Some help with my girlfriend

[nklshaz]

Hello Escapists, I was hoping for some advice for finding ways to see my girlfriend more often. There's quite a bit of backstory, but bear with me:

I'm a freshman in high school, and me and my girlfriend's class schedules don't line up very well. We literally only have two classes together per day, and one of them is spent on opposite sides of the room. We live in different towns, so seeing her outside of school is difficult. Our towns aren't very far away, (Only about a 15 minute drive) but being only 15 years old makes driving there a bit of a problem. The only times outside of school that we really get to see each other are school sporting events. As of now, we mostly communicate through texting and email. I love talking to her, but it gets hard to come up with topics of conversation through text.

So Escapists, can you think of any ideas? Any help is appreciated

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Technology is your friend. I did this with my boyfriend (who lives 6 hours away) Obviously I'm not going to drive that long to see him in person often. Find things you can do together long distance.

-Talk on the phone at night
-Watch tv together (provided you have the same channel and like the same things)
-Take up online gaming

In addition to conversation, this should give you enough stuff to do together without being strained for topics to talk about.

 

[phazaar]

As above, technology and some careful planning, combined with -NEVER- getting upset when a plan falls through - that will destroy both of you far quicker than you'd ever imagine. Skype is your friend in the evenings, so are people you know with cars (including parents; most tend to be quite supportive). If you two go the distance, little things like passing notes in class (just make sure it's not too embarrassing, right?!) can end up being some of your most fond memories.

Last but not least, remember it could always be worse, and you're lucky to see eachother at all; cherish her for that reason. My girlfriend lives 5000 miles away; we've been together 7 years and met for the first time 3 months ago. With some blessings, I'll see her again at Christmas. After that, who knows? The reason that I say all that though, isn't to rub it in your face, but it's actually because when I sought advice for that situation, I met a couple who are even farther apart. He's a doctor working in subsaharan Africa, and only returns home once a year if he's lucky and the funding can stretch that far, and she's a corporate lawyer and tends to be on a case for at least a year at a time with no time to travel home at all. Mindblowing, what we'll do for the right person, isn't it?

 

[artanis_neravar]

My girlfriend lives 5000 miles away; we've been together 7 years and met for the first time 3 months ago. With some blessings, I'll see her again at Christmas.

I don't quite get how that works but if it works for you then that's great.

Um...I'm assuming they met online?

Hello Escapists, I was hoping for some advice for finding ways to see my girlfriend more often. There's quite a bit of backstory, but bear with me:

I'm a freshman in high school, and me and my girlfriend's class schedules don't line up very well. We literally only have two classes together per day, and one of them is spent on opposite sides of the room. We live in different towns, so seeing her outside of school is difficult. Our towns aren't very far away, (Only about a 15 minute drive) but being only 15 years old makes driving there a bit of a problem. The only times outside of school that we really get to see each other are school sporting events. As of now, we mostly communicate through texting and email. I love talking to her, but it gets hard to come up with topics of conversation through text.

So Escapists, can you think of any ideas? Any help is appreciated

Try, and try hard to come up with something. This is exactly why (well the only reason that doesn't piss me off thinking about it) my last relationship ended, we only really communicated through text especially when we were states apart and it just got to be to much

 

[artanis_neravar]

My girlfriend lives 5000 miles away; we've been together 7 years and met for the first time 3 months ago. With some blessings, I'll see her again at Christmas.

I don't quite get how that works but if it works for you then that's great.

Um...I'm assuming they met online?

Yeah but if it takes you over 6 years to meet the other person then all they could do is interact online.

Doesn't sound like much of a relationship but what do I know.

Oh I agree but it's the only thing I could think of to explain it, but then again I'm apparently old fashion in my view of relationships and how they should progress. For example my friend proposed to his girlfriend of two years on their anniversary a couple of weeks ago, after just having lost his job (and it wasn't a sudden loss he knew he was losing it for a couple months because it was only a temporary gig.) and then there's me who won't even ask the girl i like out because I have no job. But I guess I'm weird

 

[nklshaz]

Thanks for the tips guys lol, I'd completely forgotten about Skype. Keep the tips coming, if you have them.

 

[phazaar]

I don't quite get how that works but if it works for you then that's great.

Um...I'm assuming they met online?

Yeah but if it takes you over 6 years to meet the other person then all they could do is interact online.

Doesn't sound like much of a relationship but what do I know.

I should probably have worded it towards 'We first got together' etc, though I imagine that would have been just as confusing. Indeed we're something of a 21st century couple. It started young for the both of us, and thus meeting wasn't an easy option. In the end because of parental and financial pressures, it took 7 years to get our acts together, but it's pretty much as good as I could ever have hoped As to not sounding 'like much of a relationship', I'd definitely agree to that. It was (and is, at times) incredibly difficult and can need peculiar and sometimes constant maintenance, but it's always been worth that. I'd be the first to say it's very 'different', but once you get close you can see it's not unrecognisable.

Oh I agree but it's the only thing I could think of to explain it, but then again I'm apparently old fashion in my view of relationships and how they should progress. For example my friend proposed to his girlfriend of two years on their anniversary a couple of weeks ago, after just having lost his job (and it wasn't a sudden loss he knew he was losing it for a couple months because it was only a temporary gig.) and then there's me who won't even ask the girl i like out because I have no job. But I guess I'm weird

I definitely fall more on your friend's side of things, though I wouldn't necessarily say either is more 'new' or 'old-fashioned' than the other. I think one's pragmatism, and one's romanticism, although the latter could definitely be seen as synonymous with recklessness

 

[Slash Dementia]

Skype, phone, anything online. You both have to be very, very patient with each other and understanding if yous can't see each other very often.

I met my girlfriend 7 1/2 years ago (we've been a "couple" for 1 1/2 years), and it's online. It's very difficult and we both want to see each other, but there are financial problems as well as we just need to wait a bit longer.

As for the 15 minute drive, how long of a walk is it? Can yous take public transportation, or see each other for longer after school?

You can make it work with just...understanding and caring about each other, as well as caring for the relationship and wanting it to last.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Oh I agree but it's the only thing I could think of to explain it, but then again I'm apparently old fashion in my view of relationships and how they should progress. For example my friend proposed to his girlfriend of two years on their anniversary a couple of weeks ago, after just having lost his job (and it wasn't a sudden loss he knew he was losing it for a couple months because it was only a temporary gig.) and then there's me who won't even ask the girl i like out because I have no job. But I guess I'm weird

I definitely fall more on your friend's side of things, though I wouldn't necessarily say either is more 'new' or 'old-fashioned' than the other. I think one's pragmatism, and one's romanticism, although the latter could definitely be seen as synonymous with recklessness

hmm....maybe my ex affected me more than I thought, perhaps I should have asked my crush out this past weekend

 

[ShindoL Shill]

15 minute drive?
get the bus.
my friend and his recently ex-girlfriend were in a similar situation, except they had no classes together. they'd just get the bus to the other one's town.

 

[nklshaz]

15 minute drive?
get the bus.
my friend and his recently ex-girlfriend were in a similar situation, except they had no classes together. they'd just get the bus to the other one's town.

That's a good idea, but unfortunately the only buses going between our towns are school buses. Two small Iowa towns don't really have options for public transportation. I appreciate you trying to help though