so i'm about to become homeless. help?

[SovietSecrets]

Try crashing at a friends for the time being until things simmer down. I was thrown out of the house a couple of months ago after I got into a huge argument with my mom about not having a job and then stayed at a friends until she became reasonable again.

 

[Orcus The Ultimate]

Maybe she just overreacted and wanted you to learn a lesson by living by yourself, although i can only tell you that time will heal the wounds. And remember that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

 

[Darchrow]

Firstly you have my full sympathy, but I have to think that studying in London isn't cheap, most likely more expensive than anywhere else, you could get Chemical Engineering courses in other places which are better (unless you're aiming for Imperial College UK). Have you tried looking into Heriot-Watt University for a Chemical Engineering degree? Its in Edinburgh but will most likely be a cheaper solution if you ever want to become a Chemical Engineer, I know a lot of girls in my Chemical Engineering course you mother is just being VERY unreasonable. I hope things work out for you and being that you actually want to do something with your life instead of mess about in University I want to somehow help you but we're just random people on the internet and I will most likely never hear of you again. Best of luck.

 

[x0ny]

I haven't been to Download since 2005 back when Slayer and Nightwish played. Now it's just a bunch of shit bands with 1 or 2 legends, Iron Maiden and Kiss have appeared recently.

OT: Maybe your mum isn't just mad about you going to Download, perhaps there are many small things which have built up as time went on and the decision of going to Download finally blew her top off. Did you have a bad attitude with her in the past since becoming a teenager? Or maybe your mum just feels it's a little bit too much for her to cope by herself without the support of your father.

My suggestion would be to let the dust settle, give it 2 or 3 days, go back, apologise sincerely, cry your eyes out if you have to, tell her you know you were wrong in the past or whatever. You said she's not someone who can be reasoned with, that kinda tells me you don't have a great relationship with her. But perhaps if she saw that you know the error of your way, she'll be more lenient.

 

[David Bray]

Or just dont go Download. Trust me, it's not that good.

 

[Denamic]

long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.

You don't have to reason with her.
Seeing as you use £, I'm guessing you're brittish.
In which case she can't legally throw you out.

 

[Darchrow]

Well download this year has the line up of, ACDC, Aerosmith and Rage against the Machine, so I'm GOING.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

It could be that she is in a rage right now and not able to think rationally. Wait a while and try to speak with her. I know you told me not to say that in the OP, but I honestly think its the best course of action. I was kicked out several times by my Mom while still in high school, and every time it was because of the above reason. If that doesn't work, try calling Scotland's equivalent of Child Protection Services, if you have it. I'm not sure what age you stop being a minor in Scotland, but I'm pretty sure it's not 16, so they may help you.

EDIT- I just read various posts regarding her being allowed to kick you out. Still, school may be able to help support you until you graduate, at which point you should be able to get quite a bit of financial aid due to supporting yourself. Also, try friends and family friends. Even your mother's friends might help you if you present your case strongly enough, or they might reason with her. Basically, you're going to need help with this, so try to find it wherever you can.

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

You remind me of an old friend. Hopefully you have better luck in the end than him.

You don't have to reason with her.
Seeing as you use £, I'm guessing you're brittish.
In which case she can't legally throw you out.

Legally. You know at school when they tell you the Social are nice people? They're lieing. Getting them involved will only serve to exasperate the situation.

 

[Oomii]

Go to your school councilor or something. Explain your issues. They won't let your parents through you out. If not they'll at least give you a place to stay.

If worse comes to worse, just stay near your house, no way any parent will let you starve.

 

[King of the N00bs]

um...get a job?

 

[Dr Poochenstein]

um...get a job?

No no, that's too easy.

 

[Dahni]

-snip-

I don't expect people to start throwing their money or anything. That was never my intention. I was just more after websites/helplines/general advice about it. But people asked for the reasons and so I put them up. Maybe I should have just left the reasons out, because they are irrelevant. I'm not after pity. I wouldn't even know HOW to get people to transfer me money. I know I don't have that many posts in comparison to others but I have a few fairly established friendships with other more "popular" members of the escapist. So yeah, you may not see me posting in every single thread and whatnot, but I do know a fair number of people. Since when did post count REALLY matter? I don't give a shit if some creep on a forum somewhere collected money off people on the internet and spent it on whatever he wanted. If you're assuming I'm trying to harvest money off people, you've got me fucking wrong and all I can say is fuck you, mate.

I posted this on here because I'd like to think that people here are at least a bit more sensible than people on, say, myspace or bebo. Most people on here are older and are more likely to have some kind of experience or understanding of my situation. I'm 16 for christ's sake. I don't know where to look for advice and I've got this site as one of my possible resources for gathering information so I don't go make a completely stupid decision.

As I said, I was also looking for general advice. While americans can't say "oh you can go to this this and this website", they can give me general bits of advice that would prove useful. The british members of the Escapist, particularly the older ones, probably have an understanding of the housing system and getting jobs specifically in the UK. Excuse me for wanting to try find out all my options before I go applying for a council house or living in a box behind a fucking bin.

I feel sorry for your predicament. I really do. But are you really justified in assuming I'm trying to con people out of their cash? no, no you aren't.

I've got a deferred conditional for Brighton University, which is not far outside London and I'm waiting on responses from the other one I applied to. Either way, I never did ask my mum to support me through university. My plan was to finish my Highers, get a job, work full-time through the summer, switch back to part-time for my 6th year then go to university, by this point having saved enough money to get me started & keep myself going til I got a part-time job down in/around London. Essentially, I was planning to totally support myself. Obviously my plan is far more substantial than this but that is the bare bones of it.

 

[Dahni]

um...get a job?

Sorry, I'm in the UK. Recession ahoy. My area still has a shitload of unemployment. I'm competing, not only with people who have been made redundant but all the people in my year and the year below at school that are 16/17 and now looking for jobs.

 

[Insanum]

HOWEVER, I'm somewhat jaded when it comes to pleas for charity over the Internet (which is where I see this going). Over the years I've seen many attempts similar to this to get people from various communities to send people money due to a sob story. With 500 posts under your belt you also hardly seem to be a regular here, which leads me to wonder why you'd be putting this up here of all places.

I know Dahni is quite capeable of defending herself, But she didnt ask for money, She asked for advice[/U]. There probably is more to this story than meets the eye, but if you look at this way, she's a 16 year old girl who is getting kicked out for trying to live her life, she's turning to the biggest group of sensible (ish) people she can for advice, not for a handout. P.s post count doesnt always = Experience. People who only use forum games have huge post counts, But it doesnt mean they're any more experienced that you or I, but that is a debate for another time.

So yeah, Not meant in a nasty way or nothing, But lighten up on the Dahni, please.

 

[Flying Dagger]

At that age i was being told i was going to be kicked out once a week.
Make it clear that it's what you want to do, and she's not going to stop you.

and clear your fucking room up, that just makes you sound like a whiny little kid

 

[Gladion]

um...get a job?

Sorry, I'm in the UK. Recession ahoy. My area still has a shitload of unemployment. I'm competing, not only with people who have been made redundant but all the people in my year and the year below at school that are 16/17 and now looking for jobs.

Surely you have qualities other people don't have. Don't give up that easily - I know it can be hard to find a job, I'm in the German film industry for crying out loud, which wouldn't even exist without the governments sponsoring it. So, I know it's not easy, but it's neither impossible.

 

[Jeronus]

Burn her house down and steal her car. This is where it gets tricky. Sell the car for enough money to get you out of the country. Fly to New York and try to learn a decent American accent. Walk to the phone booth where a man in pink suit is talking. Speak the phrase, " The Eagle never dances when it's hammertime. " He will hand you a suitcase with exactly 100,000 USD and walk away. You will be asked to do a favor. We will come to you and no matter what you are doing or where you are you will be expected to perform this immediately and without fail. If you fail to comply, everyone you know will be silenced and you will be imprisoned for the remainder of your life.

 

[Dahni]

At that age i was being told i was going to be kicked out once a week.
Make it clear that it's what you want to do, and she's not going to stop you.

and clear your fucking room up, that just makes you sound like a whiny little kid

my room has been cleared up.

She already stopped me from going to university this year by phoning the school and telling them not to send away my UCAS application.