really.
Do I regret it? If I had my time over again I would have done the same thing, so no I don't. =3
Some people cling to the hope that a "Good personality" is all that is needed to find their dream person. There is a name for these people: Ugly people.
And thus, The internet, Where your face can be disguised, And you only have an online conversation, where you sit and reflect before you post, giving people the illusion you're quick witted, is a breeding ground for people too socially inept to find any partner in real life.
Even for an online relationship, it is quite possible to do so with minimal typing involved.
It is also a lot harder to 'fake it' when not only are you talking, but also looking them in the face.
What can I say? Some men smell fear. I smell liars.captainfluoxetine said:Christ alive, id hate to lie to you in person! Ave you grabbin at me and sniffin me D:Spinozaad said:Heh. Point taken, but it is harder to be a liar in real life. Because, you know, the physical dimension. Lying through text is easy, lying when people can see, smell, hear, feel and touch you, it becomes infinitely more difficult.captainfluoxetine said:Muuuuuuuuuch differernt to real life thenSpinozaad said:
"It wasnt assualy officer! I was wondering if he was lying!"
but yes, i knew what you ment
I did. Met her in a chat room for Avatar: The Last Airbender, and we eventually met and started dating. It lasted for a year and a half; it was a great relationship, even if the distance made things really tough sometimes. When it did end... well it wasn't directly related to the distance; it wouldn't have worked out even if we were closer, but perhaps we would have figured it out sooner. We had some fundamental differences in how we looked at and explored the world, and they ended up clashing violently. In the end, I wouldn't do long distance again unless I'm really sure the girl is a possible future wife.
Though once I got into a relationship with another girl at college, summer break started soon after. At least this is only temporary, but it still sucks.
Though once I got into a relationship with another girl at college, summer break started soon after. At least this is only temporary, but it still sucks.
It is tend[/I] to go for these kind of relationships are geeks, People who are shy, Socially inept, and/or Naive/desperate. Why do you think they're targets for nigerian tricksters (there was a news article about it on the BBC recently...It may have been on crimewatch).Silent Lycoris said:
If the two people meet in Real life, and then a relationship forms from there, then it's not an "Online Relationship", its a Relationship that has started online, But at least there is a physical connection there.
Well, I met my now-ex in real life, then we got to know each other, and started going out through the internet.
My sister however, met her boyfriend over the internet, he was a friend of a friend of a cousins aunt or something obscure like that, but they ended up going out for over a year!
My sister however, met her boyfriend over the internet, he was a friend of a friend of a cousins aunt or something obscure like that, but they ended up going out for over a year!