You're 30 and she thinks you're 24. That's cool. It's less cool when it turns out she's 14 and you think she's 18. Being involved with someone you can't be honest with can lead to trouble.JaredXE said:
She's too young for you bro
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I'm 21 and I don't feel comfortable thinking about dating anyone younger than 18. Then again, my previous experiences with dating have lead me to not be comfortable with dating anyone period. When your last girlfriend gets committed to a mental institution, you just sort of stop trying for a little while.
Using the formula (half my age + 7) I come out with 17 and a half. That's about half a year too young, going by the law, but then the equation breaks down around the age of 18. It works from the age of 14 to the age of 17, breaks down from 18-21, and then works pretty much from 22 on. That said, at 21, I'm pretty hard pressed to find an 18 year old that I can see as serious relationship material; there is so much growing up that happens between 18 and 20, to the point that 18 to 20 is a much bigger maturity gap than 16 to 18. I tend to find women who are 19 or older a lot more interesting than 18 year olds, although as always when dealing with maturity, different individuals are different.
It's been said a lot already, but being too young doesn't really exist with some exceptions like someone under 16 dating someone who is like 25 or higher cause those are waters that best be left undisturbed. If I were to speak for my own relationship, it would depend on the situation, but I wouldn't want to go more then ten years below or above once I turn 28 (if I'm still single 
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).I'm 30, and my rule is "Keep it legal".
Of course there are young women who are legal that I wouldn't touch due to a sheltered upbringing that makes them childlike (hell, there are some women over thirty with that quality to 'em... and I won't touch them either)... but I've met a few women who have traveled the world, taken human life and had more sex than most could dream of before age 20. Those are the type I mean when I say "I'd have sex with an eighteen-year-old".
Of course there are young women who are legal that I wouldn't touch due to a sheltered upbringing that makes them childlike (hell, there are some women over thirty with that quality to 'em... and I won't touch them either)... but I've met a few women who have traveled the world, taken human life and had more sex than most could dream of before age 20. Those are the type I mean when I say "I'd have sex with an eighteen-year-old".
The guy I just got dumped by (Gods, that sounds bitter, but I couldn't think of any other way to phrase it) was about 5 years younger than me. Wasn't a bad relationship, just didn't work apparently.
Edit: I'm 25. He was 20. Figured I should add that.
Edit: I'm 25. He was 20. Figured I should add that.
I'm 17 (male) and I wouldn't date any guy under 14. 14's still a bit creepy though, so it would have to be an exceptional 14 year old :/
I'm 24 and my girl is 21. I personally wouldn't hit anything below 20, but I wouldn't frown upon one of my 24 year old mates if they dated an 18 year old, I guess.
I think it's not so much about age as where you are in life, what your goals are and how mature you are. I'm 22 and dating a man who's 31, and it works because he's not looking to settle down just yet, and neither am I. He's busy doing stuff with his band, I'm busy with college and stuff I do for fun - no-one's pestering the other about taking the relationship into the 'serious' stuff such as marriage or kids.
But generally I adhere to the creepy rule - (your age/2)+7.
But generally I adhere to the creepy rule - (your age/2)+7.
It's more about what stage of your life you're at. If you're done with college or well past college age and you're dating someone who is in college (as a traditional student) or younger. You're just asking for complications.
That being said my wife is nearly 2 years younger than me. She's actually the youngest woman i ever dated. I somehow mostly ended up dating "older women"... well older by a few months to about 4 years.
My oldest brother has been with the same guy for 10 years. He is about 10 years older than his partner they were about 22 and 32 when they started "being serious" more people are creeped out by the fact my brother is 6'11" and his partner is about 5'3"
That being said my wife is nearly 2 years younger than me. She's actually the youngest woman i ever dated. I somehow mostly ended up dating "older women"... well older by a few months to about 4 years.
My oldest brother has been with the same guy for 10 years. He is about 10 years older than his partner they were about 22 and 32 when they started "being serious" more people are creeped out by the fact my brother is 6'11" and his partner is about 5'3"
I don't meant to come across as a dick but, don't you think that 14 is kinda creepy? I mean, you are about to become an adult (at least old enough in respects of joining the army or going to jail) and the other person is still very much a minor. No matter how exceptional he is, you are still about to come to the age when you start to practice your sexuality and the other guy is about to come to the age when being angsty and self absorbed is starting to become appealing; at that age just a few years can seem like a massive rift between people given the patterns of behavior that develop later on.theemporer said:
He'd become annoyed at you for not including him more in your stuff, and you'd develop a growing sense of constant annoyance b/c there's just a great deal of it that you cannot share with him, and his constant whining will get on your nerves.
I just don't see how that is not the stuff of nightmares for you.
I, personally, wouldn't go for a chick that acted exaggeratedly childish or immature; it would just be just too much of a freaking hassle. I don't want to fall into the role of the educator of the person that I'm with at the same time I'm supposed to be dating her. No thanks.
OH yeah. I forgot for a time when I was 21 I dated a woman who was 38. Yeah, 17 years older than me, she was also Muslim and black. Keep in mind this was like a two months after 9/11 too so...
My parents were obviously less than thrilled (95% of their displeasure was about the age) but said 'as long as you're happy we're happy' and were at least verbally supportive when i moved in with her.
It proceeded to blow up in my face cuz she was CRAZY INSECURE about everything and was about as mature/secure as your average 18 year old girl.
My parents were obviously less than thrilled (95% of their displeasure was about the age) but said 'as long as you're happy we're happy' and were at least verbally supportive when i moved in with her.
It proceeded to blow up in my face cuz she was CRAZY INSECURE about everything and was about as mature/secure as your average 18 year old girl.
anything adult enough to get into a proper relationship, and anything childish enough to accept my quirks.
That's usually about 17-22. But I've been disappointed by 17-year-olds, and met some awesome 16 year olds. Age isn't everything. I'm 21 btw.
That's usually about 17-22. But I've been disappointed by 17-year-olds, and met some awesome 16 year olds. Age isn't everything. I'm 21 btw.
I'm 19 and 16 is the absolute lowest I'd go, though generally I wouldn't want a girlfriend below 18 because most girls around that age I find to be immature and/or irritating.
EDIT: My general rule for a couple of years now is if I see a girl in her school uniform, she's too young for me.
EDIT: My general rule for a couple of years now is if I see a girl in her school uniform, she's too young for me.