The divorce thread.

[phoenix_tetsu]

My parents hate each other (can't really say I understand why they even married in the first place...) my mom hated me for many years and then helped me out in one of the most difficult moments of my life, so yeah, my mom is the best.

My dad, he is an asshole, and I'm glad I haven't had to deal with him in many years

 

[MellowFellow]

My parents have been married happily for 20 years now. They have been beyond great parents to me and I feel bad sometimes because they are paying for college and I haven't been doing as well in school as I probably can. I am very lucky to have them as parents though.

 

[Pink_Pirate]

meh my parent got divorced when i was like.. i dunno.. 6ish i think.. dont remember much of it tbh, didnt really know what was going on at the time... wasn't really a big deal to me

 

[Mcupobob]

Parents never got married, despit having two childern together. My dad asked for Dna test for both of us. Yeahhh, so theres that.

 

[Virgilthepagan]

Eh, my parents are dysfunctional and more than a little bit neurotic, but they never really argue much, and their marriage survived my sister and I leaving the house so I think they're in the clear.

 

[Rylot]

My parents decided to divorce my Freshman year of high school. It sucked pretty bad and added to the shityness that was high school for me. But I don't really like either of them and don't see either of them very often, so it all works out. Also, it was hard for me at the time not to but don't blame yourself.

 

[Aesir23]

My parents have been married for... 24 years now. And thank God for that because I REALLY don't think I'd cope well and I'm already screwed up in the head.

Were they to divorce though, I think I'd probably choose to stay with my Dad (much closer with him than I am with my Mom) or I'd get a place of my own.

 

[Gunsang]

My parents got divorced years ago. It hurts at first, but after a while it really doesn't matter. It was for the better. Instead of waking up at night to your parents fighting, they're just separated. Much nicer.
My parents' girlfriends and boyfriends don't bother me either. I don't give them trouble and they stay out of my business. They never set rules, they never try to be another parent, they're just another person in the house.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

For the first 14 years of my life I thought my parents were getting a divorce every week or two. When I fifteen my dad moved out and lived away from us for about a year. Been back together shakily as a family for about half a year now.

Don't think it will work out.

Stopped caring a long time ago if it does.

 

[Marter]

Mine divorced many years ago now. It was actually good, as they were always fighting. Brought some peace into the family.

 

[Yureina]

My parents are still married, closing in on their 25th anniversary. It still seems happy, or at least that its not really ever going to break up. As for me, i've never even had a serious relationship, much less gotten married and divorced.

 

[CaptainKoala]

I'm 16, my parents divorced when I was 5, I've seen my dad 6 times in the past 6 years, and my dad is a class A dickhead so I don't really care to see him. Crap, just remembered its his birthday tomorrow; Oh well, he hardly ever calls me on my birthdays.

 

[phoenix_tetsu]

Sorry if I sound annoying, but this really baffles me.

I cannot believe that modern society has come to this. Marriage, which I consider to be one of the most fundamental aspects of life, is failing so miserably, and yet we as a species think that humans are "leaping forward" and are "civilized" creatures.

OT: Nope, I'm glad they haven't.

Family values decline, Justin Bieber's rise to fame... coincidence?? I DON'T THINK SO!!!

 

[ecoho]

(My first thread ever, searchbar approved, sorry if I do anything wrong!)

So today my mother told me that I could save up some money to buy a dog despite my father's negative remarks because he "would not likely be staying in the house for much longer".
This is how she decided to tell me they were talking about divorce.

So, Escapists, are your parents divorced? Have you ever considered or been through one?
How did / would you react / cope with news like this??
Discuss!

ok first is this the first time theyve had this talk? second was one of them drunk?
if this isnt the first time theyve talked about it im so sorry for you but if it is the first time it might just be postering (my parents do it from time to time)
If one of them was drunk at the time of this be aware that it may be one of those thing were words were said not ment unless the drinking started the fight.
my parents are still together and will never split up due to the fact that the only one whed even try is my dad and after he threatend her with it once i made it clear to him id make sure he had nothing by the end of the court hearings and id beat his ass.

If this does happen to you man be aware that its not your fault EVER! now this doesnt have to end bad i have a friend whos parents split up he did chistmas with his mom and thanksgiveing with his dad they may stay friends just not a cople anymore. i truly hope this doesnt happen to you and please forgive the next phrase if it offends but ill be praying for you.

 

[Zem]

After years of fighting with my mother, my dad didn't return home after work one night. I was 7 at the time so I only had a basic understanding of the situation but it was still pretty traumatic. I reacted exactly how you would expect a 7 year old to react but I mostly hid what I felt.

Honestly, I just didn't have the luxury of showing my emotions. I had to step up in the household to fill the void that my father left. That role slowly evolved as I grew up and it inevitably shaped who I am today.

OP: IMO, this would be a really good time for you to analyze your quality of life at the moment. Divorces can sometimes greatly improve the quality of life for those caught in the middle of the arguing parties. Considering how much worse the situation would be if they remained together is the key for a lot of people.

 

[The Bum]

Well mine did when i was six but they're still frends and all so its cool

 

[GrimTuesday]

My mom and dad divorced when I was ten or so. As far as I know I have been completely unfazed by their divorce. I think the most annoying part of having my parents being divorced is how everyone automatically assumes that I took it really hard and was negatively affected by it. I wasn't cause my dad is an asshole who treated me, my two older brothers, and my Mom like shit. The worst part is the effect that it has had on my two little brothers. They weren't old enough to really remember what an asshole he was so they still want to have a relationship with him which I have given up on entirely. every time they come home after going over to his house they're always moody and angry. This really pisses me off that he does shit like what he did to me and my older brothers to them but they just want to have a relationship with him so bad that they are willing to put up with his shit.