Talking to girls

[chuckman1]

I've just recently realized I'm bad at talking to girls.
I've noticed my "arsenal of conversations" consists of hey, howre you, hows your day.
And that's about it.
I seriously have tons of trouble thinking of anything else to say leading to many awkward silences and me being super repetitive? What do I do? What else can I say?

 

[ThriKreen]

Sounds like you need to stop focusing on trying to talk to them, and instead build up a larger arsenal of conversation topics.

Get some hobbies, a job, read a book, watch a movie or TV series, hang out with friends and do something crazy, learn about the drinks served at a bar, or music.

 

[dcaseyjones]

One of the most important tricks I've figured out is to just try and not give a shit when talking to girls you fancy. That's the quickest route to failure to me. Be talkative, be funny and whatnot, but whatever you do, don't TRY to have a conversation. It either flows or it doesn't, no hard feelings in the case of the latter.

It definitely does help to also have a body of experiences to draw from. It's not easy relating to someone if you have nothing in common. (ie, if you spend a lot of time playing video games and watching movies and they don't.)

 

[dmase]

When you first meet women you don't go into topics that are related to you. Stick to something topical or witty after that first laugh things start to flow. Oh and if you try to think of something witty or topical it won't come to mind, just remember if it hits you use it don't be shy people love to talk and laugh. The worst you could be is the weird guy in a department store or something. There is your step one on meeting people, maintain conversation different ball park.

 

[Slash Dementia]

Sounds like me. I ask people too much about how they are, college, work, how their day was, and things like that. That's not just with girls, that's with everyone.

Usually, when someone asks me about me or how I'll spend my weekend, I say that I'll be writing or reading a book. Some friends see me as the 'teacher' type of friend. They ask me college-related questions and ask for help--especially in the English department (revising essays, thoughts on their paper, how to make one sentence or another connect with the next). I really need to expand that, and I do when I get to know someone better; I make them laugh and pull their childhood back out from the dusty innards that they kept them in to bring out their playful side. Once that's through, I open myself up (not literally) and can talk to them because we're both comfortable.