EDIT: Dumb thirteen year old me wrote dumb thirteen year old stuff on the internet. So it goes.
Some of this stuff is just cringeworthy.
Some of this stuff is just cringeworthy.
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Okay, first things first.
You said you were 13, right?
so this might be your first real crush, right?
There are three ways "out" of this:
You can ignore it as a lost cause, which most people do, and it will be sightly painful for some time.
You can try to advance, and succeed, which will be awesome.
You can try to advance, and fail horribly, which will hurt like hell.
How you advance I can't help you with, cause I don't know either of you, but you can hit up some "How to flirt" which might prove useful. My tips is: get physical. Touch his hands whenever you get the chance, and not in a "buddy" kind of way.
And bout the different friends-group, that doesn't matter, most people don't think it's for some reason that people change groups, try approaching some of the other people in the group, make it natural.
But the most important thing: No matter what you do, you're young, you can afford to gamble, and it will most likely not have anything to say a few years from now. Just live life as you want it to be.
And about it being "just a crush". It is always "just a crush", it's what you make it that's important.
You said you were 13, right?
so this might be your first real crush, right?
There are three ways "out" of this:
You can ignore it as a lost cause, which most people do, and it will be sightly painful for some time.
You can try to advance, and succeed, which will be awesome.
You can try to advance, and fail horribly, which will hurt like hell.
How you advance I can't help you with, cause I don't know either of you, but you can hit up some "How to flirt" which might prove useful. My tips is: get physical. Touch his hands whenever you get the chance, and not in a "buddy" kind of way.
And bout the different friends-group, that doesn't matter, most people don't think it's for some reason that people change groups, try approaching some of the other people in the group, make it natural.
But the most important thing: No matter what you do, you're young, you can afford to gamble, and it will most likely not have anything to say a few years from now. Just live life as you want it to be.
And about it being "just a crush". It is always "just a crush", it's what you make it that's important.
There's nothing wrong with approaching him and asking him out if you think it's worth it! You talk occasionally and that can be enough.
The only barrier I can detect is your age. He's 13/14 too, right? He might not be ready for a relationship yet. I'd therefore like to stress that, if you do ask him out and he says no, try not to take it personally. I know teenagers are growing up more quickly nowadays (I didn't think about boys 'til I was 16), but that doesn't mean every 13 year old will feel ready to date.
If he does say no, try and be positive and focus instead on your main friendship group. Give him some space, then work on developing your friendship with him. You never know, you might start dating when you hit 15/16! which is a better age for a relationship (though still very young).
I am, however, assuming that you want to ask him out. If you don't, continue to develop a good friendship. I know it's difficult branching out as people get set in their groups, but just because it is that way doesn't mean it should be that way. If anyone criticises you for seeking friends outside your main group, don't pay attention to them. They'll learn, and one day they'll seek a variety of friends. It's the best way to live.
The only barrier I can detect is your age. He's 13/14 too, right? He might not be ready for a relationship yet. I'd therefore like to stress that, if you do ask him out and he says no, try not to take it personally. I know teenagers are growing up more quickly nowadays (I didn't think about boys 'til I was 16), but that doesn't mean every 13 year old will feel ready to date.
If he does say no, try and be positive and focus instead on your main friendship group. Give him some space, then work on developing your friendship with him. You never know, you might start dating when you hit 15/16! which is a better age for a relationship (though still very young).
I am, however, assuming that you want to ask him out. If you don't, continue to develop a good friendship. I know it's difficult branching out as people get set in their groups, but just because it is that way doesn't mean it should be that way. If anyone criticises you for seeking friends outside your main group, don't pay attention to them. They'll learn, and one day they'll seek a variety of friends. It's the best way to live.
I was in a similar situation not long ago (i'm sixteen now, but i'm male so it's slightly different) basically I liked a girl who was in a completely different friendship group but I had talked to her a bit and we had got on really well. Now one thing is to remember that a lot of guys can be really, really shy (I sure as hell was), so it's definitely worth you making the first move and really making an effort to talk to him especially seeing as you share common interests! In my situation my crush walked up to me and began talking to me about video games, to my suprise and delight, you doing a similar thing could prompt him to talk to you more. Quite honestly if he starts suspecting that you like him it's not an entirely bad thing, if you share lots of common interests and seem to get on well together there's a strong possibility that he might have a crush on you as well!
tl;dr - Try to talk to him a lot more, you've got nothing to lose!
tl;dr - Try to talk to him a lot more, you've got nothing to lose!
A lot of guys your age are incredibly shy, really taking the initiative on this one might go a long way, heck I'd still be happy if a girl was just upfront about her feelings with me.
don't obsess over him though as no good will come of it, first crushes are big deals (especially for women.... sorry) but this is a point in your life where your body and brain are starting to mature the feelings can seem overwhelming. Remember that for the next few years your brain is basically on drugs with all the excess hormones you have from puberty, he may seem like the perfect guy but from the sounds of it you barely know him.
the obvious step is just to talk to him about how you're feeling or to invite him out with some of your friends. If you make the first step chances are it'll relieve stress from him if he wanted to make the first move but didn't know how.
I know a lot of importance is placed on actually "asking out" someone in high school but if you aren't comfortable with being so upfront with your feelings just hanging out with the person can be a good alternative. try to invite him to an activity that both of you enjoy, one that allows you to talk and get to know each other better (movies are bad for this, save a movie date until you know each other a little better)
I promise that even if you talk to him and he turns you down it'll suck a lot less than if you never say anything and regret it for the rest of the year.
don't obsess over him though as no good will come of it, first crushes are big deals (especially for women.... sorry) but this is a point in your life where your body and brain are starting to mature the feelings can seem overwhelming. Remember that for the next few years your brain is basically on drugs with all the excess hormones you have from puberty, he may seem like the perfect guy but from the sounds of it you barely know him.
the obvious step is just to talk to him about how you're feeling or to invite him out with some of your friends. If you make the first step chances are it'll relieve stress from him if he wanted to make the first move but didn't know how.
I know a lot of importance is placed on actually "asking out" someone in high school but if you aren't comfortable with being so upfront with your feelings just hanging out with the person can be a good alternative. try to invite him to an activity that both of you enjoy, one that allows you to talk and get to know each other better (movies are bad for this, save a movie date until you know each other a little better)
I promise that even if you talk to him and he turns you down it'll suck a lot less than if you never say anything and regret it for the rest of the year.
Jeez, I feel too old for this...TheAztec said:
OT: Who says you have to be a certain level of "friend" to ask him out? People ask others out randomly all the time.
What's the worst that could happen? He says no. It may seem like a big deal at 13, but we all go through crappy experiences... best to just get through them and learn from it.
Besides... girls don't normally ask guys out, so he'd be catching a break if he's actually interested. Plus, a girl into video games is a prized possession... he'd be retarded to pass it up.
I'm sure none of us mind! The person who helped create this place (Aylaine, who sadly no longer comes here) wanted each and every woe to be treated equally if I remember correctly, and I at least uphold that principle ^_^TheAztec said:
Everyone goes through this... I remember having my first crush, I think I was 13 as well at the time? (20 now and at university... I feel old...) I personally didn't do anything about it (in similar fashion, we were in completely different friend groups), and looking back I don't have the foggiest idea why I had a crush on her in the first place.
That doesn't mean thats what you should do about it though; just because you're not associated with his friends doesn't mean you can't strike up a conversation
Besides, what if he starts suspecting you have a crush on him? If you want to go out with him, surely thats a good thing? :3My advice would be to go for it! A little bit of courage is very important in life, and if he declines you, then at least you can try and learn from the experience; you're still youthful, and you have your whole life ahead of you! Its a good idea to get used to taking the initiative while you're young, since its a great attribute to have when you're older
If you have further questions or doubts (we all have them
), feel free to PM me, I'll be happy to help out as much as I can :3
Speak to him as much as you can and go for it. If everything goes well then that's great, if not then it's a very handy early piece of experience.
Of course you should talk to him more often! What does it matter if he starts to suspect? Surely that's a good thing? If he knows that you're interested he might start to consider it. Sure, rejection hurts but what if he likes you back?
In my opinion it's worth a shot. Try sitting with him at lunch, mention that you haven't talked to him in a while and wanted to catch up if he seems confused. Smile a lot, bring up subjects that you know you have in common etc. Good luck!
In my opinion it's worth a shot. Try sitting with him at lunch, mention that you haven't talked to him in a while and wanted to catch up if he seems confused. Smile a lot, bring up subjects that you know you have in common etc. Good luck!
I would suggest you just keep making an effort to talk to him and hang out. If you can't wait, just ask him out. I'm going to assume y'all are around the same age.TheAztec said:
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Just go and talk to him eventually and make friends with him it worked for me with the only girlfriend I've had, but you know I suck so much at these things that I've only had 1 gf and she actually asked me out instead of the traditional way so I wouldn't take my advice too seriously except since you're a girl it might work better.
