My parents are divorced and my life was a little shaken at first but after awhile you get used to it. I still see my dad on a regular basis and I love with my mom. They both live in the same state. Oh, my parents were divorced when I was 13.
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I hear that! My parents decided to "stay together for the sake of the kids" (me and my sister) because what kids need are to grow up in a hostile, loveless, and hateful environment. I think their constant arguing and fighting did nothing but fuck us up.Nothing Tra La La said:
They finally did split up when I was 23 and still in school/living with them, and I definitely think it would have been best if they did it earlier.
My parents weren't divorced I'm fairly sure, but one of them is dead now so it's kind of irrelevant.
Relationships haven't changed though. There were still as many arguments, fights and unhappiness in the old days within marriages; it's just they couldn't get a divorce as easy so people had to put on a front and pretend to be all perfect and happy. I think it's better this way.sravankb said:
Agreed, this certainly isn't a happy thread.Smagmuck_ said:
My parents have never mentioned divorce or considered it. I'm glad they love each other in a way that can't be broken apart by a single argument.
My friend's parents had a messy divorce though. It ripped him apart and he went from an A student to struggling to pass. His personality changed too and we eventually stopped being friends when he scammed me out of some money and I had to fight to get it back. After our little "war" I haven't heard from him since as he dropped out of highschool.
I think about him now and again. I really hope he found peace.
I hope everyone in this thread isn't letting it destroy their lives. It is an awful, awful thing.
My parents got divorced when I was.................10..........I think.
My dad cheated, and they argued. A divorce ensued.
I remember having an Mcdonalds, and staying in a hotel with my mom. She said we had get away for a bit. She also told me not to worry. So, I didn't. But that didn't stop me from loving my parents.
They weren't bad people, it's just that shit happens.
My dad cheated, and they argued. A divorce ensued.
I remember having an Mcdonalds, and staying in a hotel with my mom. She said we had get away for a bit. She also told me not to worry. So, I didn't. But that didn't stop me from loving my parents.
They weren't bad people, it's just that shit happens.
Parents divorced almost 20 years ago, my dad cheated on my mom with the woman who would eventually become my stepmom. Everyone is on mostly good terms now, except my mom's family of course who still want to kill my dad (or at least maim him considerably).
It fucked me up pretty bad at the time - I used to lay in bed at night and cry, asking my mom when dad was coming home. It sucked bad enough for me, but I can't imagine how heart-wrenching it was for my mom, having to listen to my sisters and I crying like that.
I myself have not been divorced, although my first year of marriage I didn't really act very much like a good husband should. I've since learned a lot and my wife and I are incredibly happy now (5 years later), but not having an immediately close father-figure growing up has left me without a great example to follow. If you really think you can say "yeah my parents divorced and it doesn't affect me at all," you're lying.
It fucked me up pretty bad at the time - I used to lay in bed at night and cry, asking my mom when dad was coming home. It sucked bad enough for me, but I can't imagine how heart-wrenching it was for my mom, having to listen to my sisters and I crying like that.
I myself have not been divorced, although my first year of marriage I didn't really act very much like a good husband should. I've since learned a lot and my wife and I are incredibly happy now (5 years later), but not having an immediately close father-figure growing up has left me without a great example to follow. If you really think you can say "yeah my parents divorced and it doesn't affect me at all," you're lying.
My parents divorced when I was about 5. I remember the argument that lead to it and all the moving and all that after.
My mother remarried some years after and divorced again when I was in middle school. We lived in our car and jumped from hotel to hotel for about 6 months.
She just remarried 2 weeks ago.
As for how it(the original) affected me. Not at all. My dad was never really around to begin with. We get along fine now. Hes recently been a bit more active in my life(we used to talk only a few times a year). I'm 23 now so it's a bit too late for those father-son bonding moments. But, whatever. Live and let live.
My mom gets along with my dad just fine. They were even laughing and talking today at my nieces 2nd birthday party.
He recently had another kid. Hes in his 40s with a 6 month old son. When that kid is my age, I'll be my dads age. Kinda weird. I'll be buying him his first legal drink like my dad did for me.
My mother remarried some years after and divorced again when I was in middle school. We lived in our car and jumped from hotel to hotel for about 6 months.
She just remarried 2 weeks ago.
As for how it(the original) affected me. Not at all. My dad was never really around to begin with. We get along fine now. Hes recently been a bit more active in my life(we used to talk only a few times a year). I'm 23 now so it's a bit too late for those father-son bonding moments. But, whatever. Live and let live.
My mom gets along with my dad just fine. They were even laughing and talking today at my nieces 2nd birthday party.
He recently had another kid. Hes in his 40s with a 6 month old son. When that kid is my age, I'll be my dads age. Kinda weird. I'll be buying him his first legal drink like my dad did for me.
I don't know anything about divorce other than it's nasty and I'd rather not experience it in my life.
My parents were considering divorce when my mom was pregnant with me, and she was under a lot of stress. Lots of stress + Pregnant = Bad for baby. And mommy, too.
It makes me wonder if I would have turned out any different if everything had been hunky dory at that time. It makes me wonder if some of my health problems wouldn't have existed if everything had been okay.
And I can't even imagine what my big brother was feeling during then. :|
It makes me wonder if I would have turned out any different if everything had been hunky dory at that time. It makes me wonder if some of my health problems wouldn't have existed if everything had been okay.
And I can't even imagine what my big brother was feeling during then. :|
Your parents divorcing - not a happy thing while it is happening, but in the long run, I think it's usually for the best. I was six when my parents got divorced. The divorce made us all miserable for a time, but a few years later both my parents were happy with their new spouses.
These days, my parents divorce means I have not two but three sets of grandparents for my children! That's three sets of people who love my children, who actively volunteer for babysitting, who take them on vacations so my husband and I can have quality grownup time, and it's a 1/3 as many birthday- and christmas presents.
All's well that ends well.
These days, my parents divorce means I have not two but three sets of grandparents for my children! That's three sets of people who love my children, who actively volunteer for babysitting, who take them on vacations so my husband and I can have quality grownup time, and it's a 1/3 as many birthday- and christmas presents.
All's well that ends well.
Nope, parents are still together. Hopefully for good.
Though if something so bizarre were to ever happen in which they did, well.. I'd probably go with my dad. Closer to him in any case.
Though if something so bizarre were to ever happen in which they did, well.. I'd probably go with my dad. Closer to him in any case.
My parents got divorced when I was about 8 or 10, I can't remember.
The funny thing is, now that I think about it, they never actually told me they were doing it, I just put 2 and 2 together when I saw my dad packing all his stuff in his car while my mum yelled at him and cried. Not the best way to break it to you daughter but, you know, I guess it did the job.
I don't see my dad often, mainly because it was all his fault (infidelity and all...) mainly because I don't like the way he talks and acts.
I'm fine with just my mum though
I don't really feel I need to 'cope'
The funny thing is, now that I think about it, they never actually told me they were doing it, I just put 2 and 2 together when I saw my dad packing all his stuff in his car while my mum yelled at him and cried. Not the best way to break it to you daughter but, you know, I guess it did the job.
I don't see my dad often, mainly because it was all his fault (infidelity and all...) mainly because I don't like the way he talks and acts.
I'm fine with just my mum though
I don't really feel I need to 'cope' 
Parents went through a loud and messy divorce when I was 16, combination of my mum going through some shit and my dad being unable to cope/seeing another woman.
He then proceeded to leave the country, on Christmas day after spending a very tense and unhappy day around the house.
Yeah....
He then proceeded to leave the country, on Christmas day after spending a very tense and unhappy day around the house.
Yeah....
sravankb said:
I do believe that the reason that the divorce rate is so much higher is that women are given independence in the relationship, a pick in their partners, etc. Which was not really present until semi-recently. In other words, they can leave without their families disowning them, without being beaten, etc.
OT: My parents are together, been together for 30 years. Married young, even.
My folks have been together for the past twenty years and have had two children together. I've never seen them fight and I doubt they ever would, but you do have my sympathy, I've known a few people whose folks got divorced (At my old school it was every second bloody kid) and even my father's parents were divorced (And this was from a Catholic background when Vatican two was still fresh in everyone's minds, probably would've been alot harder than it is nowadays, especially their reputations) but eventually they just learned to live with it and realize that their parents just weren't compatible and rushed into things.