Should I finish with my "friends"?

[MattW456]

I know the internet is exactly the best place to be asking this kind of thing but you escapist types seem to be pretty intelligent and reasonable. Basically I have two main groups of friends which sort of overlap, the people in Group A are fine I have no problem with them but something is starting to bug me about the other guys, they're going on outings and various other friend type activities without inviting me, then telling me all about them afterwards and sometimes they're kind of vague when talking to me. Should I just not bother with them anymore and stick with who I consider to be my true friends?

 

[AngryMongoose]

I know the internet is exactly the best place to be asking this kind of thing but you escapist types seem to be pretty intelligent and reasonable

HERDY FURDY FURDY DURDY! KILL EM ALL Buggerit Buggerit, millenium hand and shrimp!

Seriously though, abandon them if they aren't fun to hang out with.

 

[ad4m101]

just ask if you can join them?

 

[Cherry Cola]

Yes, fuck em'. Hang out with the guys that show you the appreciation you deserve.

 

[DuplicateValue]

Maybe they don't consider you as part of the group yet?

Either way, at least you've got Group A to hang out with.

 

[Oh That Dude]

I'd spend more time with group A, and wouldn't go out of my way to talk to people in group B. Without making a fuss, unless it's pissed you off.

 

[MattW456]

Well i'm thinking its not that they dont consider me part of their group because up until about 3 or 4 weeks ago they invited me to everything, spoke to me alot etc. but now that all seems to have stopped. I'm leaning more to hanging out with the people who actually seem to appreciate and enjoy my company as of recently. In fact 2 days ago I asked one of Group B whether I could go to the cinema with them and the others on Friday, they said "yeah, yeah sure of course" then about an hour later they made it an event on facebook and invited everyone except me.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Well since I can't think of anything funny to say, I would suggest either confronting them, or just generally falling out of touch with them.

Or maybe they're all preparing a surprise party for you!

 

[Broady Brio]

I have been in that situation when I was much younger about 12-14, friends going out without inviting me then boasting about it afterward.

Yeah, I decided to change college and pretty much left them. Now one's gone into drugs, one's an absolute clown and bullied constantly and the rest, left to a different college. The leavers do the same still but I don't care anymore, I found better people.

So it's just them two. Alone. Most probably failing too in their studies.

Verdict: Fuck. Them. You'll be better off with Group A of yours.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[skeliton112]

Stalk them until they love you.
Stalking equals love.

Seriously, ask if you can come, if they say no ditch them.

 

[MattW456]

Firstly, thanks for the replies so far!
Also I don't think it's a simple misunderstanding even though i've considered it because they are doing much the same things as they used to do when they invited me, its just they don't seem to give a crap about inviting me anymore.

 

[SonicWaffle]

Firstly, thanks for the replies so far!
Also I don't think it's a simple misunderstanding even though i've considered it because they are doing much the same things as they used to do when they invited me, its just they don't seem to give a crap about inviting me anymore.

Have you mentioned this to them at all? If you can do so without soundy like a whiner, that is. It probably won't endear you to them.

You shouldn't "ditch" either group. You never know when you'll be really bored and all your friends will be busy. It's good to have a large pool of people to call on.

 

[MattW456]

Well I kind of didn't want to just leap up and go "blah blah why aren't you inviting me to anything" at the risk of, as you say, sounding like a whiny prick but i'm not sure if I should make the effort to speak to any of them if they can't be bothered to speak to me in the first place.

 

[r0qu3]

hmm...real friends are really really really rare...I think most people have around 3-5 real friends. Everything else is just people, contacts and acquaintance. Concentrate on those before mentioned real "friends" and let everything else "go by the flow"-- If they don't call, you don't. There are just 2 endings: you never talk again or the other person recognizes why she likes you and calls.

The most important thing is to stay relaxed and be prepared to always meet some kick-ass people to hang out with...which could happen everytime and everywhere also from directions you never thought about...


..simplify things!

 

[Paksenarrion]

HERDY FURDY FURDY DURDY! KILL EM ALL Buggerit Buggerit, millenium hand and shrimp!

You are one seriously angry mongoose!

OT: If you're putting them in quotation marks, start avoiding these "friends" of yours. I think you've already made up your mind, but need some good ol' fashioned psychological support from random online strangers about your decision. That's fine, and normal. There are a lot of threads like this in almost any forum.

 

[sleepykid]

Is the second group composed mainly of guys? 'Cause I can kind of see why they wouldn't invite you to things. I know I never do; with guys you just kind of show up and invite yourself. It's usually nothing personal; the logic being that if you wanted to go you'd say so. Or, at least that's been my experience.

 

[MattW456]

In fact it's the other way round, Group A consists of about 7 guys who have always been good friends with me and each other whereas Group B consists of slightly more girls than guys..

 

[Spacelord]

Maybe group B can be more casual than group A. I mean, there are many types of friends. you can still hang out with B but commit more to A, right?