So there's this guy...

[Hallow'sEve]

(thanks RAKtheUdead for showing me the new forum)

It's embarrassing and futile to discuss personal problems over the internet, so...
So for a while I've been lending money to a guy (a friend, and I use that word tentatively) I met at college. We get along enough, but he's yet to pay me back, and it's been more than a month. He owes me, roughly, $125 but I don't see him paying it back. He either won't answer my texts, busy, or "out of money". He said he was gonna pay me back since he was able to go to the ATM the other day but he never did, and refused to meet with me even though we were on the same bus (he was on the phone with his girlfriend).

The question is, should I just let it go or try and get what's mine?

It's really hard for me because after realizing he's been using me for the semester I'd much prefer revenge than money. But since I'm not eager to spend life behind bars, I'll settle for money. I am a proud person, I admit it. Knowing that he manipulated me is more insulting, and I'd give him another $125 just to never see him again, the money doesn't matter.
Only recently when I explained the situation to his roommate (which I felt obligated, because I'd been knocking on his door for a few days now looking for my friend that wasn't there) did he call me back. He threatened to beat the shit out of me if I told anyone else about how much money he owes me.
I don't care about getting beat up, we've already been in a few fights (although drunk at the time). But the idea of him trying to use intimidation to shut me up even further just adds insult to injury.

TL;DR:
A douchebag won't pay me back my $125, to fight or flight?

 

[Count Igor]

Dooblé thread!
Just thought I should inform you.

 

[movienut]

Well, as I said on the other thread, I think the only option you are going to really have (that wont end in this escalating) is to let it go and consider it a life lesson. Avoid the guy in the future. I am sorry you lost your money.

 

[Hallow'sEve]

Dooblé thread!
Just thought I should inform you.

Well, yeah, but I was supposed to move it here, this is the right forum.

You want me to delete one of the threads?
(can I even do that?)

 

[Hallow'sEve]

Threaten to rape him.

That will work.

I'm pretty sure I'd get an STD, even with a condom

 

[Imp Poster]

Ask him why he needs to threaten you when all he has to do is pay you back. It's not like you like to get in his face, but $125 is $125, you know?

 

[Amnestic]

Might just be me, but there's no way in hell I'd let some guy 'borrow' $125 off me and then not pay it back.

He threatened to beat the shit out of me if I told anyone else about how much money he owes me.

Call his bluff.

 

[ProtoChimp]

(thanks RAKtheUdead for showing me the new forum)

It's embarrassing and futile to discuss personal problems over the internet, so...
So for a while I've been lending money to a guy (a friend, and I use that word tentatively) I met at college. We get along enough, but he's yet to pay me back, and it's been more than a month. He owes me, roughly, $125 but I don't see him paying it back. He either won't answer my texts, busy, or "out of money". He said he was gonna pay me back since he was able to go to the ATM the other day but he never did, and refused to meet with me even though we were on the same bus (he was on the phone with his girlfriend).

The question is, should I just let it go or try and get what's mine?

It's really hard for me because after realizing he's been using me for the semester I'd much prefer revenge than money. But since I'm not eager to spend life behind bars, I'll settle for money. I am a proud person, I admit it. Knowing that he manipulated me is more insulting, and I'd give him another $125 just to never see him again, the money doesn't matter.
Only recently when I explained the situation to his roommate (which I felt obligated, because I'd been knocking on his door for a few days now looking for my friend that wasn't there) did he call me back. He threatened to beat the shit out of me if I told anyone else about how much money he owes me.
I don't care about getting beat up, we've already been in a few fights (although drunk at the time). But the idea of him trying to use intimidation to shut me up even further just adds insult to injury.

TL;DR:
A douchebag won't pay me back my $125, to fight or flight?

Ahem.

Tell fucking everyone.

Seriously, tell his room mates, his friends, everyone who could ever possibly care. IF he beats you up how will that look for him? Oh he'll be pissed, but what can he do realistically? He pretty much has to pay you back or everyone in his life will know he's not good to pay them back.

What he said. Also, maybe a little personal but are you male or female?

 

[Irridium]

Ahem.

Tell fucking everyone.

Seriously, tell his room mates, his friends, everyone who could ever possibly care. IF he beats you up how will that look for him? Oh he'll be pissed, but what can he do realistically? He pretty much has to pay you back or everyone in his life will know he's not good to pay them back.

I'd go with this. Sure he may attack you, but he's pretty much screwed with people until/unless he pays you back. In the end, you get the last laugh.

Alternatively, you could just shit in a sock and leave it under his pillow. That seems like a fitting punishment.

 

[Hallow'sEve]

Might just be me, but there's no way in hell I'd let some guy 'borrow' $125 off me and then not pay it back.

He threatened to beat the shit out of me if I told anyone else about how much money he owes me.

Call his bluff.

Yeah, no, he's one of those people that wouldn't hesitate to fight, just trust me on that. In fact, he might be planning on it. He might think that if he beats me in a fight then I won't owe him anything because he won.

What he said. Also, maybe a little personal but are you male or female?

Male, 20 yrs old

 

[PeePantz]

I placed this in your other thread but because I believe it be such sound advice (and I'm not sure which one you're reading), I'll reiterate:

It sounds like fighting will not be beneficial for you and you'll end up bloody, broke, and embarrassed. Start a smear campaign. Put out fliers with his name and picture on it stating he's a thief and to be wary of him. You could go even further but this might become worse if authorities get involved. Turn him into a laughingstock. You probably won't get your money back, but it will be satisfying knowing that you took him down a peg.

 

[movienut]

Might just be me, but there's no way in hell I'd let some guy 'borrow' $125 off me and then not pay it back.

He threatened to beat the shit out of me if I told anyone else about how much money he owes me.

Call his bluff.

Yeah, no, he's one of those people that wouldn't hesitate to fight, just trust me on that. In fact, he might be planning on it. He might think that if he beats me in a fight then I won't owe him anything because he won.

Honestly, I think it is best if you walk away. He does not sound like he is terribly stable or reasonable. This wont end well.

 

[Gasaraki]

Threaten to rape him.

That will work.

Completely offtopic, but what anime is you avatar from?

OT: I agree with the other guy, tell everyone that knows him.

 

[Koko56]

If he says don't tell anyone about the money he owes, then it seems pretty clear that he would havea big problem with that. I would start telling people. This kind of negligence he's been giving to this issue is beneath the dirt imho and should not be tolerated.

 

[zombiesinc]

TL;DR:
A douchebag won't pay me back my $125, to fight or flight?

I wouldn't let it go, personally. He owes you money, and although you don't care about that actual money, it's more the fact that we won't pay you back, and actively avoids you.

You could talk to him again, letting him know that it's irresponsible to avoid you, and even more so to not pay you back, especially after so long. You could either tell him you're going to tell anyone and everyone about his money owed no matter what, or as a result of him refusing to pay you back.

You could try to reach an agreement too. You won't mention how much money you lent him, to anyone, so long as he actually pays you back. Set a deadline, and emphasize that it's final, and you won't wait any further.

I've had a friend owe me $300 for well over six months, but he did eventually pay me back. It's a tough situation, so best of luck. :/

 

[TheTaco007]

Tell everyone you know about it, as well as all his friends, and he can go fuck himself.

 

[Daveman]

lol, tell everyone because otherwise it'll just happen to somebody else... if he tries to fight I say let him beat you up then get him arrested on assault charges, that'd teach him.

 

[Artina89]

I say that you do what I did when I wanted somene to pay me back. Get a load of friends who are really tall (a lot of my friends play American football and Ice hockey so it was easy for me) go over to the guys place and hammer on his door and march his sorry ass to an ATM to get your money back.

If this doesn't work then I would actually suggest telling as many people as you can. For all you know, he has probably mooched off a load of people and they are getting sick of it too. Events like this are not stand alone. A bully is always a bully regardless.