WrcklessIntent said:
Surprised it took this long to bring this up but, this is so true:
silent_noir_67 said:
she obviously really trusts you for talking about this to you, and support should be what you're giving her.
I mean, if you opened up entirely to her and she kinda shied away that wouldn't make you feel good right?
Like everyone's said above we all have emotional baggage and we all have dark points in our lives but if you really like this girl then I don't think it should really matter.
That she told all this to you over the phone tells me the following:
1. She is preparing herself to take this relationship further (to use that idiotic phrase 'take it to the next level' *cringe*)
2. She trusts you greatly, but she values it so highly that you can potentially lose it if you're even the slightest bit careless (this is not to say that you should walk on eggshells around her, will clarify in a bit)
3. It took a shitload of courage for her to make that call, the silence you shared illustrates this
4. As for not talking to you in person, the events from last year are still bothering her a lot
Therefore, for now, just react to her mood. If she's feeling good, do stuff with her that you know will keep her there. If she's feeling down, ask what's wrong and persist (gently, of course) until she tells you. Let her talk as much as she wishes to and listen. If you can't think of anything good to say (sometimes things are said that cannot be answered correctly), remind her that you're there for her and you'd do anything to help.
Ultimately, this shouldn't affect the relationship in the slightest, except, perhaps, deepen it. The courage she gathered to make the call should be evidence that she isn't weak because she's let you into a part of her that she considers a great burden. Thus, respect that, and treat it as such (re: 'respect' equals not 'pamper').
Though, if in doubt, remember that no girl will refuse a hug from the man they love. I wish the two of you the best.
