The end of my tether. (Possibly depressing)

[KaiRai]

So basically, I've had enough. These last few months have been shit for me and it only seems to be getting worse. Since January I've lost my job, the love of my life and she's completely closed me out in a completely out of character move. I can't sleep, I worry about ever finding another job, my parents are threatening to kick me out. On top of this, my bank arranged me an overdraft, then decided they could probably exploit money from me by charging me £144 for being in an unarranged overdraft that they arranged. I got drunk last night and ended up completely snapping, punched a wall, called my ex in tears and eventually ended up throwing my phone at a wall. My grandad and some of my friends think I'm depressed but I just can't fathom the idea of telling some stranger head-doctor how I feel because, well, I feel like it's just going to get worse and worse.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? And if so, just how do I fucking cope with this?

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

So basically, I've had enough. These last few months have been shit for me and it only seems to be getting worse. Since January I've lost my job, the love of my life and she's completely closed me out in a completely out of character move. I can't sleep, I worry about ever finding another job, my parents are threatening to kick me out. On top of this, my bank arranged me an overdraft, then decided they could probably exploit money from me by charging me £144 for being in an unarranged overdraft that they arranged. I got drunk last night and ended up completely snapping, punched a wall, called my ex in tears and eventually ended up throwing my phone at a wall. My grandad and some of my friends think I'm depressed but I just can't fathom the idea of telling some stranger head-doctor how I feel because, well, I feel like it's just going to get worse and worse.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? And if so, just how do I fucking cope with this?

I'm sorry to say that you have to just keep going on, things will get better for you, you just need to keep heart.
If it helps you have my deepest sympathies, I suffer from bouts of depression myself so I can say things will get better some day.

 

[Griphphin]

Life is a long road, it's important to take a step back and take stock of where you are at and what opportunities you have, from as objective a point of view as you can muster. You are focusing on the bad right now, but it's only going to get better if you make it better, so you need to look to improve your situation.
What I'm trying to get at is do not stagnate and mull over the bad. It is the worst thing you can do as it keeps you from seeing things in a way that can improve your situation. That you had a job before means you already have experience. There are a lot of kinds of jobs out there, just keep in mind that a source of income is important in getting back on track psychologically as well as financially.
Lastly, if you really feel as unstable as your thread title implies, it may be in your best interest to start seeing a psychiatrist. There's a stigma behind it of being "broken" if you go, but any problems that are stopped there can otherwise manifest themselves in much worse ways farther down the road.

Best of luck, man, think proactive and kick ass.

 

[Tomo Stryker]

Hate to sound insensitive, but your not the only one with depression in their life. Your not alone man, but I don't think this is the place to blow your fuse. I do understand you feelings, life kicks you in the ribs when your down, its just kicking with steel toed boots lately.

 

[sgt. soap mctavish]

it's just willpower man, WILLPOWER!

 

[KaiRai]

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I'm sorry to say that you have to just keep going on, things will get better for you, you just need to keep heart.
If it helps you have my deepest sympathies, I suffer from bouts of depression myself so I can say things will get better some day.

I hope you're right. I'm just wondering how much more of this I can take before I snap again. It just needs to end. Thank you for your sympathy, I could really use some right now.

 

[SilentCom]

Your options are either give up or keep on going. Giving up only admits that life kicked your ass while continuing to go on means you have a chance to kick life in the ass and make it better. Life is full of shit and I know it feels hopeless at times. The thing is, when it's feeling most hopeless is when there is the most hope because life can always get better.

 

[RanD00M]

You're not even 20 yet so just chill the fuck out and relax a little. Getting a new job is no problem you just have to be open to do shit that you normally wouldn't do. I however can not help you with the love life.

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

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I'm sorry to say that you have to just keep going on, things will get better for you, you just need to keep heart.
If it helps you have my deepest sympathies, I suffer from bouts of depression myself so I can say things will get better some day.

I hope you're right. I'm just wondering how much more of this I can take before I snap again. It just needs to end. Thank you for your sympathy, I could really use some right now.

No problem... I know it's hard, but you should see someone about this as... it took me years before I accepted I have a problem and needed help... those were some of the worst years of my life, but having someone to talk to who doesn't judge me was a massive help for me.
But I understand that everyone is different and some people don't want to talk to a random person about their life.

 

[Tizzmarelda]

I sympathise there mate. Love of my life broke my heart, got with some new guy within a month of ending it. All my friends go out with her so i havent left the house on a night out in months because im scared il see her. Iam currently coping with this situation right now. How do i do it?

ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Sit down with your self, get a cup of tea on the go, and asses every problem thats going on. Then think of a plan to solve em. Even if the solution is only temporary. The worse thing you can do is do nothing an simply sulk in the current status quo and give up. Turn around, look at the shitstorm that is your life and grab it by the Fuckin horns! Look inside your self and look to your friends for the strength to do this.

Iam applying for the army tommorrow ( my passport finally came today ). Its something ive always wanted to do an now iam doing it. Iam training twice as hard in the gym and i go running often with friends in order to prepare myself. And as for my former lover her. Fuck her. And the same goes for your EX too. i know that must be horrible coming from some lad on a forum at 1 in the morning but the thing is, shes not part of your life any more. let her go and focus on your self for now. you never know, maybe one day you two will bump into each other down the line and things will pick up. or they wont. The point is you need to focus on your needs and problems. and this isnt going to happen in a fornight, you need to take it one day at a fuckin time.

Other lil tips: Stay clear of alchohol, Find a hobby and focus some of the energy into it, and if you get the chance, get laid!

Hope this helps mate, stay strong! >

 

[Ghengis John]

So basically, I've had enough. These last few months have been shit for me and it only seems to be getting worse. Since January I've lost my job, the love of my life and she's completely closed me out in a completely out of character move. I can't sleep, I worry about ever finding another job, my parents are threatening to kick me out. On top of this, my bank arranged me an overdraft, then decided they could probably exploit money from me by charging me £144 for being in an unarranged overdraft that they arranged. I got drunk last night and ended up completely snapping, punched a wall, called my ex in tears and eventually ended up throwing my phone at a wall. My grandad and some of my friends think I'm depressed but I just can't fathom the idea of telling some stranger head-doctor how I feel because, well, I feel like it's just going to get worse and worse.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? And if so, just how do I fucking cope with this?

The only advice I can give you is that you should ignore anyone who feels like griefing you for your problems.

Man, I am in a pretty bad place myself. It's hard for me to say "Buck up buddy, it'll be alright". But life has been pretty tough for a lot of people who lived before me so in this age of modern convinces I can't help but feel like wallowing in self-pity is unjustifiable. I don't think a shrink could hurt you though. If somebody cares enough about you to pay for a psychologist. Talking about your problems can help a lot and if you're chemically unbalanced they can prescribe am anti-depressant.

 

[Amondren]

Life is a long road, it's important to take a step back and take stock of where you are at and what opportunities you have, from as objective a point of view as you can muster. You are focusing on the bad right now, but it's only going to get better if you make it better, so you need to look to improve your situation.
What I'm trying to get at is do not stagnate and mull over the bad. It is the worst thing you can do as it keeps you from seeing things in a way that can improve your situation. That you had a job before means you already have experience. There are a lot of kinds of jobs out there, just keep in mind that a source of income is important in getting back on track psychologically as well as financially.
Lastly, if you really feel as unstable as your thread title implies, it may be in your best interest to start seeing a psychiatrist. There's a stigma behind it of being "broken" if you go, but any problems that are stopped there can otherwise manifest themselves in much worse ways farther down the road.

Best of luck, man, think proactive and kick ass.

What he said basically. Life can be confusing and hard but best of luck and just don't give up.

 

[SwimmingRock]

So basically, I've had enough. These last few months have been shit for me and it only seems to be getting worse. Since January I've lost my job, the love of my life and she's completely closed me out in a completely out of character move. I can't sleep, I worry about ever finding another job, my parents are threatening to kick me out. On top of this, my bank arranged me an overdraft, then decided they could probably exploit money from me by charging me £144 for being in an unarranged overdraft that they arranged. I got drunk last night and ended up completely snapping, punched a wall, called my ex in tears and eventually ended up throwing my phone at a wall. My grandad and some of my friends think I'm depressed but I just can't fathom the idea of telling some stranger head-doctor how I feel because, well, I feel like it's just going to get worse and worse.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? And if so, just how do I fucking cope with this?

Not to be a dick, but I don't think there's much anybody here can do for you. Words of encouragement don't seem very sincere on the internet and we can't help you with the practical aspects of your problems since we don't even know you offline. All I can really do is suggest you approach your problems one at a time and try not to let the others bother you while you're solving one. Slowly put your life back together realizing all the while that it's going to take time and effort. Don't expect any easy fixes and I hope you have good people who will stand by you. Good luck.

 

[Kamaitachi]

Hey bro? remember one thing and one thing only, Ex's are ex's for a reason. you may not realise it now but you're most likely an awesome dude with a 99% chance of meeting a new girl, a girl that's probably a lot hotter/cooler anyway.

if it was meant to be you'd still be with her man.

on money issues, Fuck that shit, leave it a while until you've calmed down from "the big ex" and you're in the right state to keep up a well payed job. and I have a slight feeling your parents kicking you out is an idle threat, that's pretty common. (and even if it's not, you most likely have friends who's houses you can crash at. unless you're like 14, in which case I'd just sleep at the local skate park or something)

Hope you feel better dude, peace.

 

[Nouw]

Sorry to hear that, my response is try and exercise. Helps.

it's just willpower man, WILLPOWER!

Video link of your avatar. Now.

 

[sgt. soap mctavish]

Sorry to hear that, my response is try and exercise. Helps.

it's just willpower man, WILLPOWER!

Video link of your avatar. Now.

alright: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrdwhXNt4qw

 

[spartan231490]

So basically, I've had enough. These last few months have been shit for me and it only seems to be getting worse. Since January I've lost my job, the love of my life and she's completely closed me out in a completely out of character move. I can't sleep, I worry about ever finding another job, my parents are threatening to kick me out. On top of this, my bank arranged me an overdraft, then decided they could probably exploit money from me by charging me £144 for being in an unarranged overdraft that they arranged. I got drunk last night and ended up completely snapping, punched a wall, called my ex in tears and eventually ended up throwing my phone at a wall. My grandad and some of my friends think I'm depressed but I just can't fathom the idea of telling some stranger head-doctor how I feel because, well, I feel like it's just going to get worse and worse.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? And if so, just how do I fucking cope with this?

I've been there. Not exactly there, but I definitely know the feeling of wondering how you're going to get up each day and go on. I got through it because too many people count on me for me to do anything else. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other and refusing to give up, praying/wishing/hoping that it will get better. Eventually it did.

 

[Nouw]

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Thanks a bunch man, made my day