The End of The Best Friend

[GrinningManiac]

I can safely say that I have a best friend, and I've had him for 14 years (I'm 17)

We both have other friends we like JUST AS MUCH, and there's no real defining difference between our friendship and our friendships with others, but there's something...older in our relationship

Plus, we bicker like an old couple, which is always a warning bell

 

[nerd51075]

I used to have best friends. I've grown away from everyone and I am much happier for it. I have not one real life friend right now and I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't need people, they don't need me, everyone is a winner.

You sir, are either a liar or a troll.

OT: Kids need best friends, blah-dee-blah-stuff-that-has-already-been-said-50-times.

 

[Frequen-Z]

I used to have best friends. I've grown away from everyone and I am much happier for it. I have not one real life friend right now and I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't need people, they don't need me, everyone is a winner.

You sir, are either a liar or a troll.

OT: Kids need best friends, blah-dee-blah-stuff-that-has-already-been-said-50-times.

I can assure you I am neither. Just a misanthrope who likes being alone.

 

[nerd51075]

I used to have best friends. I've grown away from everyone and I am much happier for it. I have not one real life friend right now and I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't need people, they don't need me, everyone is a winner.

You sir, are either a liar or a troll.

OT: Kids need best friends, blah-dee-blah-stuff-that-has-already-been-said-50-times.

I can assure you I am neither. Just a misanthrope who likes being alone.

I'm not sure why, but I am having trouble believing you on that one. Oh well, to each their own.

 

[Humble85]

In recent years Timber Lake Camp, a co-ed sleep-away camp in Phoenicia, N.Y., has started employing ?friendship coaches? to work with campers to help every child become friends with everyone else

Goddamn i have to fucking puke, this is making me sick. What is wrong with those people? "help every child become friends with fucking everyone else"? Are you kidding me? Why should they?

I imagine these coaches, taking to 7year old Timmy about why he doesnt like Peter. Timmy doesnt know why, he just doesnt really like him - he doesnt hate him, he just prefers other children in the camp and doesnt really want to spend time with Peter. Maybe Peter subconciously reminds Timmy of something or what-the-fuck, but Timmy doesnt really feel comfortable around Peter. So this coach asks him why, and proposes that Timmy maybe "rethinks" his opinion, gives it another chance, but still Timmy doesnt feel like it. But it is the camps purpose to make sure everybody likes everybody, so he keeps getting on timmy to like peter, indirectly suggesting timmy should not trust his feeling, suggesting that what he feels is wrong. Anyone have a clue what that does to a child? Timmy is freaking 7 years old, he doesnt understand that adults sometimes do stupid stuff, he doesnt know they are perfect, and so camp taught timmy to like everybody, despite what his gut tells him. That is just wrong...

I really have no clue if its going down like that, or if thats just my imagination, but my point stands: forcing, or just pushing a child can have severe consequences. There is nothing wrong with having a best friend, there is nothing wrong with not liking someone. we do not all have to be the same. we do not all have to like each other. as long as these kids dont beat up each other, or get really obsessed/too focused on the best friend, everything is perfectly finde. why feel the need to fix something? because kids in school bully each other? that is natural as well, goddamn...not pretty, but natural...

damn...

 

[Frequen-Z]

I used to have best friends. I've grown away from everyone and I am much happier for it. I have not one real life friend right now and I wouldn't change it for the world. I don't need people, they don't need me, everyone is a winner.

You sir, are either a liar or a troll.

OT: Kids need best friends, blah-dee-blah-stuff-that-has-already-been-said-50-times.

I can assure you I am neither. Just a misanthrope who likes being alone.

I'm not sure why, but I am having trouble believing you on that one. Oh well, to each their own.

Likewise, I don't understand why people can be so trusting of eachother and leave themselves so vulnerable. But you're right, we're all different.

Spoiler

 

[TheSkaAssassin]

"Every time is the worst time to be a child, because adults don't know shit."

-Lewis black

 

[chiggerwood]

In regards to this I feel that I need to quote Ayn Rand.

"I am neither foe nor friend to my brothers,
but such as each of them shall deserve
of me. And to earn my love, my brothers
must do more than to have been born.
I do not grant my love without reason, nor
to any chance passer-by who may wish to
claim it. I honor men with my love.
But honor is a thing to be earned.

I shall choose friends among men, but neither
slaves nor masters. And I shall choose
only such as please me, and them
I shall love and respect, but neither
command nor obey. And we shall join our
hands when we wish, or walk alone when
we so desire. For in the temple of his spirit,
each man is alone. Let each man keep his
temple untouched and undefiled. Then let
him join hands with others if he wishes,
but only beyond his holy threshold." -A quote from "Anthem" part 11

Let children have best friends. It's all part of growing up. No one should be forced to include others.

 

[Redweevil]

Maybe we should have multiple sposes as well, just in case we get divorced....

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Damn it, kids are people that are still in development, not fucking monkeys.

DON'T BE FORCING THIS SHIT YOU FUCKING GUIDANCE COUNSELORS! We all know your degree is faked or outdated.

This is like breeding without the forced sex. Remember all that controversy over the polygamist camps? That's what these people are doing, and they should be fucking stopped.

 

[Brandon237]

I only see my best friend once a month, but so what? For the first two years we knew each other, we wanted to kill each other, but we pulled through and now we are good. You need that one person who you trust above all else, the friend who is family. It fills a certain void. We all have three voids I think, that must be filled, that family member, who knows you inside out because they are your clone. That friend, who you can always trust, and the loving partner and other half of your personality.

Your best friends are just that for a reason, I don't find most people suitable friends, so those who I do, I like to stick with. If teachers separated us, they would make me a bitter and friendless person.

Also, JJ, if something goes awry, it is very character building to find a way around the problem yourself, and if possible, mend it. Now get the F*** out of our children's lives!

 

[miscelaneous]

The title made me think of the song.

"This is the end, my only friend, the end."

 

[DarkPanda XIII]

Seriously? Problems that connect with people's personality doesn't have to deal with just the best friends, not completely anyway. A good friend keeps you from getting into the serious trouble and straying you into the lighter troubles You'll get in trouble with the cops, but never do things that will perminantly scar you. If you have a friend like that, then it's probably not a best friend.

Usually the trouble that most people want to drive away isn't from the friends, but the people who aren't as close. Figure out the difference >.<

 

[Quaxar]

Yes, eeeeeeveryone is friends with everyone... and your neighbor's rottweiler is made of candy.

Seriously though, I hope they misread their calendars and thought today is the beginning of April. What would you have to study to be a "friendship coach" anyway? Cuddletology?
Parents should stop messing with their kids' personalities. We had a bully in class too, personally I wished him the worst deaths possible but that doesn't change the fact that even assholes are part of life and nature.
Keeping kids away from every possible threat and danger basically robs them of massive experiences necessary to form a functioning social mind. Kinda like the time when Homer adopted Pinchy.

 

[Rarhnor]

As awkward as it may seem, it is very logical.

With globalization and contact to everyone you know 24 hours-a-day, You can easily get a feeling of depersonalization. Having so many acquaintance that you won't have time to bond to one of them, so it seems very reasonable to coach children that way...Even if it does sound a little bible-brainwash-ish

Edit: I like cake btw

 

[dancinginfernal]

I've had 4 best friends.

One moved away.

The second grew up.

The third moved. And to Michigan, for some reason.

The fourth crashed from his Monster on my couch ten minutes ago and he still has a firm grip on the remote, which is agitating me.

 

[KP Shadow]

Yeah, kids need best friends... and ninjas (Hey, everybody needs a ninja, right? XD). The problem is, the parents are doing it wrong: instead of trying to shield little kids from the dangers of the real world, without the kids knowing, they should inform the kids of the dangers, and how to stay safe. And teach them some basic fighting skills, so they can protect themselves. Maybe teach them to steal leather pants from guys with weird spiky hairdos who claim to be the reincarnation of an Egyptian Pharaoh. But, in all seriousness, this is STUPID! Having a best friend is one of the best things for a child, ESPECIALLY if they have any sort of mental disorder such as Asperger's Syndrome or any other form of Autism, or ADHD. Preventing kids from having a best friend is just making things worse for them developmentally

 

[oppp7]

[sub]I think I'm the backstabbing kind of friend...[/sub]
Huh? Oh right, the topic...
I tend to like a group of close friends rather than a shitload of people I barely know, probably because I suck at making them in the first place and only talk calmly to a select few.