Sex! Sex! Sex! Please! Can I have your STI identification card first.

[Emanuele Ciriachi]

People love freedom, and that's good.
What a bit too many people seem to have a problem with, is that freedom comes with a thing called "personal responsibility".

 

[2xDouble]

But, but... I don't work for STI [http://www.sti.com/]... any of them [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/STI]. Does that mean I can't have sex in the UK?

Oppression! I demand my reproductive rights! I will not be denied because of my occupation!

EDIT: Seriously, five pages and nobody thought of a joke like that?

 

[ninjaRiv]

There's a carpet shop in a town nearby called "STD carpets." I thought everyone should know that.

Hooooly crap! Do you... do you live in the UK? Perhaps in or around the greater Dudley metropolitan area? Because, well, I live in a town just over from STD carpets and it's been cracking me up for years. Every time I drive past it. I've never seen another one, and google suggests it is indeed the only one. So...

Holy cow... We're neighbours, buddy! Yeah, every time I pass it I can't help but let out a giggle... Weirdest thing is, none of my friends or family seem to notice this place...

 

[thewatergamer]

Never slept with anyone before, partly because of moral choice reasons and partly because I don't have to looks to attract anyone anyway, but If I ever did have sex I would use protection no matter how much I trust the person, because even they might not know what they have until its too late, Most of the time people that get an STD didn't use protection or didn't care,

But really and STD Card? Who would even carry that thing around? Also that would be a huge breach of privacy

 

[Dragonbums]

Personally, if I were to have sex with a person, the first thing I would ask them to do was to go to the doctor and check for STD's.( I will also do the same because you know- he might now trust me either.)

Having people carry a card though? No.

It's pretty counter intuitive. Unless this card automatically updates STD( or lack thereof) info, than it would be completely useless. As far as you know, the person in question was clean the hour they took testing. Had sex, and then contracted an STD. And what's stopping them from going around spreading that STD with a card that says he/she is clean?

It's morally sound in theory, but it just wouldn't work in practice.
For this system to work you either have to heavily monitor a person's sex life, or you have to completely rely on the fact that the people in question will be honest to their partners. And let's be honest, there are quite a few people- when in the heat of the moment will definitely not remember or kill the mood by asking if their partner(s) are cleared of any sexual diseases.

 

[Dragonbums]

If the carrier has sex with an unkowing person and infects them, that person should be allowed to press charges.
The carrier should be obligated to notify people that they intent to have sex with of their condition beforehand.

Doing otherwise is akin to a form of assault, poisoning, and with the more serious diseases: attempted murder all in an attempt to gain personal satisfaction.

I'm pretty sure there is a law in place exactly like that.

I don't know if it's with common STD's though...but I do remember in sex ed class that if you have HIV/AIDS and you knowingly continued to have sex with unwitting partners, and they find out you can be charged with murder (since HIV/AIDS patients die eventually.)

 

[Dragonbums]

Dumbest thing ever. Can you imagine smooth-talking a girl for a night and right before you bang her she is obligated by law to show you that she has herpes?

No way would any rational human ever be in favor of this.

The heck are you talking about?

I would be the happiest person alive if something like that happened.

It is infinitely times better to go home with an unsatisfied sexual lust (that nothing but your good old hand could fix), than it is to wake up a couple days later with blasted herpes.

The only rational people who wouldn't be in favor of an outcome like that are lust crazed idiots that could care less if they became a walking hive of STD's.

 

[bobhome2]

A card would be implausible, since no one could be bothered to get one. People are always "too busy" for that kind of thing.

I am of the opinion, however, that one should be aware of their own health, and that would include any STD/STI. It's just common sense. It should also be a topic of discussion before sex, although avoiding sex due to illness would be low of most peoples' lists.

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

Alternatively people could wear condoms when having sex with people they don't know.

That might also work.

If you have an STD you're only responsible for either wearing or making sure he's wearing a condom.

And since that is your responsibility in ANY case any further measures will be irrelevant.

No, condoms are not a 100% but there's the risk of pregnancy in any case, if you're willing to take a risk on that then you don't get to complain about STD's.

Should women be forced to inform men if they don't find abortion morally agreeable? Should we have a card for that?

Don't be ridiculous.

 

[Sofus]

Maybe people should just stop having sex with so many random people?

I wonder, do you also think that people should have a copy of their criminal record so that you can be assured that you aren't sleeping with a violent criminal who could potentially kill you during the act.

If you want to avoide getting some disease then perhaps you should only have sex with people once you know they don't have any STDs.

 

[tstorm823]

Have you ever actually attended an abstinence only sex ed class? Or are you basing this on your idea of what "abstinence only" means? Because telling kids to abstain without all of the context is exactly what abstinence only sex ed is.

That's what I'm trying to say here. Abstinence only education programs are deeply flawed, but not because of the line about condoms being permeable. In practicality, that line may as well be true; it isn't needlessly scaring anyone more than "use a condom with a stranger, there's still like a 10% change you get herpes from it" should, and that's not a lie. Why are you focused on lies when it isn't the lies that are problematic?

 

[tstorm823]

Hell, if it looks iffy, use two and half a roll of duc-tape.

You do know that the "use two" method acually has such a rate of ripping both as to be less effective than using one, right?

Kids, don't use two condoms. Don't use a condom with oil-based lube that will eat through it. Use as directed.

 

[ShipofFools]

Some deeply disturbing comments here, man.
Why do some people go so crazy when talking about one night stands?

Personally, I believe they are just jealous and sad, but that's my believe.

Just use a condom kids, that is the big secret. All this other mumbo jumbo is just crazy talk.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

There's a carpet shop in a town nearby called "STD carpets." I thought everyone should know that.

Hooooly crap! Do you... do you live in the UK? Perhaps in or around the greater Dudley metropolitan area? Because, well, I live in a town just over from STD carpets and it's been cracking me up for years. Every time I drive past it. I've never seen another one, and google suggests it is indeed the only one. So...

Off Topic: So. Am I the only one calling bullshit on all of this apparent sex people in this thread are having? We're on a fucking gaming website. And yet pretty much everyone posting here "Totally has a ton of sex all the time. With many, many different people."

You don't seriously subscribe to the virginal nerd stereotype, do you? It is entirely possible for people to be eager fans of video games and sci-fi and all that associated junk and still be normal, socially functioning people who get reasonable amounts of sex. Often (and isn't this unlikely) with partners who share those interests because, you know, having common ground like that is a great way to get on well enough with someone that you reach a mutual agreement to remove the awkward social barrier of clothing.

Not to mention that it stands to reason the members of the Escapist community who do have a diverse experience of sex are going to be drawn to a thread whose title is 'Sex Sex Sex...' It does rather imply the topic is something they can add their insights too. Whereas the more socially shut in/abstinent Escapists who perhaps fit your view of the site better may feel they have nothing to add to such a topic, and therefore not post.

Captcha: drink milk. Uhhh, ookaay captcha. Whatever you're in to...

hell yeah! anime chicks especially.O.O they dont give a FUCK! lmao in my experience anyway your mileage may vary....

captcha in the rye

To be fair, it seemed like about half the site was explicitly "asexual" at one point. Of course most of the rest of us thought most of the rest of them were just socially awkward teenagers who had gone so long without a date that they had convinced themselves they were uninterested and given up...

 

[Pandaman1911]

Smoking causes cancer, safe sex doesn't cause STDs.

But if that's the case, doesn't the fact that condoms are only 99% effective mean that there truly is no such thing as safe sex? If, no matter what you do, you're at risk for catching some form of STI (save for, I don't know, mutual masturbation or something, dunno if you consider that sex or not), then no form of activity can really be called safe, can it?

 

[Vegosiux]

Personally, I believe they are just jealous and sad, but that's my believe.

Funny, I think that people who go "Have I mentioned that I get laid a lot?" or equivalent every time the discussion turns to sex are actually getting laid a whole lot less than they would like me to believe they are, and are in fact quite insecure about their own sexuality.

But indeed, protection is a good idea.

 

[ShipofFools]

Smoking causes cancer, safe sex doesn't cause STDs.

But if that's the case, doesn't the fact that condoms are only 99% effective mean that there truly is no such thing as safe sex? If, no matter what you do, you're at risk for catching some form of STI (save for, I don't know, mutual masturbation or something, dunno if you consider that sex or not), then no form of activity can really be called safe, can it?

Yeah, if you go by that logic then I agree, not a single activity in your life can be considered safe.
"Don't step into that aeroplane, it might crash! Don't go to the shower, you might slip and crack your skull! Don't go outside, you might die! Don't stay in your house, you might die!"

That's no way to live

Funny, I think that people who go "Have I mentioned that I get laid a lot?" or equivalent every time the discussion turns to sex are actually getting laid a whole lot less than they would like me to believe they are, and are in fact quite insecure about their own sexuality.

Yeah, I agree with that. Both seem opposing, but I believe it comes from the same sexual frustration.

But indeed, protection is a good idea.

Yeah that should have been the thread. Just one guy going: "Protection is a good idea."

EDIT:
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

 

[Billy D Williams]

When you smoke a cigarette you risk getting lung cancer. When you have sex you risk an STD. It really is that simple.

Granted, if you have an STD and you don't tell anyone your a dick. But hey, they took the risk and they have to pay the consequences. Its pretty hard to be civil in this considering the idea of branding someone for having an STD goes against every single thing I believe (i.e. that people should take some god damn accountability for their actions and not have the government control what they do for them) so right now I'm having a pretty hard time not blaring out obscenities at the people who call people who get STD's from someone else innocent. I can stomach the idea of being a victim, because if you have sex with someone the hides the fact they have an STD you are a victim of them being a dick and of yourself being reckless. But innocent? No way in Hell. You made your choices, now you have to deal with the consequences. Not to say I don't feel sorry for people who have these serious diseases, but unless rape was involved its nobodies fault but their own.