Something that I never realized about the coveted "nerdy girl(friend)"....

[JagermanXcell]

Honestly dude, just remember to keep an open mind when finding a partner with similar interests. You're only gimping yourself if you're looking for a "nerdy girl" that matches ALL of your interests.

To put it into my perspective (I'm assuming you're around that 19-25 range of age, go ahead and attack me viciously if i'm wrong), I met my girlfriend at my best friend's birthday party. Of course, she's a nerd for a lot of the thing I enjoy. But like most relationships, the "perfect match" is never going to happen.
She likes DRAMAtical Murder (a yaoi dating sim... she likes it ironically...), and I like Jojo's Bizzare Adventure and Persona with a fiery passion. The thought of sitting through an anime adaptation of... that... was different. But seeing her happy made watching DRAMAtical Murder that much more fun! Same for the opposite end of the spectrum, she was kinda turned off by Persona 4's tone, but as soon as it got to the good stuff, the stuff that brings out my extreme charisma for the game, she ended up loving it as much as I do.

Jojo, that's another story, a story she doesn't want to get involved with... yet.
My point to that: Having similar interests is nice and all, but nothing is more satisfying than sharing/having new interests to explore between 2 people.

And don't worry about feeling bad about finding someone who was bullied for being a nerd/geek. Just never bring it up, cause EVERY geek whose ANY geek has gone through it. They'd (and I bet you would too) rather enjoy the positives of their life long hobbies over being reminded of the negatives.

 

[L. Declis]

Well, you're not bad for wanting someone who shares your interests, in theory...

But in my experience, guys who only aim for nerdy girls tend to end up quite alone, as they expect that they will get the girl regardless, even if the guy isn't putting much effort in, doesn't go out much or isn't putting as much time into his appearance... They expect that by virtue of having common interests, they'll win.

They tend to be alone, because the nerdy girl will go with the guy who is interesting and handsome but doesn't game over the social outcast who does. Because those guys aren't dating them for their 733t skills but their personality and such.

[I AM SAYING GUYS IN THIS BUT THIS ALSO APPLIES TO NERDY GIRLS WHO ONLY PLAY GAMES BUT DON'T PUT EFFORT IN AND THEN ARE UPSET THAT GUY ISN'T INTERESTED IN THEM]

My experience is that if you date someone you get along with, respect and enjoy time with, then you don't need to worry about if they game or not. If gaming is such a MASSIVE part of your life that your girlfriend not being a gamer means they have nothing to talk to you about, then you are a BORING person and you need to diversify your interests.

My girlfriend plays the occasional game of Civ 5 with me, and we played Beyond Two Souls together. That's all I asked from her, because it's not her interest. But we share travelling, history, film, literature, cooking, t.v. and many other aspects that I don't need her to understand a Tau Riptide is OP or Metal Gear Solid has some really interesting undertones in terms of social commentary, the same way that I don't have a clue what she is talking about when it comes to ballet.

And when the title of the thread is "coveted", it really comes across as a kind of creepy obsession. A lot of my female friends take computer science courses and they are basically zerg-rushed with unsocial geeks who believe they have a 'claim' to them because they're interested in similar things.

 

[Tsukuyomi]

Thanks for the input, folks. I apologize again if I offended anyone by saying what I said. I was simply trying to get the point across in the best way I knew how. No offense was meant to anyone.

You all have given me things worth thinking over. I originally just wanted to ask because I do in fact want someone to share my interests. Actually what I'd like is someone who shares my interests and can help me find more things that are outside of the "nerdy" realm. If there's one thing my experiences in dating and social interaction has taught me it's that I should be improving myself and expanding my horizons. As such I'm definitely not against trying things that are outside the normal for me. If a woman isn't interested in me but I'm interested in her, well that's a shame, but I take from it what I can learn and try to become a better person from it. I don't mind the thought of going outside of total-nerd territory at all, it's just I'd like common-ground to bridge the gap before we go farther.

I don't have much explanation to give, really. It just made me feel horrible to think that yes, I'd be happy with someone who shared my interests, but if for someone to do that they had to go through a shitty time of life, possibly for almost a decade or more, all so them and I can have something to talk about over coffee? I dunno, reading that back I guess it doesn't make a whole lot of sense (if any at all), but I just...I felt bad about it. I wanted to see if I was being irrational or not, I guess.

I never want to make anyone angry, or uncomfortable. That goes for both genders. I don't want to be creepy or needlessly possessive or...basically anything that makes up the horror-stories and bad experiences. I just wanted to air a thought I had and see if anyone could come up with more for me to mull over. I definitely got that here, and like I said I apologize to anyone who got offended or angry.