Sex.

[Everin]

That's the topic. But what do you think about sex? Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know? Just your thoughts on sex. And why?

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

EDIT: When I say sex, I mean making love as well, not defining between sex and love making.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

There's a difference between sex and making love.

Context is everything.

I prefer the latter. The results of the former can be obtained with one of your hands.

I've always thought waiting until marriage for sex is a but ridiculous if I'm honest. Your sexuality is just as important as you personality, it is a vital part of a relationship and waiting until marriage to learn about it is very risky.

 

[Richardplex]

If people want to have sex that's their own choice. And the right to do it how they want, with whoever they want, regardless of what society says.

 

[ELD3RGoD]

'Making love' sounds awful to me. I love it, it's the best way to relax outside of drugs and alcohol and with a decent parter, it is one of the main things that can keep a spark in the relationship.

 

[somonels]

A method of reproduction, with pleasure being the product of a small part of our brain trying to condition us into doing it more and more often.
No magic about it, use in any way as you wish and prepare to be judged based on it.

 

[vehystrix]

Sex itself is no more sacred then, say eating a hamburger. And yes I did just compare one-night stands with going to McDonalds. Both are acting on your impulses, a pure physical way of enjoying yourself.

Making love on the other hand, is something that is more deep, more intimate. Making love is what you seem to describe as sex, while sex is only a (minor) part of it really.

 

[MercurySteam]

I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion

Causal sex however is mostly skin deep. Yes, the act itself is quite intimate but some people are able to dismiss it off as nothing. How they do this I have no clue but it's probably to avoid emotional attachment. It's not really difficult to see why some people don't want to stick around with someone random for the rest of their life but that's why many people distinguish sex and lovemaking as two different things.

 

[NinjaDuckie]

I was averse to joining the leagues of people from my generation who jumped into casual sex really early, and I'm honestly pretty glad, because it means I had the conviction to keep to a strict moral code that governed my behavior in both public and private since I was about thirteen or fourteen.

That said, my 21st birthday approaches next year and I'm still a virgin, though there are lots of guys who would like very much to get in my pants. And I kind of want to lose it before my 21st, but I also don't. Like, I want my first time to be special, and almost like if I just leap impulsively and do it as a throwaway moment it won't be the same, or I'll have lost a part of me or something. I'm not sure.

So it's not like I'm being forced to be a virgin, it's just that I would feel wrong about it. I'm not a religious person and I don't particularly believe in the institution of marriage, but I guess the thing I've most missed out on while growing up was a romantic, long-term relationship, so that's what I'd probably need to have before I could jump into sex. A boyfriend who's willing to wait and love me for who I am rather than be focused on casual sex... the person who apparently doesn't exist in modern society. ¬_¬

 

[Daystar Clarion]

A boyfriend who's willing to wait and love me for who I am rather than be focused on casual sex... the person who apparently doesn't exist in modern society. ¬_¬

That would be someone like me then


I've been with my fiancee since we were 15, (we're both 23 now).

We lost our virginity to each other and I've never had sex with anyone else.

So don't worry. Guys like that do exist.

 

[varulfic]

I don't get why people put so much stock in virginity. It's not some sacred flower or whatever. All being a virgin means is that there's something you haven't experienced yet. Something that rules.

I am against saving yourself for marriage, because the first time sucks. It's awkward, no one knows what they're doing and it's over before both parties can be satisfied. If you want it to be special and romantic, then have lots of it beforehand so you can become good at it. Practice makes perfect, and I'd rather know how to satisfy my wife than going in blind.

 

[Wuggy]

That's the topic. But what do you think about sex?

Sex is sex. It's a form of reproduction. It has a pleasure factor to make people actually want to do it, and thus ensuring the continuity of our species. That's my "view" on sex.

Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity

No, it's not sacred. Then again, I don't believe in the divine.

And yes, it can be just an activity to some people. Sex means different things to different people, so people have different appliances for it. For me, it can be just an activity but it can also be a great way to express affection.

do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date?

That's completely up to the individual. I don't see a reason why one should wait to have sex before getting married, but hey, whatever floats your boat. Personally I keep the sex question pretty much up to the other person to decide. It's not that high on my priority list so when she's ready, that's when it'll happen.

Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know?

I rather do it with someone I feel attracted to. The fact how well I know the person can factor in the attractiveness but isn't the reason why I will or will not have sex with someone.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

A friend and I were once talking about sex, and we decided that sex has a couple of categories.

Fucking, which is just something you do for the raw animal relief of it, without any real emotional involvement. Sex, which is something you can do with someone you do care about and may continue doing so with that person, and is generally done with the pleasure of both partners in mind. And finally, making love, which, as the name suggests, you only really can do if you're truly emotionally involved with someone, generally with the pleasure of your partner taken into greater consideration.

As for my views on it, it's good, it feels good, and there's no reason why people shouldn't enjoy it. Ideally, I wouldn't do it with someone I'm not emotionally attached to, but that's my preference. Basically, I look at sex as I do any pleaurable activity. Do it if you want to, don't if you don't, and be smart about it.

 

[Nemu]

I find it to be a rather enjoyable way to connect with my gf, both physically and emotionally.
It's not the only way we do that, but it's certainly not something we shy away from.

While not even remotely religious, I DID go to Catholic school for many years and so I have residual guilt or shyness about being promiscuous. As such, I've never been the type to have casual sex.

 

[Spectral Dragon]

Sex can differ so much between cases, and it's almost weird how some treat it. It can be an act of love, shared with someone you truly feel a connection to, or payment for the next fix of drugs.

Personally, I feel it is everyone's right to do whatever they want with whoever they want, as long as they don't hurt anyone (who doesn't want to be), but not set a standard on how you do, when you're ready etc. Some people just sicken me, but I don't mind. It's their choice in what they do.

I don't think it should be saved until marriage, but rather until you meet the right person, and you're ready for it together. It's not sacred, but it's not just... Something either. Although in time, we've also started to think of it as something depraved, almost, to keep behind locked doors. We're ashamed to discuss something natural in our existence.

'Tis a pity, but there's still no right way to look at it.

 

[iseko]

Sex can be just an act or an expression of love. I never had sex with someone I just met. But I do have one-night stands. Waiting until your marriage is something I can respect but I don't agree with it. Having a good sex life is key to any relationship. Everything else can be perfect. but if the sex ain't good then your relationship is doomed. That's just my 2 cents but I've seen it happen so I'm sticking by it.

But like I said you can also just have sex with a person for one night. It's fun and exciting. If you are good friends then it can (but not necessarily complicate) things. Just keep in mind: one night of fun. Nothing has too change after that.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

A boyfriend who's willing to wait and love me for who I am rather than be focused on casual sex... the person who apparently doesn't exist in modern society. ¬_¬

There are actually plenty of guys like that. I myself am one of them, and I know another couple of people like that. It's just that, generally speaking, we're afraid to talk about things like that because we're afraid of being put down for our views/inexperience. It's pretty much encouraged not to "hook up" with random people for one night stands, and quite honestly, I find the idea disgusting. XD

 

[aba1]

I have done it so many times so many ways and well its really just a act its just a way to pleasure yourself however it can get pirrty passionate with the right person and thats where you are making love its different and when you have done both you know it its just feels different.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

It's a lot of fun. That's it. Play save and enjoy it whenever and wherever you can.

 

[Griffolion]

It is what you make it to be.

If it's nothing, it's nothing. If it's everything, it's everything.

I personally believe it to be very connecting and have a great deal of spiritual aspects intertwined with it. I never used to think like that, but eventually I realised that from the emptiness of all the flings and one night stands was something telling me I (and those girls) are worth more.

So now I've made my own choice to try my bestest (I'm only human after all) to next have sex with the girl I love and am going to spend my life with. My faith does come into all this (in case you haven't already noticed), but I think matters of the spirit and soul are inextricably linked with matters of the physical, like sex.

That said, my 21st birthday approaches next year and I'm still a virgin, though there are lots of guys who would like very much to get in my pants. And I kind of want to lose it before my 21st, but I also don't. Like, I want my first time to be special, and almost like if I just leap impulsively and do it as a throwaway moment it won't be the same, or I'll have lost a part of me or something. I'm not sure.

So it's not like I'm being forced to be a virgin, it's just that I would feel wrong about it. I'm not a religious person and I don't particularly believe in the institution of marriage, but I guess the thing I've most missed out on while growing up was a romantic, long-term relationship, so that's what I'd probably need to have before I could jump into sex. A boyfriend who's willing to wait and love me for who I am rather than be focused on casual sex... the person who apparently doesn't exist in modern society. ¬_¬

If I may just give you my two pennies, I'd personally say wait, because I think if you do it with someone you love rather that just going off randomly to tick off something on an arbitrary "checklist" of sorts, then you'll feel so much better about sex and it's connection to relationships as a whole. That's just my perspective, coming from someone who's seen the empty side to many flings and one night stands; it's honestly not as good/cool/nice/awesome as you may think it is. In fact, what I chose to do with those girls probably contributed to a few problems I tend to run into when I'm with someone now (not saying you'll have the same thing, but I'm just trying to highlight that it genuinely isn't as good as you may think).

Btw, I'm not saying get married, but I feel you've got the right idea in enjoying all the benefits of sex in a loving relationship where your spirits are indeed intertwined (alongside your bodies ). Which in the end, is a marriage of sorts... I think too much.