I think the people whom you've given control of your mind have romanticized love-making to make accepting their way of life easier.Everin said:That's the topic. But what do you think about sex? Like, do you think it's sacred, do you think it's just an activity, do you think it's something that you should wait to do, or dive right in on the first date? Would you do it with a stranger, or only with someone you truely know? Just your thoughts on sex. And why?
I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion
EDIT: When I say sex, I mean making love as well, not defining between sex and love making.
This only makes sense if you don't think about it and if you've never experienced sex.
The truth is, sex is such an important part of a relationship that you owe to to both yourself and your (future/potential) lover(s) to ensure that it is good sex. Which, if it is your first time, it very definitely will not. A woman will not have an orgasm the first time she has sex. In fact, in all likelihood, it will hurt a lot and be monumentally uncomfortable for her, regardless of whether she likes or loves the guy. Most guys don't exactly last more than a few minutes on their first go-round, and if you think quality sex can be had in less than eight minutes, or that your first time should be a quickie, then you don't know how to have good sex. So, if your wedding night is truly sacred, and you're both virgins until that night, you'll be setting yourselves up to share a lie for the rest of your relationship, the lie of how great this is gonna be that becomes the lie of how akward this totally wasn't.
It sounds like you don't want to spread your seed around in some nasty hos, and I certainly can't fault you for that. But believe me, you're gonna have a hard time keeping your hands off of your woman, especially if she's beautiful, especially if she's amazing. There's nothing wrong with consummating your relationship with her before you've given yourselves to each other legally, which is antiquated, obsolete bullshit none too far removed from eye-for-an-eye anyway. In other words: it's barbaric. Your above statement, that I bolded, is not based on pragmatism. Reality is rarely so perfect and neat as what you've described. You can have failed relationships or ones that end, or you can have failed marriages or ones that end. Which would you prefer?
