Sexual liberation

[MammothBlade]

Sexual liberation seems to focus on female sexuality, though you know, males are more sexually liberated now too. Not just gay guys, guys in general are free to enjoy whatever sort of sexual adventures they want legally - with some exceptions. Sexuality has a deeper psychological meaning and it's transcended well beyond procreation and well, it has a whole different purpose now, as 99% recreational activity. And that's awesome.

So, my question for all genders, sexualities, and species is, do you feel sexually liberated? Is that important to you?

 

[Shadowstar38]

Yes. Yes I do feel liberated. I like being able to fuck everything that I lay my eyes on in this world. It's not that much of a priority though. If I wasn't having sex Id probably do other stuff in that time.

 

[Tanis]

I think there's a MAJOR difference here.

When a guy cheated on his wife, he was slapped around a few times.
When a girl cheated on her husband, she/is stoned to death.

Female liberation is FAR from over.
Look at the differences in pay for women, or the whole 'when a girl acts like a guy she's a slut' mentality, or most of the Middle east, or...

 

[Nickolai77]

I can't feel sexually liberated until male attractiveness is no longer predominately established by acting and behaving in a certain way. There are social rules and conventions which "oppress" both men and women alike.

Granted a lot of progress has been made since the 1960's- safe contraception and later on homosexual acceptance, but i wouldn't say men and women are truly sexually liberated. It's even doubtful if such a thing is possible.

 

[Esotera]

I'm not satisfied with our current level at all. Not wearing any clothes is still a criminal offence in the UK and we still have huge discrepancies in when homo/hetero couples can have sex, and there are also double standards in how men & women are treated. The way we're going is progress at least, but it won't really get any good until there is effective male contraception other than condoms, and preventative treatment for STDs.

I think The Culture novels by Iain M Banks would be an ideal model for us to aspire to, as sex can only be a way to pass the time, or an expression of love, and hardly anyone in this fictional universe has any prejudices about sex. And we're a long way from that.

 

[Doclector]

Honestly, I don't really know enough to comment on a national scale, let alone international. Personally, though...No. I don't feel "liberated" at all. For more reasons than merely that I don't get any.

Personally, I feel like I should be ashamed for every thought of sexual interaction that I have. Should I be ashamed? I'm not sure. Logically, these thoughts are going nowhere. The subject of them likely doesn't want me, possibly doesn't even notice me. To attempt to get somewhere would probably be lumping unexpected awkwardness on someone's day.

In essence, if I were to attempt to carry these thoughts out, they would probaly annoy someone to say the least, which would logically suggest I should feel ashamed for it.

And yet, "good looking" people are allowed to act like that all the time. It's not as if the recipient for such behaviour is always willing even then, either. And yet it's acceptable for them, creepy for me.

For wrong or right, though, I do feel ashamed of these thoughts, and thus, I do not feel sexually "free".

Captcha: "Oh, you". Supportive as always.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I would be lying if I said I wasn't looking forward to the day I lose the v-card but the conditions for it are the same as always. I have to be seriously in love and I have to be ready to accept the consequences of the pleasure conceiving my first child. The emotions of it are far more important for me than the act itself and as such I'm not really effected by sexual liberation. Other men may be far more fast and loose with their undercarriages but I'm going to save my passions for a time I find appropriate for me and for that lucky girl.

 

[Dandark]

It's alright now but there is still a lot of constraints on it, there is still a lot of "Sexual liberating" to be done.

 

[Johnny Impact]

Honestly, I don't really know enough to comment on a national scale, let alone international. Personally, though...No. I don't feel "liberated" at all. For more reasons than merely that I don't get any.

Personally, I feel like I should be ashamed for every thought of sexual interaction that I have. Should I be ashamed? I'm not sure. Logically, these thoughts are going nowhere. The subject of them likely doesn't want me, possibly doesn't even notice me. To attempt to get somewhere would probably be lumping unexpected awkwardness on someone's day.

In essence, if I were to attempt to carry these thoughts out, they would probably annoy someone to say the least, which would logically suggest I should feel ashamed for it.

And yet, "good looking" people are allowed to act like that all the time. It's not as if the recipient for such behaviour is always willing even then, either. And yet it's acceptable for them, creepy for me.

For wrong or right, though, I do feel ashamed of these thoughts, and thus, I do not feel sexually "free".

You stole my entire post word for word. No one has ever ninja'd quite as hard as you just did. I was going to suggest you must be the evil Mirror Universe version of me but, as I wear a goatee, I guess I'm the evil version of you. Suddenly my desire to conquer the world and rearrange it to my liking makes much more sense.....

I wish less of a man's image rode on his ability to get sex. That criterion has been obsolete for thousands of years, yet we still use it.

 

[Phasmal]

I'm a bit confused at the concept.
I'm not sure where the liberation comes into sex for me personally.
I guess I'm liberated, because I've never felt... not-liberated.
Not to say that people don't still judge. Some people felt like when I left my ex, getting with my boyfriend a month later was `too soon`, but it never bothered me. I shouldn't have to not-date just because I broke up with someone.

For wrong or right, though, I do feel ashamed of these thoughts, and thus, I do not feel sexually "free".

Maybe... fix it then?
Don't get me wrong, dude, I'm sure it's not such a thing to be done lightly, but you're clearly unhappy with the way it is, so are you taking steps to changing it or just lamenting?
There are things you can do about it, you know. I mean that in the best way, but I'm about as subtle as a brick, so excuse my phrasing.

 

[Thaluikhain]

I'm a bit confused at the concept.
I'm not sure where the liberation comes into sex for me personally.
I guess I'm liberated, because I've never felt... not-liberated.

I was going to say that. Liberation, IMHO, involves the move from one state to another, I don't remember being less free than I am now.

OTOH, there are any number of really nasty prejudices still around (which I think the OP meant), it could be that when I was young they were bigger, and just not aimed at me.

 

[Mel Theofficegamergirl]

Do I "feel" liberated? Not so much since I never really gave two shits about what others think in the first place. I do what I want.

Sex is normal, sex is healthy, and sex is awesome. I like having the sex, especially with my significant other whom I love very much.

 

[axlryder]

No. I actually feel sexually repressed by society laying down all these seemingly arbitrary strictures based around how to act and think before, during and after the "mating process" while simultaneously telling me I should want to fuck every hot person I see. Of course, by adhering to that mentality, that gives woman the right to call me a pig or a monster or some shit. It's all very retarded. I imagine woman have a similarly unfair time. Half of it I think is that the people themselves are borked in the head, and just expect everyone to adhere to these strange and contradictory behaviors. I'd guess it would a take a full on paradigm shift to change that.

 

[Adeptus Aspartem]

Well.. we got the internet and there's practically everything you can imagine - rule 34 n' shit.

Buuuuut in reality i don't think we're even close to an optimum and alot of points were already raised in this still short thread.

 

[Lord Garnaat]

No, nor do I want to be. I have no problem with accepting things like homosexuality because doing anything less is simply stupid. But accepting promiscuity and licentious idiocy does nothing but allow people to slip into profligacy, and that cannot be allowed.

 

[lacktheknack]

Not really.

I'm still mocked and pried at due to my decision to not have sex, or gorge on porn, or even date, to the point where I actively avoid the topic.

There's two sides to every coin, after all.

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

Some people felt like when I left my ex, getting with my boyfriend a month later was `too soon`, but it never bothered me. I shouldn't have to not-date just because I broke up with someone.

(note: not judging you nor saying this is what happened, but this is a possible perception.)

Spoiler

If you were flirting it up with said person before you broke up with who you were dating with at the time, that's the only time i think i would ever frown/see someone frowning, you aren't quite being faithful to the person by tempting yourself with someone else, while you are still with the other person.

granted this is all heavily assumed/opinionated, so don't take my dead on word for it, just saying this is how it tends to go when i know people break up/get together with someone else fast.

OT: eh it's gonna better over the years as a whole in society, but for me personally, nahh, i kind of wish i had saved myself actually, i find casual sex to be not worth it at all. then again i probably wouldn't have came to that conclusion had I not done it in the first place, so who knows.. But knowing where my moral comfort is, I do suppose I am liberated in a way.

 

[Blood Brain Barrier]

Mandatory clothes-wearing is actually a big thing for me. Not because I'd go nude, but I'd like to have the option there. Knowing that I don't have a choice because of the laws my society has laid down is oppressive. The public attitude towards sexuality that condemns the natural, the human body, must weigh on the mind of most of us.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

I would be lying if I said I wasn't looking forward to the day I lose the v-card but the conditions for it are the same as always. I have to be seriously in love and I have to be ready to accept the consequences of the pleasure conceiving my first child. The emotions of it are far more important for me than the act itself and as such I'm not really effected by sexual liberation. Other men may be far more fast and loose with their undercarriages but I'm going to save my passions for a time I find appropriate for me and for that lucky girl.

I do admire your resolve, but I fear I have to go against your hopes / illusions a bit.
Your first time will not be awesome. Passionate yes, but not awesome.

You won't know what you are doing, maybe she will, if so, then good for you, it will be very awkward and probably over very fast.

Afterwards you can get to practicing with the girl and eventually you will get better, because, as with everything, practice makes perfect.

Good for you for sticking with it, though.