So I Had My Wallet Stolen Today

[Cheery Lunatic]

When in Japan my mother left her purse, filled with her passport and a shitload of American dollars, in a train station.
We came back like 8 hours later. Someone had fucking turned it in to security with not a single item missing. This situation happens pretty often in Japan too. I mean, they have their shitload of problems, but the Japanese are generally a very honorable sort.

Sorry, I guess that's not a great story to tell someone who just got his wallet stolen.
You have my sympathies though. You should ask the store if they have a video camera and if they remember anything about the assholes who jacked your wallet.

 

[Dangit2019]

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...am I selfish, for this?

Not at all. It's really not the ammount you lost, it's the vulnerability that you feel when some random douche can just take your stuff and leave. If that's selfish, then I have a story that shows I'm worse.

Basically, this dude robbed me before school with his gang of friends (because no one can just stand for themselves anymore), and took all that was on me: a whopping $4

Anyway, the idiot didn't know that the school had cameras EVERYWHERE, and so he got caught easilly. By that point, I was just pissed that he would be such a jerk to steal money from a dude he didn't even know, so I made a point of having the principal (we weren't allowed to talk face to face) tell him that I could have put his useless ass in jail for 2nd degree robbery (seriously, stealing $4 will actually make that possible). In the end, he got suspended, or something, they never really told me, and I...never got my $4 back. I really don't know why, it seemed that nobody had bothered about that except for me at that point.

The moral of the story is that when people act like jerks and victimize you (even for pocket change), it's more than losing what you had. It's the emotions of feeling powerless against the douchebaggery of others. I hope you feel better later.

Ps have you checked to see if they had cameras in there?

 

[Tanis]

I've had a fake wallet, but it was pointless to me because I tend to keep my wallet in my FRONT pocket and anything I get bumped I check it.

I've had ONE asshole steal my wallet after 'bumping' into me at the mall in front of Gamestop.
I followed him into gamestop (smart dude),
Punched him in the face (which hurts a lot more then you'd think),
got my wallet back by force (IE: I shoved my hand in his pocket while the other one grabbed this throat),
and waited for security to come by.

In the end I explained everything, showed them my wallet, had the employes vouch for me, and while they called the cops on him I got to buy my games.
-Though I WAS warned to not make a habit out of it.

For me...
My property is worth more then any punk kid 'well-being'.
He's lucky I didn't grab him by the balls, yank like a taffy machine, and break a few bones.
If you're gonna act like a scumbag you get what you deserve.

captcha:
downward slope

 

[Vicarious Reality]

I cried. A lot. Now I suffer from mild depression ad Asperger's and such so I'm used to having crazy reactions to things, but such crushing grief! I felt like no matter where I go, failure finds me. I felt like no matter how hard I try, things are bad anyway.

I know that feeling well, i too have the aspbergers and the last month or three has been the worst of my life
I feel like a damned alien

If anyone cares here is my recent story:

Spoiler: why would you, do not waste your time

I am contemplating just deleting all of this text and i did
it was an entire page of whining

 

[Evilpigeon]

I wouldn't feel down about it, angry sure. I certainly don't see why you should be feeling guilty about it, the whole 'first world problems' thing is a fallacy. there are people who have a worse life than you but why does that mean you're prohibited from feeling down when things go wrong for you.

Last time my wallet was stolen was in a nightclub and I was slaughtered so I went outside and had a go at the bouncers (again, drunk) wasn't my best idea. Nor was wandering home and attempting to freeze my card and get it replaced whilst still smashed. Whoever the poor woman on the other end of the call was, she obviously couldn't understand a word i was saying so my replacement card was sent to Hull

 

[Kordie]

You have every right to be upset about it. It doesn't matter if there was $5 or $500 in your wallet, it is your property. Someone took what was yours, and it is perfectly acceptable for that to make you angry/depressed. Do not hide from your feelings, let them out and then you can move on. I will say that if 2 months down the line you are still upset, or find yourself keeping distance from people, then go find some help. It will get better.

As an aside, my dad had his wallet stolen once, reported it to the police and everything. 2 weeks later the police come knocking, of course my dad thinks they found his wallet. Nope. They wanted to know why they found his wallet in a drug dealers house after they raided it. Brought him in for questioning and everything, only for him to explain "My wallet was stolen, you have the report..." So yea, fun times there. Right up there with getting a parking ticket in the mail for your stolen car.

 

[Ledan]

*snip*

Have a Hugs!
And kitties!
Go to icanhazcheesburger.com right now! Look at 2 pages of kittens.

Hope you feel better, and for the record: you aren't being selfish. or self-centered. or anything bad. Sometimes when to much shit happens in your life you just need to release some hormones through your eyeducts.... and has hugs!

 

[RedLister]

I fail to see how having your wallet stolen is considering selfish. You have done nothing wrong. You have NOT let anyone down. I would be just as freaked out and angry as you are if i had mine stolen and im sure alot of other people here would too.

 

[Waaghpowa]

I personally keep my wallet in my front pocket, if someone wants to try and take it, they better be brave enough to risk feeling me up. Also because I can't stand sitting on it. I also never take out my wallet till the moment of payment, reduces the window in which someone can take it.

Also don't think you're somehow selfish or it's your fault. It's your personal shit that you worked for etc.

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

So in our film course, we watched Indie Game: The Movie as part of, like, good documentary and stuff. And there was quite a lot in it that was incredibly moving and depressing - mostly, Phil Fish's story. Long story short, I came out of the film with this on my mind: gotta buy FEZ.

I'm sorry for skipping on the rest of the post, but... Really? They actually presented him in a good light? He was acting like such a nonstop ****, I didn't think it was possible.

Oh, it was really one-sided. But the man obviously was fractured, stressed and depressed. He was a ****, but he was a **** with the weight of the world on his shoulders. It was good ol' documentary heart-wringing tricks (sad music, clever editing, one-sided interviews etc.), but it was still pretty emotionally powerful. Plus it made FEZ look like a bright-eyed creative vision by a broken man, instead of just another gimmicky 2D platformer.

But yeah, a lot of Phil Fish's story was about his parents dying and his girlfriend breaking up with him and fans yelling at him and basically him sinking his entire life into a project that seemed to be burning up in front of him at every corner. Made the man a sympathetic, tragic figure; if not less of a ****. I think it was this bit that really got to me: they asked what he'd do if he didn't finish the game, and he answered,

"I'd kill myself." Deadly serious. Eurgh.

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

I cried. A lot. Now I suffer from mild depression ad Asperger's and such so I'm used to having crazy reactions to things, but such crushing grief! I felt like no matter where I go, failure finds me. I felt like no matter how hard I try, things are bad anyway.

I know that feeling well, i too have the aspbergers and the last month or three has been the worst of my life
I feel like a damned alien

If anyone cares here is my recent story:

Spoiler: why would you, do not waste your time

I am contemplating just deleting all of this text and i did
it was an entire page of whining

PM me, I care.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

About a week ago, my house was broken into. Just saying, I'm pretty sure I know how you feel. That said...Yeah, your reaction is pretty insane. These people broke into my house, stole about 250 dollars worth of stuff, and walked right past an oblivious me to do it. (I was in my room with my door closed and headphones in. Only one in the house) I was a bit scared and pissed off for a while, but I'm over it now.

Now, it sounds like you have to deal with a couple of simple facts:

1. Shit happens. This time, it happened to you. It sucks, but the damage has been done. There was nothing you could have done to stop it, so now the only thing you can do is GET OVER IT. Dwelling on it will NOT make it any better. Do whatever damage control is necessary (canceling cards, replacing ID, etc.) and get on with your life. There is NOTHING to be gained from dwelling on this. The best thing you can do is just forget about it.

2. By dwelling on it anyway and freaking the fuck out, you have made a mistake. You ARE being selfish and ridiculous and narcissistic and what-have-you.. But that's OK: People make mistakes. What really matters is what you do once you REALIZE you've made a mistake. Basically, you can either choose to sit around feeling shitty about your mistake(which, in this case, will put you in a bit of a downward spiral from the sound of things), OR you can learn from it, and add something to your "Big List of Things You Shouldn't Do Again", next to "touching the stove before Mom finishes explaining what it is" and "Eating anything that you think might be mayonnaise". (I'm assuming everyone else did these things as a child too)

SHORT VERSION: Shit happens, get over it. If you do something stupid and you KNOW it's stupid, then stop doing that thing. It ABSOLUTELY IS that simple.

Wow I don't normally have this much empathy for a stranger, but I'm glad they just stole your shit and didn't kill you.

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

Am I selfish, for losing $30 and a housekey?

You only had S30 and a housekey in your wallet?

If I would have lost my wallet, I would have lost....
-Thirty euros
-ID card
-Driver's license
-Credit card
-'University-card'
-Insurance card
-Access to the archives
-And some other stuff

At least you won't have to apply for a dozen new cards.

I cried. A lot. Now I suffer from mild depression ad Asperger's and such so I'm used to having crazy reactions to things, but such crushing grief!

Asperger's might explain it. I'm diagnosed with it too. I've got my routine and *please don't disturb it*. If you're already busy and a little stressed, and then something like this happens and you're routine is completely f*cked up... I understand it.

As for the solution... I think the thing that might help a little bit... is the Merovingian from the Matrix.

Causality. There is no escaping it. We are forever slaves to it. Our only hope, our only peace is to understand it, to understand the why. Why is what separates us from them, you from me. Why is the only real source of power, without it you are powerless.

Understand your own psychology. It gives you some kind of power over it.

Oh no, I had much more than just $30 and my housekey. That's all that can't be replaced without significant loss, I mean. I have like 30 cards to various things - ID cards for school and my driver's license and all that - but that won't cost me any money to replace.

What is a significant loss is that my USB drive with all my schoolwork on it was in my wallet.

*seethes*

 

[CaptainMarvelous]

I had someone try and mug me once which just... didn't work out for anyone. Did have the hilarious moment where I took my hood down and he felt compelled to add "I'm not racist" -_- f*cking idiot.

I HAVE lost my wallet though; because I left it on a bus. I cancelled everything in it and lost maybe 5 pounds?

It's understandable to feel upset and all that jazz but it's not that bad. Check to see if the store's got cameras, probably got a look at the idiot's faces and then you can have the joy of watching them get sent down o.o-b

 

[namhorFnodroG]

Don't blame yourself for it, it's not your fault at all. Nobody is gonna blame you for crying, everybody can be on the edge sometimes, and it's nothing unusual. And your not selfish, you got stolen off your wallet, anybody in the world would feel bad incase that happend. These things happend to everybody every once in a while, and everybody needs to deal with it. Just hold your head up high, and go through it. Best of wishes mate ;3

 

[JediMB]

I think Kisaragi Gentarō has a few words of "wisdom" for this situation:

Spoiler: Gentaro says...

Not sure what I'd do if I lost my wallet. Which is why I'm super-paranoid about keeping it safe at all times. '-'