Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical, and insightful.
How to Get Along with Me
? Be independent, not clingy.
? Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.
? I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.
? Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.
? Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.
? If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.
? don't come on like a bulldozer.
? Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.
What I Like About Being a FIVE
? standing back and viewing life objectively
? coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects
? my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressure
? not being caught up in material possessions and status
? being calm in a crisis
What's Hard About Being a FIVE
? being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world
? feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all
? being pressured to be with people when I don't want to be
? watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or technical skill, do better professionally
FIVEs as Children Often
? spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on
? have a few special friends rather than many
? are very bright and curious and do well in school
? have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers
? watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information
? assume a poker face in order not to look afraid
? are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict
? feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected
FIVEs as Parents
? are often kind, perceptive, and devoted
? are sometimes authoritarian and demanding
? may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
? may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions
