That girl, me,our lack of free time and losing my chances

[Random Argument Man]

So I've met that girl a few weeks ago at a bar. We talked and had a few good conversations together during the night. She lives in the same appartment block as me. On the way back, I got her number and got a date two days later. After the date, I told her that it was fun and we should do it again sometime. She agreed.

Problem is we both have too much things to do. She studies in nursing. She has multiple exams, a lot of papers to do, an internship and a job. Everytime that I've asked her if she wanted to do something, she replies with "I'm sorry, I'm occupied". I thought for a small while that she wasn't interested, but most of her friends confirmed that she was always occupied.

So yeah.. As for me, I don't have it quite as bad as her, but I also have multiple exams, papers to do and a job. I also reserve an hour a day to go to the gym (which made me lose a solid 15 pounds that I'm proud of). Although, I can make time by working extra hard.

Ok, time is an issue. However, this is where I need help. I think that I asked her out too many times. At first, she seemed to say "I'm occupied, but we'll do something sometime". Later she seemed to say only "I'm occupied" and gave me a look of discomfort.

I've decided to back off by a lot. I'm still interested though... For the next week, I'll be doing my week of university rush next week. I won't have time for anything. I think that will gave her some air. The week after, we have the week off, but I won't be seeing her.

So Escapist...Am I doing the right thing? Is giving her some breathing room a good idea? Is there something else that I should do?

 

[KissmahArceus]

I would probably text her and ask her to let you know when she's free, I'd think if she is still interested she'll make an effort and try to arrange a date, if she says she's occupied then I dunno.
She might be really busy but if she likes you, surely she'd have enough time for a chat once a week or even just hanging out and watching a movie or something?

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Problem is we both have too much things to do. She studies in nursing. She has multiple exams, a lot of papers to do, an internship and a job. Everytime that I've asked her if she wanted to do something, she replies with "I'm sorry, I'm occupied". I thought for a small while that she wasn't interested, but most of her friends confirmed that she was always occupied.

Ok, time is an issue. However, this is where I need help. I think that I asked her out too many times. At first, she seemed to say "I'm occupied, but we'll do something sometime". Later she seemed to say only "I'm occupied" and gave me a look of discomfort.

Dude, I can assure you with 100% certainty she is most definitely not interested. Cut your losses and move on.

 

[IvoryOasis]

Stop asking her out, and start just talking to her She might be feeling guilty she is so busy and you keep asking her out (which she keeps having to turn down).

Or she isn't interested....or has other guys after her she is more interested in... but you could grow on her and she could develop interest.

Mmm, really could be anything

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

So I've met that girl a few weeks ago at a bar. We talked and had a few good conversations together during the night. She lives in the same appartment block as me. On the way back, I got her number and got a date two days later. After the date, I told her that it was fun and we should do it again sometime. She agreed.

Problem is we both have too much things to do. She studies in nursing. She has multiple exams, a lot of papers to do, an internship and a job. Everytime that I've asked her if she wanted to do something, she replies with "I'm sorry, I'm occupied". I thought for a small while that she wasn't interested, but most of her friends confirmed that she was always occupied.

So yeah.. As for me, I don't have it quite as bad as her, but I also have multiple exams, papers to do and a job. I also reserve an hour a day to go to the gym (which made me lose a solid 15 pounds that I'm proud of). Although, I can make time by working extra hard.

Ok, time is an issue. However, this is where I need help. I think that I asked her out too many times. At first, she seemed to say "I'm occupied, but we'll do something sometime". Later she seemed to say only "I'm occupied" and gave me a look of discomfort.

I've decided to back off by a lot. I'm still interested though... For the next week, I'll be doing my week of university rush next week. I won't have time for anything. I think that will gave her some air. The week after, we have the week off, but I won't be seeing her.

So Escapist...Am I doing the right thing? Is giving her some breathing room a good idea? Is there something else that I should do?

In your position I would move on, take a look back, and never repeat that type of thing, because from past experience, and having female friends who've told me about stuff like what you're talking about. A man who constantly asks a woman out like that, is seen as needy, clingy, and insecure.
And from the sound of it, you've passed the point of no return in the field of how she sees you, at this point due to the chain of events her perception of who you are and how you are is likely built into a concrete fortress, in this sort of situationI would be suprised if she ever gave you another shot... So it's best to just learn and move on, there are plenty of other women out there, and there's always much to learn about how you should present yourself for the best results and how not to creep a woman out unintentionally.

Good luck mate, we're all in this together.

 

[Random Argument Man]

Considering all your opinions, here's what I've decided to do.

For the next two weeks, I'll move on and open my options for other things. I will probably talk to her, but I won't be in " Would you like to (x) sometime?" mode. If I see that she's still interested, I'll probably try my "luck" then. If she's not, then I'll have to go back to square one again. EDIT* I might as well do that since that I don't need additionnal stress right now.

Although, if I go back to square one, I have to stop being picky with every girl that I meet.

 

[Wolf-AUS]

Considering all your opinions, here's what I've decided to do.

For the next two weeks, I'll move on and open my options for other things. I will probably talk to her, but I won't be in " Would you like to (x) sometime?" mode. If I see that she's still interested, I'll probably try my "luck" then. If she's not, then I'll have to go back to square one again. EDIT* I might as well do that since that I don't need additionnal stress right now.

Although, if I go back to square one, I have to stop being picky with every girl that I meet.

Well, if you do decide to go back to square one. Maybe just try to enjoy meeting new girls? I know that I'm pretty picky when it comes to personality of a girl I'll date, extremely less than I am physically. I've found that just going out and meeting girls and chatting with them can be quite fun, regardless of what eventuates from it. Being less picky is a practice thing is what I'm trying to get at, I think Have fun with it, there's no pressure.