Talking to people online is easier than in person
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I've never really experienced this.
Talking to people online is very much the same. If a bit harder because I have more time to think about what I'm going to say, and I overthink.
Talking to people online is very much the same. If a bit harder because I have more time to think about what I'm going to say, and I overthink.
Because we don't have to think on the spot about what we're saying.
I have time to reread my comment before hitting that post button and can make edits before anyone can see them, whereas in face to face conversation you cannot fix what has been said.
Another reason is that 9.7 times out of 10 the people you are talking to will never meet you in real life, so you can be who you want for them and they wont know any different.
I have time to reread my comment before hitting that post button and can make edits before anyone can see them, whereas in face to face conversation you cannot fix what has been said.
Another reason is that 9.7 times out of 10 the people you are talking to will never meet you in real life, so you can be who you want for them and they wont know any different.
You get the chance to rethink anything before saying it, meaning that you get an extra filter on how you allow others to percieve you. And you can more easily leave a conversation if you don't want to have it or are feeling uncomfortable.
It is more difficult for me because it is harder to get tone across.
Almost everything I say is a joke. It's funnier when people take me seriously, sure, but sometimes it can be really annoying.
I'm not sure why people find it easier to talk online. Possibly anonymity or detachment.
Almost everything I say is a joke. It's funnier when people take me seriously, sure, but sometimes it can be really annoying.
I'm not sure why people find it easier to talk online. Possibly anonymity or detachment.
This. Unlike in real life, I can spend a long time constructing my forum post/text message/facebook status to be extra special awesome. Not that I do that often, but it certainly makes impressing the ladies far easier...Jarl said:
Also, the fact that most people here don't know each other personally helps, because you don't have anything to live up to.
Also, when texting people, it's much easier to conceal your real feelings/emotions towards something, because all you are doing is typing words. Of course, this also works in reverse, making it harder to convey emotions to people (indicating when something is a joke is a problem, for example).
I tend to agree with this. Also, a few other things.Jarl said:
1: You have the person's name right in front of you at all times. It's REALLY awkward when you forget someone's name right after they introduce themselves.
2. The vast majority of human communication is nonverbal (body language, voice tone, gestures, expressions, etc.) Online communication boils human communication down to what is arguably its simplest component.
3. For this reason, it's easy to be someone, or something you're not in online conversation. You can be a lot more confident (about deceiving someone) online than you would in person. For example, I think most men would have an easier time conversing with a beautiful woman online than in person. Hence: Trolling.
I've never found it difficult to talk to people out here in meatspace, I'm just not the sort who feels the need to fill silence with conversation for its own sake. "Talking" online though may very well be nothing of the sort - see, right now I'm conversing with no one. I'm just typing out my thoughts and placing them in a forum thread for people to look at if they feel so inclined (or not!), until and unless someone quotes me with a response that transforms my thoughts into an ongoing discussion, I might as well have typed this on a blog I have that no one reads (I don't have a blog that no one reads, don't bother checking).
Seen from that perspective, when conversations happen based off undirected comments left in forum threads, really it's other people starting conversations with you. Also it is super easy to say things you would never even contemplate expressing in person if the other party is someone you've never met on the other side of the world hiding behind a pseudonym like you are; anonymity is a powerful equalizer.
Seen from that perspective, when conversations happen based off undirected comments left in forum threads, really it's other people starting conversations with you. Also it is super easy to say things you would never even contemplate expressing in person if the other party is someone you've never met on the other side of the world hiding behind a pseudonym like you are; anonymity is a powerful equalizer.
Because chances are I'll never meet you or any people that know you so I can say whatever I want and not have to think about how you'll judge me.
Simple reasons - no appearances issues. It's not like you're looking at that person as they sit on their chair at their computer. You can end it whenever you like - if you're not in the mood you can just stop talking you don't have to ask them in person to leave or leave yourself.
That kind of freedom means you're a hell of a lot more open.
And if you're not even going to meet that person in real life then it's even easier, they can hate you all they like over the computer but they're just one block button away from keeping them away from you.
That kind of freedom means you're a hell of a lot more open.
And if you're not even going to meet that person in real life then it's even easier, they can hate you all they like over the computer but they're just one block button away from keeping them away from you.
I know I am a person who is infinitely better in text. (even with how often I am misunderstood or misquoted) For one the(dying) anonymity of the internet offers one the freedom to cut through bullshit and social contract and say what they feel like saying or what NEEDS to be said, without repercussions or worrying about someones feelings.
There are other factors of course, but this is the most prominent one.
There are other factors of course, but this is the most prominent one.
Because I can add video clips and pictures to a conversation online. A well placed meme or reference says a thousand jokes.
Because people are losing the ability to talk to an actual human being in face-to-face contact. People spend more time talking to each other through texting and Facebook (I'd throw E-mail in there, but even that is going away) than they do actually talking to the person. It's apparently "easier" because there are no social ques to rely on, no eye contact, no appearance, no tact. You're not actually talking to the person, you're reading what the person wants you to read.
I actually find it harder to talk to someone online than in person, because I can never think of something to say. I get bored staring at a screen for over ten minutes. Plus, you can't have a real conversation. When talking to someone, they can interrupt you, or point something out quickly, and the conversation takes a different turn. Typing something up, your brain has time to filter stuff, or skip over something, or phrase it differently. Like this post. I can promise you that, if we had been talking face to face, you and I would have a very long, drawn out conversation. As it stands, I've said everything I wanted to say and you didn't get a single word in because now, I have to post it and wait for a possible reply. (Sorry if this comes off as a bit preachy. Didn't mean it that way, that's just how I see it. Again, one of the reasons talking online is harder--or easier).
I actually find it harder to talk to someone online than in person, because I can never think of something to say. I get bored staring at a screen for over ten minutes. Plus, you can't have a real conversation. When talking to someone, they can interrupt you, or point something out quickly, and the conversation takes a different turn. Typing something up, your brain has time to filter stuff, or skip over something, or phrase it differently. Like this post. I can promise you that, if we had been talking face to face, you and I would have a very long, drawn out conversation. As it stands, I've said everything I wanted to say and you didn't get a single word in because now, I have to post it and wait for a possible reply. (Sorry if this comes off as a bit preachy. Didn't mean it that way, that's just how I see it. Again, one of the reasons talking online is harder--or easier).