Seeking advice on getting feelings under control.

[Wayte]

Ok, so the basic problem is that I tried to date my best friend, shit went downhill, and now she has a boyfriend who I hate. But I don't want to hate him. In hindsight of her apparent priorities in love I don't want to love her as anything more than a friend. But it seems that what ever decision me and my brain come up with, my heart misses the memo and keeps aching.
I'm not even really depressed about it anymore. Now it's just ridiculous. I feel the usual mood swing and now I'm just like "Ok, seriously, get with the program feelings." Is there something I can do to maybe yank the leash on my emotions? Or am I pretty much just stuck toughing it out until they fade off?

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

Become a Tranquil Mage.

Or failing that. Prescription meds. FROM A DOCTOR.

 

[lvl9000_woot]

Stay away from her and her bf. The more you see of either of them will make it worse. You need time to heal. I've broke up with my girl (who was a hot asian) about 3 months ago. Don't talk or see her for a month. Hang out with your other friends and do other things. You'll get better after awhile.

 

[Wuvlycuddles]

Best way to get over someone is to under someone else

Seriously though, in that kinda situation the only option is to just try get over it with someone else, chances are that relationship won't work out but when its over you'll have moved on!

 

[ryai458]

stop caring? that helps everything, try it, it helps.

 

[Phase_9]

Or alternatively, you could try playing "Ice, Ice, Baby" under her windowsill with a boombox.

Or, spitballing here, you could date her best frie..., wait, that would be creepy.

JK, in reality, I've had this problem before. Stay away from them, indulge in some sappy love songs about broken hearts, take two hot blondes and call me in a week if it still isn't better.

Hang in there kid.

 

[Wayte]

stop caring? that helps everything, try it, it helps.

That's the thing, as far as any conscious decision goes I don't. I think she's shallow, and really her BF is pretty cool. Its just these random moods, they don't even bum me out anymore, it's just like "Ya ya get it over with."

 

[Actual]

Ask to watch her take a dump. Will cure you of any attraction.

True story.

 

[Frankydee]

Adding on to some of the more helpful suggestions, just keep yourself busy.

It's what I usually do when I'm pissed or upset about something. It helps to keep your mind off of it and eventually you'll either forget about it altogether or stop caring.

 

[ma55ter_fett]

get more sleep

or the old standby eat ice cream.

 

[Wayte]

Ask to watch her take a dump. Will cure you of any attraction.

True story.

That's funny for reasons I can't tell you about.

And to the guy who mentioned two blondes, I am tryin to get a chick right now, gettin a date set up hopefully for monday. I figured havin somebody else with bigger tits will help.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

Maybe you need to go out and make new friends. And when time has passed come back, and see how things are doing. If she hates the guy too you can get another chance

 

[pantsoffdanceoff]

That happened to me except the new BF cheated on her, and then she tried to get back with me but I was too busy dating another girl to listen to her.
My advise, just wait and hopefully shit will happen between them so you can giggle.

 

[iggyus]

Become a Tranquil Mage.

Or failing that. Prescription meds. FROM A DOCTOR.

Someone has been playing Dragon Age too much

 

[Highlordawesome]

Kill him.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

How old are you?

Seriously, this is what they call being a teenager, you'll grow out of it.

I know I sound like I'm being patronising (Dear lord, I promised myself I would never give this little speech) but I'm not. Being a teenager is hard, and emotions run away with you. Ride it out, you'll feel better when you get older.

 

[Onyx Oblivion]

Become a Tranquil Mage.

Or failing that. Prescription meds. FROM A DOCTOR.

Someone has been playing Dragon Age too much

Don't get me started. I've played it for 60 hours. And still haven't none more than one "mission" after Lothering due to constant rerolling due to a crappy character build choice.

I'm done Lothering over 5 times.

 

[Dreyfuss]

Continue loving her, continue hating him, just learn how to detach yourself from your emotions WITHOUT killing them (the emotions, not the couple lol).

Learn to say, "Okay emotions, I hear you, but I'm afraid your idea simply isn't our best interest, so I'll let brain handle this one." That's not to say emotions never do you any good. Sometimes you need to do the opposite and ignore your brain in favor of your emotions, like if the logical decision would cause you a lot of emotional anguish, or the risky move would make you very happy if it worked out (placing emotions above logic is the process involved in asking a girl out in the first place, since logic will always try and think of an excuse to avoid the risk of rejection and justify single status). You're just going to have to decide which path is best in the long run.

Unfortunately emotions CANNOT be self-altered, all you can do control how much they affect your decision-making process until you get over your troubles naturally. There's no "quick fix."

 

[Asturiel]

Ive been in a very simmilar situation to you and the best advice I can give you is to listen to some sappy songs (as was suggested) get another girl (suggested and done) and finally break shit in a forest for a while. Nothing relieves tension from a bad relationship like breaking alot of small trees.

Ultimatly dont let your emotions bottle up is all im saying, if you dont let them out in a constructive (or deconstructive) way then youll end up a mess.

 

[Zetsubou]

Yes, you can call the WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMBULANCE!

Or maybe he could overder a WHAMburger with a side of french cries.

New girlfriend maybe? There are a lot of fish in the sea, it's always darkest before dawn, if it's not ment to be, it's not ment to be.