So been single for years...is what I'm looking for too much?

[Vendayn]

Been single or years. Had gfs, never was happy because I always thought "well she is amazing, but not really my type or meet what I'm looking for at all"



You see...maybe its because I live in the city or/and what I'm looking for is just not possible. But you never see any female that likes getting dirty (not in that way ) but actually getting in the dirt and mud. And also likes insects and animals, and likes having pets...likes the outdoors (hiking, with camping as a bonus)...doesn't want children (I have social problems. Probably from my autism (high functioning form), wouldn't really want or could handle any children I'd have that would very likely get it as well)...doesn't want to spend all my money and doesn't like malls. I'm not interested in bars or partying or any of that shit.



Really most important part in that is liking insects/animals/pets/outdoors/no children. Everything else I guess is a huge bonus. But I go outside all the time, do stuff...but there is barely any females that like insects/animals/outdoors. Probably even less that are single. There are of course mountain bikers and I've seen women riding along. but I'm not really into biking and they are always with guys.



Now...I had a gf that liked the outdoors. I found out (heh, she got me good) she liked outdoor malls. Fell for that one



Is what I'm looking for just too much? I don't really feel like downgrading just to satisfy someone else. I mean, I'm happy being single and enjoy doing stuff with friends. But is there actually any female that likes and likes doing all that stuff? Do I just need to get out of the city to meet females like that? I mean most females I meet (well all females I've met), don't even like insects. Which is an immediate X, cause I keep lots of various insects and I would never get rid of anything just to make someone happy.



Guess being happy being single is a good thing. I'm happy with myself and how I look. Really having a gf isn't like how it was in middle school/high school...but it be nice to meet a female that was into all that. I have guy friends that like insects and stuff and like the outdoors, but just can't seem to find any female that is into that stuff. So again, is what I'm looking for in a female just too much to expect?

 

[NoeL]

Just move to the country, and/or look for girls that grew up in rural areas. I personally don't think I'd have "must like insects" as a priority, but if it means that much to you then whatever. Go to an entomology convention.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Of course women like that exist. I can attest to that because I am one. Keep in mind it's not just females who don't like bugs. I know plenty of men who are put off by my fondness of roaches and spiders.

I can assure you that somewhere in your city there is a woman wondering if she's doomed to be single forever because she's not 'feminine' enough and has strange hobbies. Just be patient, keep looking and don't give up based on some misguided notion that women are some homogenous group. You just happen to have minority interests.

 

[Jonluw]

I guess it's just an issue of looking in the right places.
Go to events related to outdoors life, mud, dirt, and insects. There's guaranteed to be girls there. See if you can get to know some people in these scenes.
If you like the outdoors, but the only scene you hang out at is the one that's occupied with city life, it's no wonder you're not finding girls who like the outdoors
Find friends who like the stuff you do. Don't worry too much about finding a girlfriend to begin with. Learn to love what you have and live your life happy with the kind of people who care about the stuff you care about. Someone you're compatible with romantically will probably come sliding into your life through the mud.

Maybe go on a countryside vacation this summer. See if you can find a summer fling at a farm or something. I mean, there are lots of possibilities. It just depends on how much effort you really want to invest in finding a girl that fits your specifications.

 

[BARQ]

Geographical limitation appears to be a major issue here. I know for certain that there's chicks out there who dig the great outdoors, hiking, camping, insect appreciation and higher forms of entertainment than shopping or breeding. Try looking away from the restricting cityscape.

Are there any campgrounds or small rural towns that you like to frequent? Try a weekend away during a holiday period like Easter or New Year's. You'll often find groups of younger folks hanging out in a bunch of tents waiting to make new friends. Maybe even a couple of nice gals, too.

The worst thing you can do is make generalisations and give up. All the criteria you described in a potential girlfriend matches me, for example. So we do exist, you just have to keep trying.

 

[gazumped]

I'd be careful about having a 'checklist' of things you want in a girlfriend. You may find yourself unhappy with girls who would make you happy if you weren't stressing that they don't check off the 'goals' you've set for your partners.

Of course you're going to want someone who has similar interests to you and wants to do similar things, etc, and like people said maybe you have to go to the places that those people might be more likely to be (survival courses, hiking trips, etc), but there are some things that, if you really liked the person (and why would you be dating her if you didn't?) it shouldn't be that hard to accept/work around those 'flaws' in them. If your girlfriend likes the outdoors and also likes shopping and socialising, then have trips in the outdoors together and let her go to the mall or to parties on her own/with her own friends. It's not hard?

Although the 'won't spend all my money' should really be a requirement for ANY partner...

 

[Super Kami Guru]

Whilst liking bugs is a bit specialist, women who love animals, pets and the outdoors are a lot more common than you think, hell, as I've always understood it women love a man who likes animals because it shows a caring and compassionate nature. Even in a relationship it's good have one thing that's just yours, for this is the playing of competitive paintball, there are quite a few girls who play it but would be a tall ask, so in my past relationship it became my thing to give each other that bit of time apart.

But trust me when I say there are loads of outdoors women out there, it's a misconception that the majority of women just want to hang around shopping malls all the time.