A woman gets drunk enough to impair her judgement. She CHOOSES to impair her judgement,
So, you agree that a guy that "agrees" to get his money stolen from while being drunk CHOOSES to impair his judgement and can therefore be robbed unless he specifically tells everyone he does not want to be robbed, right?
Because that's your argument for rape here.
'No' they do ACTUALLY mean yes
Sometimes, guys want to be kicked into the balls and them saying no, they don't, actually means yes. I'm not saying all guys do, but some do, so it's very understandable that a woman would get confused and kick a guy in the balls who said no or said nothing since she reasonably assumed he meant yes. I mean, some guys want it.
Oh, that's different now, is it. WHy, though? Because it affects
you.
Bob says these small communities act like it's normal and it's just how things are, but this is exactly what society at large does with sexism directed at men.
That's because sexism aimed at men does not exist in society at large. The fun part is that even the things that tend to affect a few men negatively tend to be because of misogyny, not misandry.
I knew a handicapped guy who was raped by a women, and when he tried to contact the police about it, they told him not to make prank calls and only call them for real problems.
Guess what policemen tell handicapped women who were raped by men? Pretty much the same thing, in fact - I know several women that had this happen to them, the police didn't give a flying fuck despite video evidence because the women were disabled.
See, you are suffering from the delusion that rape is somehow a thing the police immediately accepts as a crime when a woman is the victim, which is factually wrong. Rape is one of the most underreported crimes precisely because the police tends to ignore any charge of rape that does not fit very limited narratives (as in, pretty white girl raped by violent stranger). Any case not fitting that is usually ignored unless it's a super public case and/or involves celebrities, cause that furthers the career of the persecutor. Normal people tho? Completely ignored.
This is especially true if the rape victim is of a minority, like a PoC or a handicapped person. Handicapped women have it INCREDIBLY hard to report rapes, because the police will usually assume that she lied because men "wouldn't hit it". Heck, even an ugly woman will have that happen to them, even though rape has literally nothing to do with attractiveness of the victim.
The problem here isn't sexism against men, it's rape culture. Notice how you see no issue with sexism against women, immediately to jump to make it all about men when we have a factual case of sexism against women, then attempt to pretend men have it harder by ignoring that men face the same issue with reporting rape as women do? Pretty typical mental gymnastics for rape culture. You're a pretty big part of it.
You're precisely part of the group of people that caused your friend to suffer like this. Precisely because of people like you, we never really do much about rape. There's always people like you dismissing it like you are right now. So good work.
I for one am busy in real life to push rape legislation and rape awareness, which helps both genders, since both genders can be raped, and both genders suffer from rape culture. You seem to only be busy denying that sexism or rape is a big deal unless it affects men.
You are the problem. So thanks for posting here to the thread, you illustrate perfectly why these attitudes are still around, and how people use arguments such as yours to protect these attitudes.