the ultimate test of true love: will they still do it with Mantis' hymm playing in the background
but then again if its Mantis' hymm...
but then again if its Mantis' hymm...
Sex.
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As Eddie Murphy put it and it's my view as well.
'I will fuck somebody I'm in love with but I ain't making love to nobody.'
I think the act of sex should be kept between a couple and its up to them when they think it's right to take that next step. For me with my current partner we met up for the first time and went for it
Still together now 6 months down the line and about ready to move in together.
It all depends on the person/couple
'I will fuck somebody I'm in love with but I ain't making love to nobody.'
I think the act of sex should be kept between a couple and its up to them when they think it's right to take that next step. For me with my current partner we met up for the first time and went for it
Still together now 6 months down the line and about ready to move in together.It all depends on the person/couple
I enjoy sex, me and my girlfriend lost our virginity[footnote]I had another, less consensual, experience years earlier, but I'm not counting that[/footnote] to each other a couple years ago. We're not married.
I have had sex with other women, more casual sex, and it was never as good. It might just be psychological, but having sex with someone you love is always better. [footnote]This I know from anecdotes! AND ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE IS NEVER WRONG[/footnote]
I have had sex with other women, more casual sex, and it was never as good. It might just be psychological, but having sex with someone you love is always better. [footnote]This I know from anecdotes! AND ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE IS NEVER WRONG[/footnote]
Me and my cousin had a conversation similar to this topic a while ago, we're both 18 and she's a virgin because of her Catholic upbringing - whereas I'm an atheist - and as such she doesn't want to lose her virginity until she's married. I'll try to remember how it went as best I can, we had just found out an old school friend had gotten married and was expecting a kid.
Her: ?Married? And a kid? Christ he?s not much older than me and he has a kid, and here I am still a virgin.?
Me: ?I thought that was your choice, you didn?t want to lose it until your married.?
Her: ?Yeah but sometimes I think about that choice. These are modern times and the frigid ***** comments at school get to me at times. I don?t want to fuck the next guy I see but I wouldn?t mind if it was with someone I loved.?
I think my cousin's view on sex is the one I follow.
Her: ?Married? And a kid? Christ he?s not much older than me and he has a kid, and here I am still a virgin.?
Me: ?I thought that was your choice, you didn?t want to lose it until your married.?
Her: ?Yeah but sometimes I think about that choice. These are modern times and the frigid ***** comments at school get to me at times. I don?t want to fuck the next guy I see but I wouldn?t mind if it was with someone I loved.?
I think my cousin's view on sex is the one I follow.
I think it's important, but not sacred. I think it's an emotional event, no matter how badly you try to separate it from emotion, they are inextricably linked. I think it should be an expression of how much you care for each other. However, I don't think it's important to wait until the wedding bed, neither do I think it should wait until the 3rd/5th/27th/whatever date. It should wait until you are comfortable with each-other, and care for each-other deeply, but that is something that isn't going to happen based on time. If you've been friends for years, secretly hiding your feelings for each-other, it might be appropriate on the first date. If you met in a bar, maybe it should wait for a few months. It's an experience that should be decided upon by the individuals involved, which brings me to my most important belief about sex. It's no one's business except the people who are involved, when consensual.
People are saying that sex isn't important, but sexual repression and some of the crappest things in the world occur in the same place, and a simple coincidence I don't believe it to be.
Simply, if the world had more, and better sex, other shit wouldn't matter. Mentally we are more stimulated and happy after fulfilling our sexual needs, and that includes deep forays into territories currently defined as "fetish" for a large portion of the world.
I get lots of sex and have lots of sexual partners, and introduce people into the fetish scene in Europe, and you know what? Afterwards there is a marked difference in everyone, regardless of ethnicity, age, gender or upbringing. Simply put, it makes everyone a shitload more peaceful and happier.
Do you honestly believe that a load of the terrible figures in history weren't secretly homosexual, but were overcompensating to repress heavy urges of what was at the time an ethically wrong lifestyle? Do you believe that the businessmen who have to pay for dominatrix service wouldn't rather be sharing that experience with their wives or other loved ones? Do you honestly believe that men who are serial adulterers are doing so out of some kind of wickedness or mental deficiency, as opposed to just being born that way?
Don't sell sex too short, prudishness has done absolutely nothing for mankind. Sex should be open, and free, as long as it is respectful and consensual with all parties and partners.
Simply, if the world had more, and better sex, other shit wouldn't matter. Mentally we are more stimulated and happy after fulfilling our sexual needs, and that includes deep forays into territories currently defined as "fetish" for a large portion of the world.
I get lots of sex and have lots of sexual partners, and introduce people into the fetish scene in Europe, and you know what? Afterwards there is a marked difference in everyone, regardless of ethnicity, age, gender or upbringing. Simply put, it makes everyone a shitload more peaceful and happier.
Do you honestly believe that a load of the terrible figures in history weren't secretly homosexual, but were overcompensating to repress heavy urges of what was at the time an ethically wrong lifestyle? Do you believe that the businessmen who have to pay for dominatrix service wouldn't rather be sharing that experience with their wives or other loved ones? Do you honestly believe that men who are serial adulterers are doing so out of some kind of wickedness or mental deficiency, as opposed to just being born that way?
Don't sell sex too short, prudishness has done absolutely nothing for mankind. Sex should be open, and free, as long as it is respectful and consensual with all parties and partners.
Nothing "sacred" about it. Biological imperative of every human being on the face of the planet at some point? Very much so.
To me, sex is mostly about the pleasure, intimacy and physical/emotional rewards that come from the act. Reproduction may be a natural course of sex if it happens, but I really have no interest in a kid for as long as I can stave it off, myself. In general, however? Two or more adults consented to the act, the act is legal in the country you are in residency of, and everyone was understanding of what potential acts might be involved in the situation?
Fuck all you want, how you want.
To me, sex is mostly about the pleasure, intimacy and physical/emotional rewards that come from the act. Reproduction may be a natural course of sex if it happens, but I really have no interest in a kid for as long as I can stave it off, myself. In general, however? Two or more adults consented to the act, the act is legal in the country you are in residency of, and everyone was understanding of what potential acts might be involved in the situation?
Fuck all you want, how you want.
Ultimate act of love?Everin said:I think that sex is something that should be saved til the wedding bed, personally. I think that it is the ultimate act of love and it bonds you with the person you share it with. It's like you take the core of yourself and place it in the other person's possesion and if you do it with lots of people regularly, you split that core and violate yourself. But thats just my opinion
For me, the "ultimate" act of love would have to be something that would require significant effort. Having sex is just physically pleasuring one another, sometimes resulting in reproduction.
For me, it's far more intimate to, for example, share each other's secrets, things that you wouldn't tell even when tortured, things about yourself that make your heart tremble. Everyone has those.
It's easy to share your body, even easier when you love the other person. It's harder to show what's on the inside and that's what really matters when you're really in love.
That's what I think at least.
Someone said once:
"Love is not looking at each other, love is looking in the same direction".
Don't know if that quote is totally on topic but I like it so I thought I'll share it.
yeah. after a marriage thats been built on a relationship thats lasted for at least a few good years, ya know, the marriages that actually last and where they're happy. sorry..you do have a point, so thats what i mean by marriage. and no not everyone does it right, but its a challenge to get it right...Blablahb said:
Ive only had sex with one person, but I've made love a couple of times. Sometimes straight sex is fun, because you can do what you want with no consequences, but making love is better for the most part.
See my avatar for any details on how I do sex.
<color=white>I'm pro-monogamy. Draw your own conclusions.
<color=white>I'm pro-monogamy. Draw your own conclusions.
Well, my teenage idiot is making me about as lust-full as a rabbit, for lack of a better stereotype.
Aside from the obvious teenage angst, when my brain instead of my hormones are thinking for me, it is something VERY special. I won't have sex till I'm married (or in a relationship where we don't want that but are serious about being together). I'll never have oral or anal or any sort of new-school normal thing. I just never have found the appeal to it. My fantasies of more... sexual depravity, shall we say, are with people I'd never consider having a girlfriend relationship, let alone a marriage or, say, serious relationship but not married.
Edit: After reading all the "waiting till marriage will suck" posts, I've decided to become a chronic masturbator.
Aside from the obvious teenage angst, when my brain instead of my hormones are thinking for me, it is something VERY special. I won't have sex till I'm married (or in a relationship where we don't want that but are serious about being together). I'll never have oral or anal or any sort of new-school normal thing. I just never have found the appeal to it. My fantasies of more... sexual depravity, shall we say, are with people I'd never consider having a girlfriend relationship, let alone a marriage or, say, serious relationship but not married.
Edit: After reading all the "waiting till marriage will suck" posts, I've decided to become a chronic masturbator.
I'm omni and like that, does that count?NinjaDuckie said:
OT, sex to me is something I wouldn't share with anyone other than someone I loved dearly.
Casual sex... eh. I could say I look down on it but I don't want to seem like a smug bastard (not like I usually don't anyway according to some of you ¬_¬) but it isn't something I would do myself and people who do that... eh. Just kinda weirds me out to be honest.
It's just that the way I view sex is that it's intimate and loving. Not something I'd do with just anyone because I feel horny. I have my hand and the internet for that.
Hell, even having sex with a good friend is preferable to casual sex with a stranger. That just doesn't make sense to me. I mean... it does and I get why people do it but it's not for me.
I prefer the intimacy of being with someone I love or care for rather than just the feeling of another orgasm.
So essentially, sex for me is something I'd only do with people I love and care for deeply. The idea of "fighting back hormones" by saving it for someone you love doesn't make sense to me since you can get the same relief from that through masturbation. Maybe I don't have the same hormonal activity as the rest of people but I'd prefer it to be loving and not just a "fuck." I don't believe in marriage to be honest but I believe strongly in love and sex is the ultimate act of sexpressing (;P) one's love for another.
Now, one thing to note is that I'm not going to stop anyone from having casual sex. That's their own business. Two consenting individuals are able to make their own decisions. However, I personally don't believe that to be a particularly... healthy act and it just isn't for me so I don't partake in it.
Just my thoughts anyway. Surprised to see as many people here who agree. And quite glad at that too :3
Sex, is now, thanks to condoms and contraceptives, safe. People can now have sex with pretty much anyone and not have to bear the risk of having children, an STD or other complications that previous generations had to deal with. Therefore, protected sex can now be, casual, for fun. However, if a partners were to have unprotected sex, then the couple should treat it as sacred, because there can be pretty big consequences to that act.
My view: Bang around with anyone you can get, but be sure to rubber up, lest you end up screwing with the wrong person or getting her pregnant when you didn't want to. Treat protected sex however you feel, but always treat unprotected sex with foresight, wisdom and preparedness.
My view: Bang around with anyone you can get, but be sure to rubber up, lest you end up screwing with the wrong person or getting her pregnant when you didn't want to. Treat protected sex however you feel, but always treat unprotected sex with foresight, wisdom and preparedness.