Respecting a parent's wishes, or; "Don't X in front of my child"

[Death God]

If I was watching someone else's child, I would respect their children except if they are completely denying them something that is both appropriate and something the child wants. For instance, if a parent told me that their child could not watch pokemon but could watch digimon, I would let the child watch pokemon if he/she wanted. But for the most part, I would respect their wishes because I wouldn't want them or someone else to disrespect mine.

 

[AdeptaSororitas]

If I was watching someone else's child, I would respect their children except if they are completely denying them something that is both appropriate and something the child wants. For instance, if a parent told me that their child could not watch pokemon but could watch digimon, I would let the child watch pokemon if he/she wanted. But for the most part, I would respect their wishes because I wouldn't want them or someone else to disrespect mine.

POKEMON! OH GOD NO! *child mutates into charazard*

But to be serious, I can understand why they might not want you too, Pokemon can be an expensive habit >.> Trust me. Still, it's a little odd.

 

[Foxbat Flyer]

... and bought me Canada

Wow, What an awesome Grandfather, How do you even buy Canada?

OT: Ill Do X infront of their kids even if they dont want me to... Someone has to corrupt them

 

[emeraldrafael]

I try to, but its really hard when a person asks me to babysit their child while Im babysitting a cousin.

Like, the one woman. She asked me to babysit while I was babysitting my cousin. they were both about 8. So the woman said no unhealthy snack foods, no violent games/shows/stories/media/etc, keep him insight (he was "fragile"). and of course I asked if he needed a bubble since she packed him a lunchbox of what he could eat if he got hungry/thirsty and got this death glare before she left.

needless to say, the kid was miserable because he had to sit in the corner while my cousin jumping off stairs and asking me to throw him back up them, eating cookies my aunt left for us, and watching alien and then predator.

Now when its in public, and the situation doesnt call for it, I just do it.

So like, my friedns and I were sitting and talking in a mall keeping relatively quiet as we talked, and one of us said damn. So this woman was eas dropping and said to us could not swear in the mall. so I looked and saw this eleven year old just sitting there and rose my voice enough so he could hear and just said "why sure damnit, we can stop using such shitty dickish language so your son can maintain a bullshit illusion that swear words dont exist you fucking ****".

Probably taught that kid 5 or 6 new words he never heard before.

 

[Death God]

If I was watching someone else's child, I would respect their children except if they are completely denying them something that is both appropriate and something the child wants. For instance, if a parent told me that their child could not watch pokemon but could watch digimon, I would let the child watch pokemon if he/she wanted. But for the most part, I would respect their wishes because I wouldn't want them or someone else to disrespect mine.

POKEMON! OH GOD NO! *child mutates into charazard*

But to be serious, I can understand why they might not want you too, Pokemon can be an expensive habit >.> Trust me. Still, it's a little odd.

It can be pretty expensive but I have seen someone do something similar to this once. They told me their kids could watch the Smurf but the Snorks were a horrible show to let kids watch. They are pretty much the same thing with the only difference being the Snorks are just underwater Smurfs with antennas.

 

[Liquid Paradox]

On the other hand, there is the opposite problem: The parent doesn't actually tell you what their child cannot do, and then gets all in your face when you don't follow their unspoken rule. "What do you mean you let him watch Sponge Bob?" "Well, ma'am, you said 1 hour of television was okay." "I didn't mean Sponge Bob, though! I can't believe you let any children watch that garbage!" << actually happened<< ... whatever. I'm only psychic for a few days a year, after the third Full moon, and you caught me in the middle of the lunar cycle.

I may or may not have read the TL;DR, and assumed it was about doing stuff in public, not something like babysitting. Unconfirmed rumours of course. On that, I'd respect the employers wishes in that situation. Though I'd be questioning my sanity if I did look after someone's children.[/quote]

Fair enough: at the time, I figured this thread was about babysitting, but since then I have seen several posts about public behaviors, in which case, I agree with you completely.

Hmm... perhaps I should include a TL;DR in my post?

 

[bluesession]

I guess it depends on the situation. I have a little cousin (two years old), if i have to take care of her I would probably obey all her parents rules but i would still spoil her a little.
I think is the relatives job to give a kid a little more freedom than it gets from its parents, just don't do it often.

As an example my cousin's mother insist that she doesn't want her daughter playing with princess stuff. But when I asked my little cousing how would she like her birthday cake she told me "I want to have two princesses"... so that doesn't give me much choice, Of course I'm going to make her the princesses she wants.

 

[emeraldrafael]

If I was watching someone else's child, I would respect their children except if they are completely denying them something that is both appropriate and something the child wants. For instance, if a parent told me that their child could not watch pokemon but could watch digimon, I would let the child watch pokemon if he/she wanted. But for the most part, I would respect their wishes because I wouldn't want them or someone else to disrespect mine.

POKEMON! OH GOD NO! *child mutates into charazard*

But to be serious, I can understand why they might not want you too, Pokemon can be an expensive habit >.> Trust me. Still, it's a little odd.

It can be pretty expensive but I have seen someone do something similar to this once. They told me their kids could watch the Smurf but the Snorks were a horrible show to let kids watch. They are pretty much the same thing with the only difference being the Snorks are just underwater Smurfs with antennas.

well there was a better gender ratio to the snorks and they came in more colours then blue.

yeah, someone once said to me that they wouldnt let their kids watch the smurfs but watch the snorks cause of those two reasons. I guess the snorks promote a less sexist and more skin colour accepting society.

 

[razer17]

If I were looking after a child, and they were in my responsibility (and what on earth have I done to deserve that?), I would do as the parents wish, unless it's something ridiculous, like "make sure to molest him whilst we're away!" (obviously I am being facetious here).

If, however, I am on the street and people ask me to change my behaviour they can go screw. For instance, a while back, there was a mother and child stood at some traffic lights, waiting for the green man so they could cross the road. I swore, saying "for fuck's sake", and the woman decided to have a go for swearing in front of her child. I calmly told her it's not my job to raise her kid, and if he starts swearing because he heard me say it then she clearly isn't doing her job very well. After that she moved down the road a bit and crossed, so clearly she was setting great examples herself.

Edit: It wasn't even just that she told me off, it was the way she did it. If she'd politely asked me to not say it, I'd have probably said okay, not that I would have sworn in the next 20 seconds before we went our separate ways anyway.

 

[Death God]

If I was watching someone else's child, I would respect their children except if they are completely denying them something that is both appropriate and something the child wants. For instance, if a parent told me that their child could not watch pokemon but could watch digimon, I would let the child watch pokemon if he/she wanted. But for the most part, I would respect their wishes because I wouldn't want them or someone else to disrespect mine.

POKEMON! OH GOD NO! *child mutates into charazard*

But to be serious, I can understand why they might not want you too, Pokemon can be an expensive habit >.> Trust me. Still, it's a little odd.

It can be pretty expensive but I have seen someone do something similar to this once. They told me their kids could watch the Smurf but the Snorks were a horrible show to let kids watch. They are pretty much the same thing with the only difference being the Snorks are just underwater Smurfs with antennas.

well there was a better gender ratio to the snorks and they came in more colours then blue.

yeah, someone once said to me that they wouldnt let their kids watch the smurfs but watch the snorks cause of those two reasons. I guess the snorks promote a less sexist and more skin colour accepting society.

Something like that I guess. Weird, but, hey. Who am I to judge? I still think that both show are a tad bit creepy.

 

[Dagda Mor]

Within reason.

 

[BRex21]

If a parent is giving you instructions for how to care for there child, you should respect it. My nephew has a pair of grandparents who force feed him cake, actually I'm not sure quite how my brother in law is alive but that's a different matter. If its a matter of, I dont want my child to see you kissing in this public place, they can screw themselves.

 

[Mylinkay Asdara]

Hello my fellow Escapees, I'm here to ask a rather simple question of you, but one that's extremely close to home currently.

Should you, and do you, respect other's wishes of what they want their children exposed to? Be it television, sugary food, swearing, violence, video games or the internet?

I say it's close to home currently because I realized just how much my grandmother let me do that my parent's didn't want her too. And just how frustrated I'd be if my parents did that to my children (if I have any). My parents didn't want me to have soda or watch too much television, where as my grandmother pretty much raised me on Pepsi and Little Bear. It stuck out in my mind because when I was a kid I would bug the HELL out of my folks for Pepsi and tv, neither of which my parent's could afford with any ease.

TL;DR: If you were caring for a person's child, would you go against their wishes if they didn't want their kids exposed to something? How would you feel if someone did that to you?

Depends entirely on the nature of the request. No candy, TV, whatever is not a problem for me (respect to the parent's philosophy of child rearing), unless it's part of a pattern of abusive depravation. For instance, when I was a young babysitter for my neighbor in my apartment I let their son stay up past bed-time, eat junk food I would bring, watch movies, play games, and all the things he was not allowed simply because he was being abused (beaten, told he was fat constantly, made to run excessively in public with ranting supervision) and I was a kid and that was what I could do for him to help. So screw his parent's wishes, they were unfit human beings.

I do think grandparents enjoy a special dispensation of the rules (being that the children in question are their children's children) in a positive way. Again, unless they are completely unfit and unsafe. (some are)

As for just generally in public, I want to be asked politely and then I am 99% likely to comply. But I am being asked for a favor to that stranger so the polite part is really key.

 

[Tselis]

Do unto others as you would like others to do unto you.

You sir, you are correct.

 

[infinity_turtles]

Depends? Watching someone else's kid isn't something I'd volunteer for, but if they want me to I'm not going to make massive changes to how I act for them. But aside from my step-sister, having me watch your kid is probably a horrible idea. Because when kids ask me questions, I answer them in detail.

 

[OptimisticPessimist]

Nope. Why should I inconvenience myself because you decided to squirt out a seedling? Keep you screaming, shitting bags of flesh and broken dreams away from me, and I'll keep on saying and doing as I please because I'm a responsible human being with control over my base urges. Wear a condom, folks.

 

[rekabdarb]

GOD DAMNIT PIECE OF SHIT MOTHER FUCKING ASS OGRE CUM GUZZLING COCK GOBLIN.

I had this long piece about how a kid is being held back by video games that his dad puts him in front of but my computer decided it wanted to ctrl a delete it...

but lets type it up again.

Usually yes i will listen to the parents when it comes to raising their child HOWEVER:

My best friend's nephew is someone who i will straight up ignore the dad (even though i haven't met him... i've experienced the kid enough). The dad is scum, considering (I think) he keeps pr0n on his xbox that the kid obviously plays (look to the next paragraph). It's the "dad's folder [name] can't use" folder

This kid (who i believe is 9) stays up to 11pm (or later if allowed) plays L4D2, halo, gears of war, and any other mindless shooter game (l4d still awesome regardless). He's one of those kids on XBL screaming into your ear. When i was playing cards with my best friend and his gf, this little brat gave up 5 whole seconds of his day to sit down, then stand up and explain how the game we were playing was retarded. After we attempted to calm him he said that cards are gay. I would like to point out that 2 of his great aunts have down syndrome and are in the other room.

Then every monday he comes to visit my best friend and his parents so of course the topic of school comes up when talking to him. His reply will either be "I didn't learn anything" or "I got beat up again at school. I'll have to get him back (or something like that)"

Now I wouldn't be angry at all of this if he didn't suck at video games... but he does. He is god awful. And when he attempts to be cunning and scheming, all he says is "i bet you can't do [this thing i can't do so i'm gonna make you do it]"

The mom is SMOKING HOT, in order to say how hot this woman is i'd have to say that i wouldn't let her leave the bed for an entire day. But I am sad to say that her kid is pretty... special ed. And i mean that in the sense that he's probably gonna be in those classes in 5 years

 

[rekabdarb]

Gonna double post but oh wellz

If, however, I am on the street and people ask me to change my behaviour they can go screw. For instance, a while back, there was a mother and child stood at some traffic lights, waiting for the green man so they could cross the road. I swore, saying "for fuck's sake", and the woman decided to have a go for swearing in front of her child. I calmly told her it's not my job to raise her kid, and if he starts swearing because he heard me say it then she clearly isn't doing her job very well. After that she moved down the road a bit and crossed, so clearly she was setting great examples herself.

Edit: It wasn't even just that she told me off, it was the way she did it. If she'd politely asked me to not say it, I'd have probably said okay, not that I would have sworn in the next 20 seconds before we went our separate ways anyway.

Woulda been like, as she was leaving, FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK SHIT ASS TITTY SLAPPING CUM GUZZLING COCK GOBLIN

 

[TonyVonTonyus]

occasionally. I respect their wishes when it doesn't affect my life extremely or their wishes are intelligent. If they aren't then they get a big "fuck you" in both disregarding their request and verbal form.

 

[Something Amyss]

I try not to X in public, but I'm only human.