Some trust issues

[2012 Wont Happen]

My mind is fucked.

Saturday, I spent all day with a girl that I care very much about. We kissed. She said she loved me. Had a damn good day.

Since, I have had nothing but pleasant conversations with her.

Despite that, I still can't get this weird paranoia out of my head.

My mind just cannot accept the idea that a girl might be not fucking me over/leading me along.

Logically I trust this girl completely. And emotionally I really do care deeply about her. Enough to push through all the emotional trust issues. My experiences in the past just don't let me trust people at more than the logical level anymore.

Is there any way to regain my trust in people? Any way to convince the emotional part of my mind that the logical part is right?

 

[ultrachicken]

I think simply having good experiences with people will help you overcome your trust issues. I assume the problem is caused by a history of betrayals, so the only way to get over it is to receive proof that you won't always be betrayed.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

I think simply having good experiences with people will help you overcome your trust issues. I assume the problem is caused by a history of betrayals, so the only way to get over it is to receive proof that you won't always be betrayed.

I guess. I think it kind of acts as a self-fulfilling prophecy to a degree though. I don't trust people so I get more distant. They hurt me and I chalk it up to another betrayal.

And then I open myself up, ready to put my past behind me, and somebody totally betrays me again.

Vicious cycle really.

 

[LiraelG]

Do your best to be positive about her. If she does something that bothers you in the future, try to speak to her about it. You might find that there was a misunderstanding; pobody's nerfect. It's important to be open in a relationship. If you keep things bottled up, your partner doesn't know that they've done wrong, and may do the same thing again. They won't know that they've upset you!

You could talk to her about your past, too. If she's worth it, she'll want to help you find faith in humanity.

 

[SilentCom]

If your feelings for her is like an ocean, you might as well take the plunge. Even if the relationship turns out to be a puddle, you could always leave her and resume your fuck all attitude of life.