So there's this girl that betrayed my friend and tried to manipulate me...

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IonicHawk

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She used to be my best friend and her ex boyfriend is also one of my best friends. A year ago the girl (I will refer to her as T-Virus from now on) went on a trip out of the country to visit a potential university. During this trip, she cheated on her BF (I will call him Chris from now on) and broke up with him when she came home with the illusion that she was in a relationship with the boy she met in her trip. When the dude from out of the country told her he didn't want to have anything with her, she came running back to Chris. Wanna know the sad part about all of this? Chris accepted her apology and went back with her. Yes, I know he was an idiot and he still regrets that decision to this very day (too bad he learned his lesson a bit too late).

After a few months, T-virus started to make Chris's life impossible since after her trip she became very possessive, jealous, and ...well ...she frequently had intense sexual desires. She was in the top 3 of our advanced level class (along with yours truly), she was very shy and calm, so I think this is a strange mood change for someone like her right? I assume she did it because she thought it was a good way to keep Chris under her thumb even after all the crap she put him through, with all the jealousy and such. This method of persuasion started to wear off as she became worse in terms of attitude so she needed a new way to manipulate Chris, enter Wesker (I'm sticking to the Resident Evil codenames, ok? lol) a childhood friend of Chris that T-Virus started flirting with so that Chris got jealous. Again, her attempt to control Chris worked like a charm making him jealous of Wesker and eventually driving them to become enemies.

By now you may be asking yourself: IonicHawk, you devilishly handsome gentleman, what's this got to do with you? Well during one of her crazy moments, T-virus got both Chris and Wesker angry at her, so she went to her best friend for emotional support. Guess who that friend was -____- I then start to notice something strange going on (at this moment I didn't know about anything that was going on, since I thought she had broken up with Chris a while ago and I didn't know about Wesker), because she was being very flirty with me. So you have me, a 17 year old geek who's never had a girlfriend before and was ignorant of everything that was going on, and this beautiful best friend who I've had a crush on for a long time that shares all my common interests, is very smart, and is starting to flirt with me, what do you do? Well naturally I fell for her and after a week of hanging out nonstop she suddenly was ignoring me. This is when I realize that she was only trying to get Wesker jealous, to get Chris jealous. Yup, I felt like a goddamned fool. Not only that, after what she did to me, she tried to do it again thinking I was a fool, but I wasn't going to let her so I did the most logical thing. I designed a plan that would turn her into the most hated person in our class, turn all her friends against her, and ruin her reputation.

I know what you're thinking, and I agree it was maybe a little childish on my part to do that, but look at what she had done! She destroyed any self esteem Chris had, turned lifelong friends to hate each other, broke my heart and then started to talk behind her other friend's back things which I don't think I'm allowed to say in this forum (some best friend I had right?). To top it all of, she still had this image to the rest of the world that she was a saint, which pissed me off even more!! All I wanted to do was give her a taste of her own medicine. After all my planning and pondering my plan finally fell into motion but something went wrong. While I did do some damage, she managed to out smart me and come out half ok after it, proving she was better than me at everything I tried.

It's been 3 months since we graduated and she's in the country for 3 more weeks before she leaves to make a new life for herself and I still have the bitter taste of defeat. The one positive thing that my plan managed to do was make Chris come to his senses and dump that evil witch. Right now, T-Virus is currently Wesker's girlfriend and she's having a ton of fun with friends her momy and daddy bought her (they're rich) and I can't help but feel like at the end of Portal with 'Still Alive' rolling in the credits. So now I ask, should I try to beat her at her own game again or should I just go on with my life and accept defeat?

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Sp3ratus

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IonicHawk said:
While I agree, it seems quite vindictive way of getting back at her, I can certainly understand the motivation behind it.

My advice though, is just accept defeat and move on. I know it's easy for me to sit here and say that and it's not nearly as easy to do in real life, but it's really the only right thing to do. Even if you decide to get revenge, it'll be a shortlived victory, you'll get over it and forget it, she'll get over it(eventually anyway) and you'll both get on with your lives, so it won't really change anything. Also, be the bigger man and don't stoop to her level, that way she haven't won over you completely, at least that's how I see it.

Besides, three weeks is such a short time, she'll be gone from your life very soon and you can move on and forget about it. That's what I'd try to do, if I was in the same situation. Just make sure everything's cool with "Chris" and support him, as he probably won't get over it, as you can.

EDIT: Oh, and also welcome to the Escapist, stay out of the basement.
 

Simalacrum

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I have one phrase for you my friend, and that is that karma's a *****.

Walk away from this one, and know that she'll eventually not be able to get away with being such a horrible person. Either she'll grow up and recognise that what she did back then was horrible on her own, or someone else will eventually teach her that lesson. Forcibly.
 
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Going on with your life isn't admitting defeat, you know. You showed her that her perfect reputation CAN be tarnished (even it it was only by a bit). Besides, she's going to meet her match one day and get severely owned. It almost ALWAYS happens.

Just take solace in that, and move on, confident in the knowledge that someday, someone much better at you than this sort of vengeance thing is gonna get her.
 

Samurai Goomba

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What did I just read? O_O

What is this I don't even...

No really, what in the world did you write? I need to be alone to process this to a point of understandingness.
 

IonicHawk

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azraelthor said:
IonicHawk said:
I say move on, take the fact that Chris dumped her as a victory. Also I am curious as to what your plan was.
My plan was 4 stages. The first one was to wait till she got Chris and Wesker angry again, so that when Chris was separated from her I could talk some sense into him and not let him fall for the same BS she kept telling him. After being separated from the guys, I expected her to come running to me again, like she did before, and I would be there for her in the "best friend" kinda way. Then any evidence I could get of her talking crap about her "friends" I would expose anonymously in Facebook. Since I made sure Chris and Wesker weren't there for her, she'd come to the only person that could provide her with moral support, me, and then I would just tell her how I was responsible for everything that happened, leaving her friendless, boyfriendless, and (I'm pretty sure) with trust issues.

aegix drakan said:
Going on with your life isn't admitting defeat, you know. You showed her that her perfect reputation CAN be tarnished (even it it was only by a bit). Besides, she's going to meet her match one day and get severely owned. It almost ALWAYS happens.

Just take solace in that, and move on, confident in the knowledge that someday, someone much better at you than this sort of vengeance thing is gonna get her.
Maybe I worded it wrong. It's not that my plan failed, since every stage was completed. The problem was that in my school the whole class (as in every senior) was divided in 3 groups of classrooms. I only managed to expose her in 1 of the groups and she got to the other 2 before I did as soon as she realized everything. What gets me the most angry is that even after what I did to her, she's still messing with Chris through other means. First she started going to a psychologist and blamed Chris for giving her an eating disorder (complete bs), then she involved her parents and they threatened to sue me, Chris, and her old friends (which ended up being an empty threat), and finally accused Chris of raping her since she's 17 and he's 18 (even though they were both 17 when they slept together). I feel defeated because even after I won the battle she ended up winning the war. I just hope I never see her again and wish her a happy rest of her life.

Samurai Goomba said:
What did I just read? O_O

What is this I don't even...

No really, what in the world did you write? I need to be alone to process this to a point of understandingness.
lol I just realized after reading my post again that my entire senior year could be written as a bad fanfic for almost any anime or videogame. Truth is stranger than fiction I guess.
 

Pyrofirestrike

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There really isn't anything you can do aside from just let it go and move on. She's leaving the country. If anything, you can try to get Wesker out of this poisonous relationship for his own sake. It's a lovely think called Karma. And if its one saying that I live by, "Whatever you do onto someone, will be done onto you threefold". She will get what is coming to her. Don't stress yourself out, since you will never have to deal with her again.
 

Javarock

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I say that its high time to get the hell out. Invite Chris to someplace, And have a few drinks and celebrate that the ***** is leaving. Just leave her, eventually she will have something bad happen to her as justice.
 

TonyVonTonyus

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Chances are it will all come back to haunt her. Don't go looking for revenge but when the opportunity for taking revenge comes to you I suggest you take it.
 

Mr.logic

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life. Ah life.

Not much to say dude besides I never even knew you or read this comment before today, and I still saw this coming.
 

Galletea

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Honestly I think you'd be best to move on and try to forget about it. This ***** has manipulated you Chris and Wesker, and she may have some issues of her own making her quite so curel. Trying to get back at her now is not going to do anyone any good. If you fail then you'll feel ten times worse, and if you succeed will you really feel satisfied?
Forget about her, move on, find something that makes you happy. Or someone, or both.
 

Alorxico

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(reads) ... Wow. You have the makings for a great novel, my friend, and that might be your answer. Trying to back stab, one-up and humiliate people is dangerous and by the sounds of things you still have some hurting to get over. Put those emotions to good use. Grab a pen (or open Word) and start typing. Create an ending or make it a cliff-hanger. Get people to read it, edit it, then print it ... and on the dedication page, write "Dedicated to the survivors of true events. You know who you are and YOU know who YOU are."

Putting things on paper will help you heal, because it is out of your head and on something physical you can destroy. And, as an author, you are "god", you can make ANYTHING happen to your characters, which might satisfy your desire for revenge. And if you happen to make a little money out of it, then you're the one with the last laugh.
 

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i'm in a bit of a similar boat, not with the situation as such, but having what you thought was your best friend ending up to be the complete opposite and disrespectful. my 'best friend', i'll call her laura, ended up lying to me about, well, loads. she told me she was french and had a twin sister that died from lung cancer and her mother thought it was laura's fault so tried to kill her, so laura had to move to New Zealand for protection, and that she used to be in a band and all the guys wanted to get with her, BS BS BS, lying straight to my face for years. yet before that she was a good friend, and part of me wanted to say "f u, i'm over all of it", yet i didn't want to lose her, just her lies (i'd confronted her before when she claimed she had cancer, which ended up with ME having to apologize to HER), i thought that she would grow up and stop acting immature, but she never did. so my mates and i made a plan, and my mate asked her where she was born, to which she said france, to which my mate said to her that i had seen her birth certificate, saying she was born in New Zealand (which i have). but trust me, if your mate is anything like mine was, they will do whatever possible to prove your theory wrong. i ended up just leaving her alone and deleting her off facebook etc. but i do know that a good friend is very hard to forget, no matter what you do, especially when you remember good times yous had together. it's been about a month since i've talked to laura, and if you're planning to do the same, just remember to be strong and keep telling yourself that no matter what happens, it's a better life without them in it :)
 

Entropyutd

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IonicHawk said:
Is this the plot to a coming of age teen movie that lacks the ending?

Chris is out of it, so are you, she's going away very soon with some guy you don't give a crap about.
What goes around comes around.
She might have cheated first, but she also got fucked over big time by her overseas lover. Call it 1-1 and move on.
 

GestaltEsper

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Entropyutd said:
IonicHawk said:
Is this the plot to a coming of age teen movie that lacks the ending?

Chris is out of it, so are you, she's going away very soon with some guy you don't give a crap about.
What goes around comes around.
She might have cheated first, but she also got fucked over big time by her overseas lover. Call it 1-1 and move on.
Not that I disagree with your advice but where did it say she got fucked over? Seems like she's doing just fine.