Should I dump my girlfriend?

[Callate]

Normally I'd be in the "you need to talk things out, get a sense of where you stand" camp, but I have a bad feeling in this case that all you'd come out of that with is confirmation of in how little regard she actually holds you.

One of life's less pleasant lessons is that sometimes communication does not make things better, and in this case I suspect you might be better off settling for the satisfaction of knowing you acted decisively and the vindication of being the dump-er rather than the dump-ee or some half-assed "oh, it was a mutual decision" resolution.

If you really feel she's taking you for granted this way, get her out of your life. Who knows, it might even make her realize how she's been treating you.

 

[Vykrel]

i think this is a final straw situation... dump her if she continues to be like that

 

[Thaius]

Talk to her first, them dump if she is unwilling to communicate with you. Communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship; if she is just being absent-minded, it's something you can work around. If she is willingly and purposefully not communicating with you as to these events, you will have many, many problems.

 

[smudgey]

Okay, you're going to need a shovel, some rope, a hacksaw.... wait, what are we talking about? Your girlfriend? Oh right, sorry. Ok, then you're going to need a shovel....

Just kidding! But seriously, if she's gonna ditch you to hang out with her friend/friends, she should at least have the decency to give you a call. It's not a lot to ask. If she's ditching you for a male friend, then dump her immediately.

 

[Ben Legend]

God, what is wrong with you people nowadays. Go and talk to her and explain how you feel. If she can't understand, or is unwilling to try and change, that when you should be on here looking for advice, not now.

Anyway, good luck.

 

[Shepard's Shadow]

If you have to ask the question....

Quick Clarification: Yes, you should.

 

[the_green_dragon]

Your call, I'm not even sure why you're asking this on a gaming website tho, cause I think you will get a biased answer.

Personally, I would dump her ass but thats cause I have no problem getting girls to go out with me. (check my badges! It says so)

 

[similar.squirrel]

Are you sure you can get another one?

 

[tehweave]

Not to offend here, but if you're seeking advice from an internet forum of mostly gamers (and approximately 70% of the population is male) then maybe you should think long and hard about whether you should be in a relationship in the first place.

My advice? If she keeps this up it's obvious that she doesn't care that much about hanging out with you. Part of me wants to say "Stick with it, you're waaaaaay overreacting" which you are, but at the same time, you shouldn't stay in a relationship with someone if they don't care about you.

I know this may sound bad, but I'm really fucking cynical when it comes to relationships.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

Dude, think... Maybe she's just not that into you man... she obviously shows you very little respect, and loyalty is obviously not too strong there, might be how you're treating her, you're tryin to give too much man, women don't like asskissers, if you think all you're worth is to kiss her ass and let her walk all over you, then maybe she sees you as not worth the time...

So yeah dump her ass, work on yourself and get someone who wants you...

 

[CobraX]

So when I get sick she doesn't even want to come over.

Dump Her.Do It.

 

[Adzma]

Straight up dump. That's my two cents. Relationships are meant to be an equal outing after all.

 

[Astoria]

I wouldn't dump her but it seems like you two need a serious talk. If she continues to do this after asking her not to then maybe consider dumping her but not until you've talked.

 

[kingkongmfg]

Just clone her and keep the spare in your closest.

 

[Shirokurou]

Confront her about this and see her reaction.

 

[Sampler]

Dude you're at the best point in a relationship now - you've made the emotional detachment, the relationships over BUT she doesn't know that yet and now you can push it for everything you've ever wanted to ask for but we're too scared.

Threesome with her sister? Up the gary glitter? Her sister up the gary?

I kid, sorta, you'd have to be a real jackass to pull that shit..
_>

 

[Leadfinger]

"when she was sick with strep throat and laryngitis (and swine flu when it was going around two years ago) I hung out with her all the time, I didn't care if I got sick, I want to be there for her, you know, if she needed anything or just didn't want to be lonely." Because you are really into her and want to be with her. That's how a partner is supposed to act. Plus she should be jumping your bones. Anyway, if she's not providing this, she's just not that into you.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Maybe you should consider talking to her instead of the internet, dude.

 

[s0p0g]

Why do you think we can answer this for you? Which of us could have even a mild amount of genuine knowledge of the situation? All we have here is one anecdote told from your perspective. You need to understand what you want, and you also need to understand things from her perspective. You're the only person in a position to do this, not us, not your mom, no one but you.

You talk to her about your feelings, not in a whiney lonely puppy way, but as a human being, tell her how you feel, ask her how she feels, try to understand where she's coming from and try your best to communicate where you're coming from. That takes courage, but until you do it, you can't really know what you should do. Only then should you make a decision, not us.

as this is pretty much what i was going to say, i will just sign this.

you are asking for a remote diagnosis, and a therapy, based on your (finite and) subjective perspective. the best and most honest advice we can give, i think, is that we cannot give any advice besides that you should have a serious talk with her.
all i can add is: please do not have this talk when you're about to explode; it will only get ugly then, but not constructive at all.
i hope you come to a mutually beneficial conclusion.