Self-harm

[AnkaraTheFallen]

You win this time, Mr. Bond...

Lol, sorry, I couldn't help but make that joke XD
Lol, she's hopeless XD lol

Yes, yes she is...

Sun should be coming up soon down under. Perhaps snowy will be on again soon.

Lol, well I might be going off soon, almost night here.

 

[opp1123]

I sympathize with your situation and the difficulty of trying to stop. It was difficult for me to stop the first time I started doing it. I know it will be difficult to stop again. It is incredibly difficult to find something that makes you happy. For me what makes me happy is helping people and making coffee (the smell in general).

To be able to quit you have to want to quit. It can't just be the motivation of your significant other, however having someone there to celebrate your success and help you when you mess up is incredibly beneficial. When I get the temptation to cut I either sleep or focus all my energy on not doing it. It doesn't always work but when it does there is a reason to celebrate.

The best thing that you can do right now is find a psychologist or therapist that you can talk to. Once you find a therapist that you can work with it takes time to open up about this bit. There is a workbook that I found which I am going to start working through soon
self-help book [http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1572246022]. The reason I do it is because I am alone and scared, feeling like I have no one to turn to. When I am fine I know that I can turn to my bf [ddrfr33k] for help but I never want to make people worry about me. Just remember that there are people out there who can help you and that even though some days can seem like there is no hope for something better there is always a silver lining, you just have to find it.

A few things that you can try doing:
1) find an artistic release
2) exercise when you feel like doing it
3) find a code word to tell your 'helper' when something is up
4) seek help

 

[Snowy Rainbow]

I sympathize with your situation and the difficulty of trying to stop. It was difficult for me to stop the first time I started doing it. I know it will be difficult to stop again. It is incredibly difficult to find something that makes you happy. For me what makes me happy is helping people and making coffee (the smell in general).

To be able to quit you have to want to quit. It can't just be the motivation of your significant other, however having someone there to celebrate your success and help you when you mess up is incredibly beneficial. When I get the temptation to cut I either sleep or focus all my energy on not doing it. It doesn't always work but when it does there is a reason to celebrate.

The best thing that you can do right now is find a psychologist or therapist that you can talk to. Once you find a therapist that you can work with it takes time to open up about this bit. There is a workbook that I found which I am going to start working through soon
self-help book [http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1572246022]. The reason I do it is because I am alone and scared, feeling like I have no one to turn to. When I am fine I know that I can turn to my bf [ddrfr33k] for help but I never want to make people worry about me. Just remember that there are people out there who can help you and that even though some days can seem like there is no hope for something better there is always a silver lining, you just have to find it.

A few things that you can try doing:
1) find an artistic release
2) exercise when you feel like doing it
3) find a code word to tell your 'helper' when something is up
4) seek help

Unfortunately I don't have anyone who can help me. I am on my own. I've no friends left and I've seen a few shrinks for several years to no avail.

I think I'm just broken beyond repair.

 

[ddrfr33k]

Unfortunately I don't have anyone who can help me. I am on my own. I've no friends left and I've seen a few shrinks for several years to no avail.

I think I'm just broken beyond repair.

Don't make me slap you upside the head with a live tuna! In all seriousness though, you're not alone. Opp thought she was in the same boat. You could say I gave her the surprise of her life. ^_^ Whatever happens, don't resign yourself to failure. I'm sure there's a guy like me down under looking for you, too. I'd offer, but I'm fiercely monogamous and Opp wouldn't have it any other way, anyways.

 

[Snowy Rainbow]

Unfortunately I don't have anyone who can help me. I am on my own. I've no friends left and I've seen a few shrinks for several years to no avail.

I think I'm just broken beyond repair.

Don't make me slap you upside the head with a live tuna! In all seriousness though, you're not alone. Opp thought she was in the same boat. You could say I gave her the surprise of her life. ^_^ Whatever happens, don't resign yourself to failure. I'm sure there's a guy like me down under looking for you, too. I'd offer, but I'm fiercely monogamous and Opp wouldn't have it any other way, anyways.

Well, I honestly have no friends left. After the last suicide attempt saw me spend a little over a month in hospital, I never really "lived" again. The only people that have even known I'm alive over the past few years has been my parents, by virtue of me living with them. All my friends sort of moved on and grew up. I got left behind.

 

[ddrfr33k]

Well, I honestly have no friends left. After the last suicide attempt saw me spend a little over a month in hospital, I never really "lived" again. The only people that have even known I'm alive over the past few years has been my parents, by virtue of me living with them. All my friends sort of moved on and grew up. I got left behind.

That means you get to go out and meet new friends! ^_^ It will work, that's actually how Opp and I met. Anime convention near our house. We both follow this one web comic, and she was wearing a hoodie designed by the artist. It can happen. Now go out there and meet new people. That's an order, not a request.

 

[opp1123]

Unfortunately I don't have anyone who can help me. I am on my own. I've no friends left and I've seen a few shrinks for several years to no avail.

I think I'm just broken beyond repair.

I know exactly how you feel about being alone and going through the shrinks to try to 'fix' the problem. I know what it feels like to be left behind. No one is beyond the point of healing. There is hope and it will come when you least expect it. If need be I can give you my skype, aim, or msn messenger name and we can chat (if I'm online) when you're having any problems. I can help you as much as is possible.

 

[Snowy Rainbow]

Well, I honestly have no friends left. After the last suicide attempt saw me spend a little over a month in hospital, I never really "lived" again. The only people that have even known I'm alive over the past few years has been my parents, by virtue of me living with them. All my friends sort of moved on and grew up. I got left behind.

That means you get to go out and meet new friends! ^_^ It will work, that's actually how Opp and I met. Anime convention near our house. We both follow this one web comic, and she was wearing a hoodie designed by the artist. It can happen. Now go out there and meet new people. That's an order, not a request.

I'd really rather not. My anxiety keeps me more or less housebound.

Unfortunately I don't have anyone who can help me. I am on my own. I've no friends left and I've seen a few shrinks for several years to no avail.

I think I'm just broken beyond repair.

I know exactly how you feel about being alone and going through the shrinks to try to 'fix' the problem. I know what it feels like to be left behind. No one is beyond the point of healing. There is hope and it will come when you least expect it. If need be I can give you my skype, aim, or msn messenger name and we can chat (if I'm online) when you're having any problems. I can help you as much as is possible.

That's a very generous offer, thank you, but not something I'd feel comfortable doing. Spilling my beans isn't an issue or anything, but I'd feel weird about wasting someone's time - even if they want to help.

 

[opp1123]

You wouldn't be wasting my time and a recommendation for the anxiety is to take baby steps. I have also struggled with anxiety but a combination of working, supportive people, and a change of environment has helped me regain much of the confidence that I lost.

If you ever feel comfortable enough to chat over messenger I am here, but it is completely up to you.

 

[ddrfr33k]

That's a very generous offer, thank you, but not something I'd feel comfortable doing. Spilling my beans isn't an issue or anything, but I'd feel weird about wasting someone's time - even if they want to help.

Opp said the exact same thing to me when I asked her about it. It didn't work

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

As both of them have said, you need to get out and meet people, yes it will be hard, but when you manage it you'll feel far better for it.

And me and my gf are also here if you ever want to talk or vent your feelings.

 

[icmonkeys3000]

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Thank you very much for your advice to Snowey Rainbow =P i would thank everyone who posted in this thread if i knew how but its kinda complex =S anyway, your advice helped me and i wanted to let you know that it did some good =)

 

[opp1123]

Thank you very much for your advice to Snowey Rainbow =P i would thank everyone who posted in this thread if i knew how but its kinda complex =S anyway, your advice helped me and i wanted to let you know that it did some good =)

I am glad that I could be of some help

If you need anymore advice or help feel free to send me a private message.

 

[Snowy Rainbow]

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Thank you very much for your advice to Snowey Rainbow =P i would thank everyone who posted in this thread if i knew how but its kinda complex =S anyway, your advice helped me and i wanted to let you know that it did some good =)

No need to thank me. I'm awesome like that.

 

[ddrfr33k]

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Thank you very much for your advice to Snowey Rainbow =P i would thank everyone who posted in this thread if i knew how but its kinda complex =S anyway, your advice helped me and i wanted to let you know that it did some good =)

Glad I could help. ^_^