The hardest question.

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

Today I asked her if she would like to go catch a movie with me and a few friends. She accepted. But then, she asked me if we would be going as friends, or moar than friends... Oh god...

She stated she was fine with both, but wanted to get to know me better.
The thing is, she also got out of a serious relationship, and I know that's like a sensitive wound.
I replied I was fine with both, as well, but we decided friends, I really like her, but at the least, I want to be friends with her. And she says that she'd like to be friends with me at the least.

So that was probably the toughest question I have ever been asked. She's beautiful, intelegent, funny, friendly, and everything I look for in a girl, but she is a really good friend. And I'd love to get to know her better.

despite everyone else considering physical relationships universal winning conditions, friendship is the best way to fly. so you made a fine decision imho.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, except this one because it's wrong.

OP: you like the girl, she obviously is ok with taking on more than just friendship with you? This is NOT the time to be passive or friendly. Girls like to play messed up mindgames where they give you an awkward situation to sit through. Before she puts you in friend zone permanently tell her you want more with her.

If you never take the chance, you'll probably be regret that. Can you live with it?

"You'll regret everything if you lose it all. You'll regret nothing if you save something."
I understand that we are mostly nerds and geeks here, but it's honestly a lie that all girls play mind games, and the friend zone doesn't exist. In the same message, she stated that she wanted more time before she was ready for more than friends stuff. She is really sensitive to relationships and stuff right now, I care about her feelings 1000X more than I give a shit about mine.

 

[Wushu Panda]

"You'll regret everything if you lose it all. You'll regret nothing if you save something."
I understand that we are mostly nerds and geeks here, but it's honestly a lie that all girls play mind games, and the friend zone doesn't exist. In the same message, she stated that she wanted more time before she was ready for more than friends stuff. She is really sensitive to relationships and stuff right now, I care about her feelings 1000X more than I give a shit about mine.

I can quote people too, "It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all"

99.99999999999999% of girls play mindgames. As males we cannot detect them or even hope to understand them, but I assure you the games exist. As well as the friend zone, trust me.

If outright telling her isn't the way to go, fine. But definitely don't pull back all the way. Make sure you try and spend time with just the two of you to get in her head being alone with you is a good thing. And when she's ready it'll be easier to declare it something more.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

"You'll regret everything if you lose it all. You'll regret nothing if you save something."
I understand that we are mostly nerds and geeks here, but it's honestly a lie that all girls play mind games, and the friend zone doesn't exist. In the same message, she stated that she wanted more time before she was ready for more than friends stuff. She is really sensitive to relationships and stuff right now, I care about her feelings 1000X more than I give a shit about mine.

I can quote people too, "It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all"

99.99999999999999% of girls play mindgames. As males we cannot detect them or even hope to understand them, but I assure you the games exist. As well as the friend zone, trust me.

If outright telling her isn't the way to go, fine. But definitely don't pull back all the way. Make sure you try and spend time with just the two of you to get in her head being alone with you is a good thing. And when she's ready it'll be easier to declare it something more.

I'd rather be friends with her than have a short relationship with her.
The friend zone does not exist. It's an excuse for guys who can't accept not every girl will like him. Off the bat relationships usually fail because the couple might find out things about the other, that will turn them off. This happens in friendship as well, except it usually doesn't effect friendship like a relationship.