I am sure this will come as a deep shock to anyone who knows me but any variant of "I hate feminism/Feminists hate men (projecting much?)/Feminism is no longer necessary/Women have it better than men/Feminists want to spoil all my fun and cut my peepee off/Gaming is our our little tree-fort, you girls should go play dolls" makes me want to strangle people. I then try to re-direct my "grrrrraarrgh!" energy into strangling their argument with facts and better arguments instead. I keep doing this until I am bored and then I go RP instead. And express the wish in IM or PM to trusted individuals that [name redacted] would die in a seat-melting car fire. I then revise it to the wish that they survive a seat-melting car fire. Then, having vented my spleen, I go back to enjoying my life.
I also remind myself that I hang out in any given place because it's fun, and if it stops being fun, I always have he option of leaving. If I don't take the option of leaving, then it's ME being pants-on-head at that point, because I'm the one that's pissing myself off for no good reason.