Should I come out to my boyfriend?

[agrajagthetesty]

Could you elaborate on the "spare his ego" part? That's a concept that I can't really work out.

I assume you are between the ages of 16-21. If you tell him that you are bi-curious or like girls, he might get the wrong idea that "he made you gay" or something. Or another wrong idea. (Don't want to elaborate on that)

Remember: If it is really bothering you to keep it a secret, tell him. Then ask him to promise to keep it a secret if you want it hidden. If you're certain that his parents are homophobes, they don't need to know.

Hmm. Perhaps, if I come out, I ought to make it clear how long I've known about my sexuality (since years before I met him). I'd hope he wouldn't take it that way, but thanks for the explanation. If I do decide to tell him, I'll be careful about that.

I suppose I need to weigh my drive to be open against the risks involved. His parents definitely don't need to know though!

Oh, and I'm bisexual, not bi-curious. Not that it really matters.

 

[WaysideMaze]

My last gf told me she was bi and had slept with another girl before we got together, after we'd been seeing each other a couple of months. Didn't change a thing between us. Just be honest is all I can say, I guess.

 

[Ryan Griffiths]

Just go ahead and do it - if its meant to be, then he'll understand.

 

[Doctor Glocktor]

Tell him if you need to by all means; but also reassure the fact that you're not leaving him, as the 'Bisexuals are twice as likely to cheat' stereotype DOES have some truth to it.

However, depending on how old you guys are, he's just as likely to find it super hot.

 

[BabyRaptor]

You need to decide if you would feel better if he knows or not.

Then, sit down and just tell him everything you told us. Make clear your motives for wanting him to know, and that you're concerned about his parents' reaction. Just be level with him about the entire thing.

I've never hid my sexuality from people...I fail to see the point. It's who I am. But that varies from person to person...If you're comfortable keeping it a secret, then do so.

 

[Rin Little]

Honey, don't worry about it and just tell him. If he doesn't like it then ask yourself this... Do you really want to be with a guy who can't accept you as you are? I don't loudly proclaim that I'm bi or anything, but it still gets brought up and I'm just straight up about it. Most guys I've gone out with have been pretty cool with it. My one ex and I both had a crush on the same girl, and it was kind of fun.

 

[Avistew]

I think if it's not a big deal, don't make a big deal out of it, but I'm not sure why you'd hide it, either. He's attracted to females, so that's something you have in common. You could comment on women you both find attractive or something. I dunno, I don't think it has to be a huge "I need to tell you something" moment, it could just be that you watch a movie and you comment that an actress is cute or sexy or something. You don't need to force it, just be natural.
Maybe just act the way you would if he knew already. Don't hold back on things you'd say "if he knew", you know what I mean?

And I guess he'll probably ask or figure it out or something. If the subject of bisexuality actually comes up, don't hide it.

I would personally think it sad that a boyfriend would hide half of his sexuality from me, because it's an important part of who you are as a person, and just because you won't actually have a relationship with a woman doesn't mean it doesn't affect your daily life with him. As I said, you can talk about who you think has the best ass out of two actresses or something, since being attracted to females is something you have in common.

 

[Knight Captain Kerr]

Act natural with it. You haven't mentioned this but if you have had past relationships with females bring it up in a converstation about exes or something and if he brings it up at some point then tell him the truth.

 

[bizentine]

as the 'Bisexuals are twice as likely to cheat' stereotype DOES have some truth to it.

COMPLETELY false. The likelihood of someone cheating is entirely a matter of how strictly they comply to their own moral code, and how seriously they take relationships. It has NOTHING to do with sexuality.

 

[Zantos]

Just be thoughtful about it. Straightforward honesty is the way forward, and the fact that you wanted to share it with him is a sign that you trust him.

Just don't do something stupid like wait until he's had a few drinks and say "You know, if {Insert your best friend's name here} wanted to sleep with me, I wouldn't say no." That's just kind of fucking annoying.

 

[chuckman1]

Just tell him, if he has a problem with it he has a problem with yo and is the wrong boy for you.