So, I might be moving out of my parent's house soon... Any advice?

[ShotgunZombie]

So as many a teenager will tell you, I don't get along well with my folks. Now don't get me wrong, I love them, they're my parents after all. But as cliched as it sounds, we argue about everything. They don't respect my privacy, they say I don't help out enough around the house, they say I should be getting straight A's, etc etc. Frankly it's all very annoying, and I'm tired of it. I have a job, I help out as much as I can, I haven't failed a class yet and I don't ever plan to. But they won't stop pestering me about every stupid little thing.
Anyway enough of my bitching. Last month I met a friend of mine on the Trolley (think of a small bus only free) and our conversation led us into 'annoying parents' territory. He told me how he had moved out and in with a friend of his. I jokingly asked him if he could put in a good word for me and to my surprise he said he'd ask. He told me to expect his call in the following weeks and on Tuesday I got the call. His friend, the owner of the house, had agreed to let me move in for $160 a month. I'll be moving in around September 30th, my next payday.
So Escapist, any advice for a stupid teenager?

 

[Draconalis]

Sounds like all your plans are already been made and there's nothing to say really. You're stepping into the real world. It can be a big and frightening place.

The advice I would give is swallow your pride and live with your parents for as long as you can in order to put the rent your not paying towards further educating yourself in college. It sounds like a moot point though.

Don't give up on your education just because you're out of the house. And put serious thought into what you want to do with the rest of your life.

 

[Zero47]

From my own experience I have two tips.

-Get your finances set straight.

Discuss financial support with your parents, most parents will have planned to support you when you move out in some way. Leaving respectfully and in good communication is important for your relationship with your parents in the future. Moving out is huge, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

Finances have a way of creeping up on you if you don't prepare on the responsibility of handling them.

-Keep a routine, don't slouch too much.

Not cleaning up, not cooking, showering, working, keeping contact, etc. These things tend to snowball into patterns of negative behaviour. These negative patterns will affect your mood. A good example is cleaning, a messy home weighed pretty heavily on my mood. I knew I should've been cleaning but the mess had already stacked up so bad that it deterred me further from doing it. Eventually the effect of this procastrination on my mood was so heavy that the actual effort of cleaning it up was little in comparison.


Optional evilmode finance tip: Get your parents to pay for your food, they would've been if you had stayed at home anyways and exhaggerate your rent and periodic costs, to recieve more money. So you can smoke more weed ofcourse.

 

[bizentine]

ALWAYS assume everything costs more than it does and you have less money than you do.

 

[ShotgunZombie]

Spoiler: Draconalis

Sounds like all your plans are already been made and there's nothing to say really. You're stepping into the real world. It can be a big and frightening place.

The advice I would give is swallow your pride and live with your parents for as long as you can in order to put the rent your not paying towards further educating yourself in college. It sounds like a moot point though.

Don't give up on your education just because you're out of the house. And put serious thought into what you want to do with the rest of your life.

Funny, this is what most people have been telling me. I am more than a little nervous (shitting bricks to be exact). But that being said I don't plan to stop going to school also I'm in too deep and I can't back out now.

Spoiler: Zero47

From my own experience I have two tips.

-Get your finances set straight.

Discuss financial support with your parents, most parents will have planned to support you when you move out in some way. Leaving respectfully and in good communication is important for your relationship with your parents in the future. Moving out is huge, don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

Finances have a way of creeping up on you if you don't prepare on the responsibility of handling them.

-Keep a routine, don't slouch too much.

Not cleaning up, not cooking, showering, working, keeping contact, etc. These things tend to snowball into patterns of negative behaviour. These negative patterns will affect your mood. A good example is cleaning, a messy home weighed pretty heavily on my mood. I knew I should've been cleaning but the mess had already stacked up so bad that it deterred me further from doing it. Eventually the effect of this procastrination on my mood was so heavy that the actual effort of cleaning it up was little in comparison.


Optional evilmode finance tip: Get your parents to pay for your food, they would've been if you had stayed at home anyways and exhaggerate your rent and periodic costs, to recieve more money. So you can smoke more weed ofcourse.

Heh, that evil mode suggestion was pretty funny but my parent's have a habit of not taking things well. I wouldn't say that they'd go so far as too disown me or anything like that but we'd probably stop talking to each other for a while. Any though of them giving me support would probably go down the John along with said communication. That routine advice is probably what I need to work on.

Spoiler: bizentine

ALWAYS assume everything costs more than it does and you have less money than you do.

Trust me I live and breathe this even now that I have so few expenses.

Anyway thanks for your advice, all your advice. I'm still pretty nervous but that's natural I guess. I don't plan on backing out of this now but I also don't plan on backing out of school or work. So, wish me luck I guess, and again thanks for hearing out a random a stranger.

 

[Acier]

Sounds like people have already given solid advice.

Just to add in some stuff

Don't be a spoiled *****. Now this may sound harsh, and I'm not saying you are. It must be a symptom of me constantly being around some very affluent people. But honestly, if the house isn't top notch or your room is really tiny. Don't cry about it. I almost had to pay $180 for a space and that didn't even have four walls. You're getting a cheap price so expect cheap results, but get used to them. You're just starting out in life and wherever you live is probably going to be much lower quality than whatever your parents could provide, with their stable jobs and stuff.

Since you'll be having roommates, learn to pick your battles with them. And be empathetic to what *you* could be doing that can be causing problems in the house. And take steps to be moreof a people person. Respect other's privacy, but don't the same level of it you had before (especially if you had a *ton* at home, it can be weird at first. My roommate right now is actually fresh from a house and she still changes in the bathroom. It's cute)

 

[Simalacrum]

Don't let yourself become messy. A mistake that is often made by people who move out of their parents house is they think "woohoo! no more rules!" and then let things tumble down from there. Don't be that guy. Make sure to organise yourself, work out what the house rules are, etc etc.

 

[DarkishFriend]

Learn to budget, quick. When living on your own, not having money means you may not be eating. Be able to plan and schedule too because now that you live on your own, it's entirely up to you to get you moving. Develop an inexpensive hobby, because odds are you're gonna be scrapped for cash.

 

[dmase]

Wait... you've never met the person your moving in with. Even if you have living with someone just gets fucking annoying. My best bud, me, and our boss all get along but for a few months we where all living together almost every day and by the end of it I was tired of the both of them.

Anyways learn how to do dish's, do laundry, cook, and pay rent. You'll be good.

 

[instantbenz]

dishes, laundry, groceries and other home-type responsibilities suck. but learning them is essential

best of luck. save quarters, don't have a lot of dishes so you don't have that many to clean and buy fruit and veggies ... they're pretty important

soda and funions an imbalanced diet make

 

[KaiserKnight]

Budget, think of what you will need not what you want and can get.

Health wise eat healthy, cook at home more often since it is better for your body and wallet.

Do not forget to leave the place time to time for either a walk or meeting up with friends, staying home alone all the time can be bad mentally.

Plan for your future, save up for things you want (college, car, moving to a better place) and work towards that. Goals are good to have and you do not want to live there forever...unless its your dream place for some reason.

Google ehow laundry and basic house hold chores, simple workouts and such. Working out is good on many levels and it makes sure you are never lazy, doing laundry correctly will save you from buying new clothes and it is good knowledge.

That's all I can say for now mate, good luck.

 

[Rin Little]

As much as you probably hate going to your parents, never be afraid to ask them for help. I moved out when I was 19 and then just recently had to move back in because I couldn't afford to live on my own anymore where I was previously living. Don't get me wrong, I can't wait to get back out on my own again, but I need to make sure I have my finances in order and can actually afford it where I'm at now.

 

[IndomitableSam]

More advice from a grown-up: stay home. Every teenager wants to do this, and every teenager that does later regrets it. Sit down, talk to your parents, finish school, then decide. Moving out with friends never, EVER ends well. Finish school, then grow up.

 

[Cptntequila]

Buy plastic cups, paper plates and plastic silverware. Not having to do dishes rocks. I lived like this during University and then the first few years of glorious bachelorhood. For some reason it seems like doing dishes causes more arguments than any other chore in the house.

Don't get a dog or cat. As much as you may want one you don't realize how much work and time a pet like that is until its too late.

And always put on a helmet before going to war. Nothing can screw up your early adult life worse then having a baby you don't want!

Good Luck!!!