Sexual Partners

[Supernatural Girl]

I've had one. Lost it at 19 (2 or so months ago infact) And I'm still sexing that person as well.

I couldn't tell you how many partners he's been with, but it's definitely more than me.

 

[jamesworkshop]

0 Times, haven't been on a date in 19 months..arrgggghhhh

Numbers isn't an issue, two sexual partner in a year is not a high number but adds up to twenty in a decade.
20 partners by 26 (UK age of consent 16) would be a perfectly reasonable number if not actually quite low.

It wouldn't put me off dating a girl when even a low number like 3-4 partners is still far more than I am getting.

 

[TenSecondHero]

Sexual partners, two. Fooling around kissing, handiwork etc., three.

I'm a bit pissed off actually, because I was in the 'saving myself for that someone special' camp, met a girl I really liked, we were going out a few months before we had sex and it was great for a while, I loved her to bits, but then I started to see the person underneath and didn't like what I saw, so that plan didn't exactly go to, well, plan...

I've had a couple of one night stands with an older woman since (I'm 22, she's 29) because it sounded fun, but no-one in the last few months.

To anyone holding out and saving yourself for that special someone, I don't mean to be a pessimist or shatter anyone's dreams, but it rarely works out that way, so don't pass up an opportunity if you really want to do it with someone you fancy. I guess I'm only saying that because my particular dream was shattered, but meh, take from that what you will.

 

[A Raging Emo]

2 for me. If you include people I've fooled around with, it'll be at 2 Full on Partners, 3 only fooling around.

 

[TenSecondHero]

0
I turn 19 soon, so it's not like I'm the 40 year old virgin, yet. But then again every woman alive is smart not to sleep with me. I'm not in any way good looking; quite hairy(everywhere), overweight, nothing special in waist down area (but then again they can't know that since I don't take off my pants in front of them), face isn't appealing to look at, I'm not that interesting to talk to, Horrible at jokes. So yeah, I kind of suck.

Chin up, matey. I'm a big, hairy guy as well, but some girls like that kind of thing. I mean, unless you're super, super fat and look like Bigfoot, I wouldn't worry. I'm very broad and stocky, always have been, but I have no trouble talking to girls who show an interest, it's all about having confidence and thinking 'fuck it, what's the worst that could happen?'. Also, anyone who cares about you and is worth anything won't care about the size of your penis, unless you stopped developing at the age of 7 or something

 

[JSDodd]

Just one, but in my defense we have been going out since we were both 14.

R.e. The number that a partner has slept with, i think it really depends on circumstance: do they just love sex? have they got a fear of commitment? Do they have emotional issues etc....

 

[Gigano]

None, despite living in one of the most sexually liberated countries in the entire world.

I'd add "Epic Fail!", was it not for the fact that I truly, honestly, do not care about it. I dislike physical closeness except with the closest of friends, so I guess that in spite of my ultra-liberal views, the slow conservative approach is really all that would work for me personally. I'll get around to it at some point when I feel like it.

I care nothing about how many people others have slept with; it's not my business, and if they've practised safe sex, and derived enjoyment from it, I couldn't be more happy and less worried or condemnatory towards them.

 

[ooknabah]

Someone's experience level doesn't factor at all into my decision about whether I'd want to be with a person. I don't think it really changes the quality of things either, unless you're dealing with a complete novice, because let's face it no-one is good at anything the first few times. That's okay though because novices can be trained...

I agree with you, but I think that experience can't be ignored: The one thing I'm concerned about with my partner is that since I'm only number two for her and her first serious relationship that she will get more emotionally involved in our relationship than I am, particularly since I am moving away in the near future which will, if not end, at least drastically alter our relationship.

There's also a certain intimidation factor to high numbers- See Chasing Amy.

 

[AstylahAthrys]

0 and I've been okay with that until recently. I'm starting to get a little antsy about finding a guy... and I wouldn't mind if he has had a few girls before me. I'm hoping that he's had at least one.

 

[ooknabah]

To anyone holding out and saving yourself for that special someone, I don't mean to be a pessimist or shatter anyone's dreams, but it rarely works out that way, so don't pass up an opportunity if you really want to do it with someone you fancy. I guess I'm only saying that because my particular dream was shattered, but meh, take from that what you will.

I understand what you're saying here- When I see people get married to their high school sweethearts right out of school (particularly hardcore Christians) I always cringe a little: I sure as hell didn't know who I was when I was 18, 19, 20... let alone enough to stay with one person for the rest of my life.

We tend to put a lot of stock in sex (which, granted, should not be treated too lightly) sometimes I think at the detriment of a healthy view of it.

It's like watching a high school jazz choir, singing about love and loss; You can't actually sing about those emotions until you've had them! Go out, get laid, put your heart on the line and have it broken. Not good feelings, no, but part of what makes us all human and will have you walking hand in hand with your now-fellow-adults.

 

[ShrooM_DoughKiD]

2, I'm a serial monogamist.

 

[TenSecondHero]

To anyone holding out and saving yourself for that special someone, I don't mean to be a pessimist or shatter anyone's dreams, but it rarely works out that way, so don't pass up an opportunity if you really want to do it with someone you fancy. I guess I'm only saying that because my particular dream was shattered, but meh, take from that what you will.

I understand what you're saying here- When I see people get married to their high school sweethearts right out of school (particularly hardcore Christians) I always cringe a little: I sure as hell didn't know who I was when I was 18, 19, 20... let alone enough to stay with one person for the rest of my life.

We tend to put a lot of stock in sex (which, granted, should not be treated too lightly) sometimes I think at the detriment of a healthy view of it.

It's like watching a high school jazz choir, singing about love and loss; You can't actually sing about those emotions until you've had them! Go out, get laid, put your heart on the line and have it broken. Not good feelings, no, but part of what makes us all human and will have you walking hand in hand with your now-fellow-adults.

Well said. The negative experiences in life form a person as much, if not more than the positive ones.

Sex shouldn't be taken lightly, we really need more sex education in the UK as 26 of every 100 teenage girls get pregnant over here because they're just left to their own devices. The numbers are a lot lower in other European countries, especially the ones with more emphasis on safe sex.

I think promising to stay with someone from an early age is a big mistake. I've seen what it can do to a person, my brother started seeing someone at the age of 16, and because they'd promised themselves to each other in the honeymoon period of their relationship he felt like he had no other option but to stay with her. They've separated now (he's 21 in February) but it took about 18 months of unhappiness for them to realise their relationship had run it's course. It's not healthy, he was on anti-depression medication and seeing a psychiatrist. I'm just thankful he's much happier these days.

 

[Ophiuchus]

I guess 1.5, didn't go all the way with one of them. That's really low for someone my age, but I waited until I was 22 and only do stuff with someone that I'm in a relationship with. Random hookups are really not my style. I don't really care whether or not that number increases... at least, I'm not actively looking to increase it.