Stupid Breakup reasons

[crudus]

You couldn't go with her? That is also a loooong time ahead of her trip which is confusing.

I really did not want to go backpacking through Europe, I like more planned trips, plus I have seen one too many horror movies to fall for that one. Plus, she did not want me to go, kind of weird I know. The thing that made it so weird was the fact that it was so far into the future of our relationship, which lead me to my comment above, which was later verified by friends of mine.

I had no doubt that was her reason. I was playing The Devil's Advocate on your part in retrospect (if that makes sense). I am familiar with "I want to bang someone else" and "there are better people I want to bang" and all of its veneers.

 

[Jumping_Over_Fences]

You couldn't go with her? That is also a loooong time ahead of her trip which is confusing.

I really did not want to go backpacking through Europe, I like more planned trips, plus I have seen one too many horror movies to fall for that one. Plus, she did not want me to go, kind of weird I know. The thing that made it so weird was the fact that it was so far into the future of our relationship, which lead me to my comment above, which was later verified by friends of mine.

I had no doubt that was her reason. I was playing The Devil's Advocate on your part in retrospect (if that makes sense). I am familiar with "I want to bang someone else" and "there are better people I want to bang" and all of its veneers.

That is always the most fun when it is a good friend. That didn't happen here, but I can think of at least three times that has happened to me.

I am going to have to stop introducing my friends to my girlfriends.

 

[gragimor]

I invited her to the movies.

I found out recently, even though this was in year 7 when we were 13 years old. The day after my birthday. I was really upset about it for ages after it happened but that was almost 8 years ago.

Turns out she was afraid of things getting 'serious' and had commitment issues. At 13. Gotta say I find it funny.

Translation: She wanted to bang European guys guilt-free.

I would say thats grounds for declaring her as a slut, she's even planning on it.

Might be, but there is also a chance that she meant what she said, not ALL people are self centered bitches/assholes.

 

[James Cassidy]

I didn't say she'd turned gay, I said finally realised (or possibly accepted)she was (possibly, I don't know her). Anyway, I'm not going to get into an argument about the nature of homosexuality.
Clearly there is a little more to this now that you are going on about guys that beat her up etc. I was just trying to give you an alternative and slightly more positive viewpoint based on the information I had at the time.

Thanks for trying, and I know what you meant.

Just it doesn't apply to this circumstance. She actually went through several other men before him.

Bisexual maybe, but I don't think she is homosexual.

 

[James Cassidy]

I hear ya on that one. The first girl I ever fancied was cool, talked to her for ages and all that, and after I said a couple of things to her, she said to me "that's the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me, but I have a bf" etc etc,

Sorry to cut your quote short, but I am just saving room.

Nice guys always finish last in the real world. It's not like the fairy tales where the hero rides in to save the girl and then they fall in love. No, it's goes down to the hero saves the day and all the girl sees is her brother or a dear friend.

I have had that happen to me several times and it's getting unnerving. What am I doing wrong? Am I too nice or do girls just not like the nice guy anymore?

She gets in trouble, I care about her to the point of being in love with her and jump in and risk everything to save her while her boyfriend just doesn't care. What do I get for my trouble? A hand shake and a thank you...

I know I shouldn't be selfish and it's not like I want her to sleep with me for saving her, but you got to be kidding me.

If I didn't have bad luck, I would have no luck at all.

 

[crudus]

That is always the most fun when it is a good friend. That didn't happen here, but I can think of at least three times that has happened to me.

I am going to have to stop introducing my friends to my girlfriends.

I know what you mean. Three times someone has introduced me to his girlfriend and found me more "fun" (4 years later and I still am not sure what they mean by that. If he wasn't "fun" why were you dating him?). The next week I hear the girl dumped my friend to go out with me. Then I get many death threats and another stalker (one said she was pregnant with my child and I got nowhere near that).

Nice guys always finish last in the real world. It's not like the fairy tales where the hero rides in to save the girl and then they fall in love. No, it's goes down to the hero saves the day and all the girl sees is her brother or a dear friend.

I have had that happen to me several times and it's getting unnerving. What am I doing wrong? Am I too nice or do girls just not like the nice guy anymore?

There is a major difference between the heroes and "nice guys": confidence. Confidence is sexy. The "jerks" and "heroes" both project some level of confidence. "Nice guys" are usually shy and try not to go out of their box and try not to insult someone. I am one of the nicest guys (not my words!!) my friends know and I have plenty of girls after me (not to brag, just an observation). It's that self pity you have for yourself that works against you. I can tell you more but I want to get back to topic so PM me if you want.

 

[Tim Buck II]

She felt awkward. What kind of a reason is that?????? No real explanation, just a text saying she felt awkward. She was my bf for nearly a year, then we went out for like three weeks, now she completely ignores me. She wont even look at me

How could she be your boyfriend?

bf=best friend, duh

Ohhhh...

I feel really stupid now...

Although, if YOU were told, indirectly, that bf=boyfriend not best friend, then you'd do the same exact thing, I'm sure.

But dang, I feel really stupid now... Not that I am. I'm not.

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

Ohhhh...

I feel really stupid now...

Although, if YOU were told, indirectly, that bf=boyfriend not best friend, then you'd do the same exact thing, I'm sure.

But dang, I feel really stupid now... Not that I am. I'm not.

No worries, i suppose it is a fairly easy mistake to make, especially as gf means girlfriend

 

[Tim Buck II]

Ohhhh...

I feel really stupid now...

Although, if YOU were told, indirectly, that bf=boyfriend not best friend, then you'd do the same exact thing, I'm sure.

But dang, I feel really stupid now... Not that I am. I'm not.

No worries, i suppose it is a fairly easy mistake to make, especially as gf means girlfriend

Exactly!

I kinda wish I could contribute...

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

I kinda wish I could contribute...

I'm sure you dont mean that. Its relly fucky when you get dumped for no reason that anyone can fathom

 

[Tim Buck II]

I kinda wish I could contribute...

I'm sure you don't mean that. It's really fucky when you get dumped for no reason that anyone can fathom.

No, I don't actually want that, I just want to be useful. Oh, well...

Okay, I'll shut up now.

 

[brokenfingers666]

my mate cause she decided to do it in her music school, in a room with windows, and they forgot to shut the blinds.