So yeah, the topic pretty much states my question. What do you fine folks on the escapist feel about the do's and do not's during the first date with someone?
The First Date, what should I do or not do?
- Thread starter Vash the Stampede'
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Whatever you do...
DO be yourself.
That's the most important thing. Don't try to put on another persona to try to "impress" her. It won't work out. Just be yourself.
DO be yourself.
That's the most important thing. Don't try to put on another persona to try to "impress" her. It won't work out. Just be yourself.
I pretty much expected the typical answers of...........(Just be yourself/It all depends on the girl involved) but I really appreciate the help. I'm so damn anxious to go out with her already its killing me lol. Just hoping I don't mess it up or I'll hate myself forever.
It doesn't depend on the girl. Save for the few small differences between everyone, we're pretty much the same.Vash the Stampede said:
Don't take her out for a drink and only have a drink (ie. do something else after).
Don't taker her to dinner and a film, that date fucking sucks.
Don't ask questions too much, talk in statements.
Don't stare at her.
Don't be boring.
Do look into her eyes when she talks, let your eyes glaze over rather than staring at her.
Do be confident.
Do project your voice so that she can hear you clearly but isn't being shouted at (practice if you must).
Do tease her. Make sure it's fun and playful too, smile and chuckle when you do.
Most importantly though:
Don't be yourself.
Do be your best self.
People always say that you should be yourself but they're wrong. I'm not saying you should be someone else, I'm saying you should emphasise the good qualities and hide the bad.
Also, you say you're anxious. The best thing you can do to calm your nerves is just reassure yourself that you're boss. Failing that, have a wank and then thoroughly shower. Should lower the heart rate right down.
What's wrong with a movie and dinner date? Seems like a good way to start off with a movie you both like which you can then talk about afterwards during a nice dinner which hopefully sparks other good conversation topics.
I'm feeling pretty good on what to say at the beginning and at the end of the date but I'm just worried about causing an awkward silence in-between because that would be hard for me to recover from.
The number of dates I've been in previously has been very few to say the least so I'm just trying to get as much info as I can so I mess up as little as possible. I appreciate the posts.
I'm feeling pretty good on what to say at the beginning and at the end of the date but I'm just worried about causing an awkward silence in-between because that would be hard for me to recover from.
The number of dates I've been in previously has been very few to say the least so I'm just trying to get as much info as I can so I mess up as little as possible. I appreciate the posts.
Hi,
I'm not sure if this date has already occurred or not, but here is something that may help calm the nerves.
You will probably have an awkward time. It may suck and you may not have another date with this person ever again. You may find out that you're aren't really that interested in her or she isn't interested in you.
OR, you may have a great time and then, well, great!
Just accept that when it comes to dating, especially when first starting out, you will probably (read more than likely but maybe not) crash and burn. Over and over again. Until you get enough experience, and make enough mistakes to get better at it. They say be yourself, don't be yourself... don't kiss, yes kiss. The truth is, you should just remember that you're there to have a good time with a lady and if you aren't having a good time, or if you realize she's not having a good time, don't be afraid to pull the plug on the thing and move on. Also try to keep an open mind.
I'm not sure if this date has already occurred or not, but here is something that may help calm the nerves.
You will probably have an awkward time. It may suck and you may not have another date with this person ever again. You may find out that you're aren't really that interested in her or she isn't interested in you.
OR, you may have a great time and then, well, great!
Just accept that when it comes to dating, especially when first starting out, you will probably (read more than likely but maybe not) crash and burn. Over and over again. Until you get enough experience, and make enough mistakes to get better at it. They say be yourself, don't be yourself... don't kiss, yes kiss. The truth is, you should just remember that you're there to have a good time with a lady and if you aren't having a good time, or if you realize she's not having a good time, don't be afraid to pull the plug on the thing and move on. Also try to keep an open mind.
Hi,
I'm not sure if this date has already occurred or not, but here is something that may help calm the nerves.
You will probably have an awkward time. It may suck and you may not have another date with this person ever again. You may find out that you're aren't really that interested in her or she isn't interested in you.
OR, you may have a great time and then, well, great!
Just accept that when it comes to dating, especially when first starting out, you will probably (read more than likely but maybe not) crash and burn. Over and over again. Until you get enough experience, and make enough mistakes to get better at it. They say be yourself, don't be yourself... don't kiss, yes kiss. The truth is, you should just remember that you're there to have a good time with a lady and if you aren't having a good time, or if you realize she's not having a good time, don't be afraid to pull the plug on the thing and move on. Also try to keep an open mind.
I'm not sure if this date has already occurred or not, but here is something that may help calm the nerves.
You will probably have an awkward time. It may suck and you may not have another date with this person ever again. You may find out that you're aren't really that interested in her or she isn't interested in you.
OR, you may have a great time and then, well, great!
Just accept that when it comes to dating, especially when first starting out, you will probably (read more than likely but maybe not) crash and burn. Over and over again. Until you get enough experience, and make enough mistakes to get better at it. They say be yourself, don't be yourself... don't kiss, yes kiss. The truth is, you should just remember that you're there to have a good time with a lady and if you aren't having a good time, or if you realize she's not having a good time, don't be afraid to pull the plug on the thing and move on. Also try to keep an open mind.
Depends on what you want out of it.
If you're looking for an honest relationship, BE HONEST and proceed without fear.
If you're looking to get laid, read your date, pick up on what she's into, and play at her ques.
If you're just looking to make a high-traffic post on The Escapist... try again?
If you're looking for an honest relationship, BE HONEST and proceed without fear.
If you're looking to get laid, read your date, pick up on what she's into, and play at her ques.
If you're just looking to make a high-traffic post on The Escapist... try again?