Yea, the idea of the "family values" has always been pretty bullshit. The structure basically works, to be fair, the nuclear family model i mean, it provides a source of income with a breadwinner and a support system with a homemaker, and does a pretty decent job of taking care of and rearing kids, but that doesn't mean other models can't work, or that these are things only the nuclear model can pull off, and the idea that the nuclear family is the only acceptable model is complete crap, and anyone who's actually thought about it knows that.
I think the hate that the "family values" ideology breeds is part of suburban culture at large, the idea that projecting the image of wealth and happiness is the only thing worth doing, and anything else might as well be a witch to burn. I have problems myself with these types, i have a functional and legal, but completely crap looking car, parked legally in the street across my house, and my neighbors leave nasty notes saying how it "wrecks the view". That's kinda what their problem is, forget that i need a car to drive, and that car needs to take up space, and i live with 6 other people, so there's limited space in the garage, no, all that reality never occurs to the suburbanite. A sick twisted people they are. The problem is that suburbia is comfortable, and if you heed anything in this post, heed this. Never underestimate the power of comfort. This is a force to be reckoned with, and it is suburbia's greatest weapon. For all it's pitfalls, it's close-mindedness, absurd materialism, value of style over substance, and convention over truth, and social ranking over law or reason, suburbia is comfortable, and as anyone who spends too much time on the internet knows, comfort is hard to break free of, no matter how much bad stuff you KNOW it's enabling. My 24 years of accomplishing and doing very little because of how comforting and convenient the internet is have taught me this well enough.
This leads me to another point, one that will no doubt piss lots of people off, but here goes. And please keep in mind that these are observations, not opinions. In my time on this earth, i have learned that there is a certain degree of merit in mistrusting the "progressive" at times. Look at modern feminism. There's more than a bit of a "take anything and everything you can" mentality to it, that deviates far from wanting equality, and reaches into oppression. Hell, men simply sitting without crushing their testicles between their thighs is seen as a problem to these people. Forcing people to crush their own genitals because their clothed crotch offends you, that's tyranny, that's oppression, that's what certain progressive people want. This is sometimes what we get from progressiveness. Yes, sometimes we get great things, like an end to slavery, new technology, all kinds of good stuff, but sometimes we get shit too, like revenge-discrimination. There's good and there's bad. Some things ARE a threat to the nuclear family, and the nuclear family doesn't always deserve to be threatened like that. In the end, people rarely really want equality, and this applies to people of all kinds. They want what's best for them and those close to them, and they will screw anyone who doesn't fit that bill if it makes they're lives even very slightly better. Equality is actually just as much a ludicrous false concept as family values is, and engenders just as much hate and bullshit.
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