The best way to meet people...

[Cyael]

In my opinion, is to do what comes naturally...be it traveling, gaming, working (at a job you enjoy), attending a concert or convention, etc. I feel whoever you'd encounter doing things that line up with your passions would be far better suited for a relationship. platonic or otherwise.

I know a lot of older people frown on meeting people that didn't end up in the same school, at some job, or introduced to you through other friends as weird, but I think the idea of simply choosing "the best" out of the room you've found yourself in much more abnormal than what I propose. In this age especially.

I often found with my girlfriends we were incredibly intimate...A great gf & bf....but we were far from each others friends :/ - & I feel if we'd met through our interests that could never happen...

What do you believe is the BEST way to meet people? intimate or platonic..

 

[Colour Scientist]

I met most of my friends through school, friends, university and going to parties. I have a lot of friends who share my interests but most of my closest friends don't, I don't think it matters too much really. We still talk about our own things and it's always interesting to learn about stuff you don't necessarily do or think about.

I met my boyfriend through a friend and we have a lot in common. The first conversation we had was about The Wire, video games and Tom Waits. I'd consider him a friend too.

 

[Cyael]

I have alot in common with most I deal with as we typically are the weirdest people we know..in an interesting way. I've also had friends with incredibly opposite interests that made for fun as we found we could enjoy doing things the other liked together (even if we wouldn't like doing it alone)

I don't mean to seem as though I only believe in a significant other that can also be a best friend but I think it's easier that. Especially with how emotional I've noted some women can be -_-

 

[FolkLikePanda]

Usuaully from College or people I've known since I was a kid and their friends.

 

[tippy2k2]

Well according to TV, you just have to find a friend who can start "Hi, have you met Ted?"


If you don't have someone as awesome as NPH as your wingman, I just find I met people at college and it spread from there. I go somewhere with college friend #1 and we meet a new person.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

OP sounds about right: if you just go about life how you like to and to the places you want to be it's more likely you'll meet like-minded people. If I want to find a bestest friend, it would be in my best interest to hang out in the SNES section of Play n Trade than it would be to try talking to my co-workers. Yes, I love my job but I don't care for the people who do it with me at the moment. Of course if you really want to laser-focus on the kind of people you want to spend your life with, the internet has all sorts of social networks and, dating websites for almost literally everyone (anybody interested in starting a dating site exclusively for people who follow the McRib?)

 

[Tanakh]

Well, I go out of my way to avoid people, why am i on this thread?....

Ohh, yeah, i have very social friends, what they do is:

- Spend a lot of time with other people (maybe go in the evening with some friends to dinner and then with the same or other friends to party, parties being at a home are preferred)

- Talk with people and take interest in what they say

- Have a huge knowledge of pop music/films/books/games to "connect" easily with people of any denomination

I personally think is a waste of my time, especially the first 2. I do however persue the third for my personal amusement.

TBH meeting people and meeting girls is not hard, though i find it kinda pointless.

 

[Kae]

I'm going to take you're word for it Mr. Cyael and maybe try to do it too, I don't think I know anybody anymore, I don't really talk with the people I was friends with in school and I haven't really made a friend in longer than what's probably healthy, alternatively does anyone know a good way to meet people without having to talk much? Because I'm really not good at conversation at all, I always seem to screw up one way or another or simply have no idea what I should reply to people when talking, it's really awkward, so is it possible to meet people or maintain a relationship [small](by that I mean any kind of relationship though mostly a friendship)[/small] without having to talk much, because I really can't do that well at all.
I mean I do have some (2) friends but they mostly just talk to me to ask where my brothers might be, since as I said I suck at conversation and whenever they have any form of meeting like going out to eat they don't really invite me...

 

[Shadow flame master]

The BEST way to meet people is to stalk them for days, and once you know a lot about them, you blackmail them into being your friend unless they want the entire school to he masturbates to pictures of school girls.

Scratch that, I find making small conversations with people to be a good way to meet others. This works for me better me than knocking them out with a crowbar and dragging them to some Jigsaw inspired death trap and giving them the choice to be my friend or die saying stupid shit.

And if that doesn't work, screwing their sister/mom helping with work will.

 

[Strain42]

School and Work are both Ok places to meet people, but I've made a lot of friends going to a bar every Wednesday for Karaoke.

 

[Cyael]

I'm going to take you're word for it Mr. Cyael and maybe try to do it too, I don't think I know anybody anymore, I don't really talk with the people I was friends with in school and I haven't really made a friend in longer than what's probably healthy

I know what you mean entirely. For a long time I felt like the only other type of person I'd care to have around me was a person totally content sitting at home all day eating, playing games, watching shows & messing around online as I do...with nary an urge to venture out if we could fund staying inside ..but how does a person who likes to keep to themself find other people who keep to themselves?

lol...well I game. Most of the friends i communicate with often now I met through or game with consistently, but that's because it's my passion. I'd imagine if i were into writing & not at a school for it (or around people majoring in that) I'd try to involve myself in online writing communities...not even directly communicating with people so much as sharing my work with them & taking in theirs


Kale, As it pertains to meeting people without talking much I'd want to suggest online games or something but, again, I think you should do what comes naturally to you but just take it online. I know your situation isn't unique and that there are plenty of other people like you so. Say you always screwed up talking to other people but liked writing. You could start a blog or something where you'd write about that & other people with the same issue might come across it & share their experiences, ways of coping, etc with you

I play WoW, Maplestory & other cheesy console based online games & though there are alot of madmen online some are worth opening your mouth for. I wouldn't let screwing things up with ppl silence you - someone's going to love it

 

[Cyael]

I guess I believe that variety really is the spice of life there's nothing wrong with different friends....but

If I don't hang out at bars or go clubbing..I probably wouldn't find "my type" there

If I hate sports....I'm sure as hell not going to "vibe" with someone at a game

[Pick Any Movie You Hate] expect to find someone you "gel" with in the theater?

 

[Karhukonna]

In a bold, manly voice of gravel

There's no better place to make friends than the military.

Returning to my usual, high pitched sissy voice

Most of the people I've met, I've met through friends. And my friends, my closest friends, I've met at either school or in the army. The rest of the people I know are mostly people I've met through them. Simple and easy. It's not like I can't meet people in any other way, but it's just how I've met most of the people I know. Tons of people I know of, people I've met only once or twice.

In my opinion, the best way to meet people is to just go out and do all sorts of wacky stuff.

 

[Nouw]

I've met most of my friends via school. Some through here ^^. But to be fair, I'm still in school so that's sort of a default.

 

[Amethyst Wind]

Do so when you're part of a group. It can seem scary but you can ease this new person in, meaning they don't have to carry a significant portion of the experience.

Say you're debating boomerangs vs machetes, you can get the established group members' opinion as well as give the new person a chance to get their voice in and become comfortable responding.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

work as a cashier in a small store in the center of a community for a year or so, you'll know EVERYONE, and you may make some of them into friends or more outside of work...

Or just randomly introduce yourself to people when sitting at a bus stop or something, public transit works.

 

[jakeblues69]

I like to rufee random people at bars then make sure that I'm giving them a "Cleveland Steamer" as they're coming out of it. Great way to make new life long friends. Trust me on this.

 

[Kae]

-Snip-

Uh... I probably should have read that before deciding to just go to a random party to try to meet people, surprisingly a lot of people approached but I really have no idea what to say after saying hello, it's really bad, also flirty women are kind of scary... let's just say things went pretty much as expected I just sat around in a corner without talking to anybody, the fact that I don't drink or smoke didn't make the thing more enjoyable, now I remember why I didn't go to this things when I was in High School either.
Well, anyway thanks for the advice I probably should think of something, but I think I'll have more chances when University starts later this year, still I should try to do something about it, just must figure out what, *sigh* this seems like a child's problem, I feel so stupid right now.

 

[Gatx]

I've actually been thinking about this a lot recently as I'll be graduating soon. I mean, at school, there are classes and clubs to give people some common ground to start talking and becoming friends, and plus, given the circumstances, it'll be easier to find the specific people (gamers, geeks, anime fans, etc.) that I want to meet. However out THERE, in the REAL WORLD where geeks are much more in the minority, how am I supposed to find people like that? It's not socially acceptable to just talk to random person on the street or at Starbucks right? And even at work or a bar or whatever, am I supposed to just say "Hey, do you play Starcraft?"