Geo Da Sponge said:
Yes, in real life if people feel that they've been strung along and then rejected they get upset and things get awkward. Deal with it. It's not like you can't fix up your friendship with Anders later anyway...
This. God yes, this..
There's a couple issues about the whole Anders thing, and they've both been really annoying me so to get it all out in the open.
1) People seem to have gotten so used to the idea that romance subplots in games should be entirely initiated and lead by the player. That's not how real life works unless (and I have a feeling this is the problem) you're an extremely conservative straight man with a view of relationships trapped several decades in the past.
The,whole thing of towing around a harem of characters who are attracted to but will never act on it because they're waiting for you to make the first move belongs in a 70s sexploitation film, not in 21st century writing. Frankly, It bothers me that people seem more upset that Anders comes onto them at all than that he comes on to them 5 minutes after stabbing his ex boyfriend in the stomach, which actually
was bad writing.
2) Secondly, that people honestly seem to believe that "sorry, I'm not gay" should instantly and perfectly absolve you of any responsibility or consequence for rejecting someone without exposing you to any awkwardness or ill feeling.
I challenge you to do the following, next time you get rejected by someone you're actually attracted to (don't set out to do it, just wait until it happens) try to react as well as Anders does. You must then go on to be exceptionally close friends with that person and spend a great deal of time with them for years without feeling any bitterness or ever allowing your feelings to negatively affect your relationship with them.
Now, consider that what you're basically saying is that anyone hitting on someone of the same sex, regardless of emotional maturity or experience, should be able to do that automatically because they never had a chance to begin with. I'm sorry to tell you this, but you probably never had a chance with anyone who has ever rejected you. It's not that you performed the wrong sequence of actions which will cause someone to open their legs, they just weren't attracted to you. It's a part of life, it hurts, and most of us get over it, but expecting it not to have any effect on anything is just.. incredible.
It's a simple choice, either we accept that romance elements in games will always show a fantasy of what relationships and sex will be like, or we call for more realism. However, claiming that the existence of optional gay romances in games is unrealistic or immersion breaking for you while operating on and accepting these ridiculous assumptions about human interaction is just wanting to have the cake and eat it (or in this case, to have the fantasies but have them only cater to you).