The Most Sexist Thing That's Happened To You

[azraelthor]

In Home Ec in Junior high school (we had to take it) I was partner with a girl who was aweful at cooking, and I had to carry her (figerativly) After making a meal in the class the teacher praised the girl for being able to cook such a nice meal even though she was partnered with a man and home men can't cook so it's good she didn't let me ruin the dish. I called the teacher out on it and told her I'm the one that cooked it. She called me a liar and sent me to the office

 

[azraelthor]

I'm not sure if this is sexist towards me but I got hit in the face by a girl during a martial arts class, later in a class at school some guys made fun of me after finding out it was from a girl.

One that's never effected me but I have seen a lot is, a wedding is the wife's day, no it's not it's about to people sharing everything from now on including decisions, so the husband should get his say in the wedding as well.

Considering (and this is from my experience with every married guy I know) that the man is just happy to be with the woman of his dreams for the rest of his life, that he doesn't care about the cerimony as long as it's his love that he is marrying. Also since tradition dictates that the family of the bride pays for the wedding it's understandable that the wife should get more of a say.

Also I am not saying that the man shouldn't have a say at all

 

[Falseprophet]

I suspect a small part of the reason I got my first professional job was because I was a man. Straight men are somewhat of a minority among public librarians:

 

[YonderTunic]

Hm, while this didnt happen specifically to me, it happened in a class of mine at high school. Long story short was we were making a slideshow about a book we read and for whatever reason what actors we'd have portray each character. The class was like 75% girls and 25% guys, and whenever a guy went and picked an actress for playing a role the girls would comment "oh of course you'd pick HER cuz she's SO hot right?" and go on and on about how each pick was only because how attractive they are.

This despite the fact that several girls had pictures of men shirtless and they one went so far as to pause the presentation there and tell the girls in the room to take one last look, which the teacher simply laughed at.

 

[nklshaz]

This happened two years ago. My art teacher practically worships Barack Obama. No, she doesn't just like him, I mean worships. Seriously, if she caught you saying anything bad about him she would give you a detention. She has a picture of him pinned to the wall in her room, and one day someone drew a sniper's crosshair on his forehead. ( lol XD ) She singled the boys out, and kept every single boy in the class in her room for something that was just short of an interrogation. We tried to tell her that none of us did it, but she said that "Only a boy would do this." When she couldn't find out who did it, she decided that the only logical solution would be to give every boy in the class a detention, and to lower our grade in her class. (That ***** nearly kept me off of the Honor Roll ) We later found out that it was a girl who did it, but of course she wouldn't believe us.

 

[kebab4you]

I got turned down at my latest place where I was searching for job because there was to few female working there, seriously this is just stupid, the job should go to the people most fit for it not that they are a certain gender T.T"

 

[gbemery]

Not on topic, but I read that about three times and each time I read 'sexist' I saw it was 'sexiest'. And each time your story confused me, because that situation wasn't sexy at all!

Hilarious because it just happened to me and I even posted in this thread yesterday knowing full well it was "sexist" and not "sexiest". But for some reason today I read this and saw "sexiest" and thought "alright now we're talking"...then got here and was like wait I posted in this yesterday.

 

[Gardenia]

Well, as a man who likes flowers, cooking and baking, I've had quite a few snide comments that border on sexism thrown my way. Nothing really serious though.

 

[azraelthor]

This happened two years ago. My art teacher practically worships Barack Obama. No, she doesn't just like him, I mean worships. Seriously, if she caught you saying anything bad about him she would give you a detention. She has a picture of him pinned to the wall in her room, and one day someone drew a sniper's crosshair on his forehead. ( lol XD ) She singled the boys out, and kept every single boy in the class in her room for something that was just short of an interrogation. We tried to tell her that none of us did it, but she said that "Only a boy would do this." When she couldn't find out who did it, she decided that the only logical solution would be to give every boy in the class a detention, and to lower our grade in her class. (That ***** nearly kept me off of the Honor Roll ) We later found out that it was a girl who did it, but of course she wouldn't believe us.

Don't show up for those detentions, and report her. That's pretty simple

 

[azraelthor]

I was once assumed to be a rapist just because I was male. I was walking in on a bunch of cheerleaders changing, but they wouldn't have said that if I was a girl =/

Walking in on girls changing is wrong, just like if a girls walks in on a guy changing would also be wrong

 

[Auroch]

Not on topic, but I read that about three times and each time I read 'sexist' I saw it was 'sexiest'. And each time your story confused me, because that situation wasn't sexy at all!

Hilarious because it just happened to me and I even posted in this thread yesterday knowing full well it was "sexist" and not "sexiest". But for some reason today I read this and saw "sexiest" and thought "alright now we're talking"...then got here and was like wait I posted in this yesterday.

Same thing. Fortunately, I did not let my perversion blind to what ended up being a great thread.

Men can experience sexism for not being manly enough, since the archetype of Patriarchy we're compared to are not only white, anglo-saxon protestant, and heteronormative, but also middle class, career-holding, and young to middle aged.

It's not as stark as puberty, but I've noticed how different people treat me since I got older and grew a beard, it's like I'm authority on anything I talk about and people tend to assume I'm way more established in my life or my opinions than I actually am. Frankly, it feels like an annoying static I have to talk through.

The most sexist thing that's happened to me is having to defend myself as not unstoppably lecherous, not incapable of monogamy, nor entirely superficial. Some women seem convinced that a man is only a person until there is a hot woman in the room, then all his actions are biologically pre-determined. The hypocrisy of thinking women shouldn't be constrained by their gender, but men naturally, electively are is annoying.

 

[intheweeds]

Dear Penthouse forum,

This one time at band camp...

- Oh you said sexist! That's different then nevermind.

 

[Gerhardt]

ooo too many things.

i had a guy come up to me on the gun range one morning and then sit down and explain how i should shoot a gun, for almost an hour before i finally got a word in edge wise and explained to HIM that i happened to be a competition shooter and had more than 12 years of pistol experience. He then proceeded to tell me i was lying and to prove it. After i outshot him, he said it was just luck and i was still lying.

I told him he was an asshole and to get lost.

or i was gaming once, and losing pretty badly, and this guy yelled over his mic "Stop playing a mans game and go make me a sandwich, *****" that was a fun one.

Good on you, firearms are one of those areas where the slack-jawed proto-makes haven't been weeded out yet. Props to you for being an awesome gun nut.


Well, I've got a few little instances, nothing to major or terrible. These are less "That's Hor-fence-ive!" and more "What the fuck are you on about?"

Had an ex girlfriend tell me that I must be gay because "No man is that sensitive. You can't possibly be straight."

Had a friend in high school ask me if I ever had a single gay thought, to which I said no. This automatically made me a violent anti-gay homophobe in her opinion...

And for quite a few years I had crazy long hair, down past me shoulders, and I wore it pulled back in a pony tail. I'm a 6'7" 275lb size 15 shoe monster. An aberration of nature. I don't look very feminine. So when I was in a hardware store one day and went to the bathroom and had an old man come running in after me yelling "Miss! Miss! That's the men's room you're in!"

And here's the thing about that, I don't take offense to that, being gender confused. It doesn't hurt my manly-man feelings, but like I said, I don't look at all feminine. If I was thinner, or shorter, or had a smaller, slighter frame, I could get that. I look like a goddamn yeti though, but I must be female solely because my hair is long..?

 

[an_luas]

I got turned down at my latest place where I was searching for job because there was to few female working there, seriously this is just stupid, the job should go to the people most fit for it not that they are a certain gender T.T"

I had the exact same thing happen to me two weeks ago! Annoying isn't it!

 

[AngryFrenchCanadian]

Well I'm a guy, so I subsequently haven't encountered any discrimination towards me based upon my gender. *prepares umbrella for incoming shitstorm*

What shitstorm? It's sadly true that males will rarely be discriminated upon gender compared to females in this day and age still.

Bull. Fucking. Shit.

Where the hell have you been for at least the past twenty years? Men are discriminated against at least as much as women are in the western world today, if not more. It's also far more likely that discrimination against men isn't even recognized as sexism at all, because people keep coming up with totally bullshit justifications for why it's acceptable to discriminate against him and not her.

Let me Google that for you.

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

ooo too many things.

i had a guy come up to me on the gun range one morning and then sit down and explain how i should shoot a gun, for almost an hour before i finally got a word in edge wise and explained to HIM that i happened to be a competition shooter and had more than 12 years of pistol experience. He then proceeded to tell me i was lying and to prove it. After i outshot him, he said it was just luck and i was still lying.

I told him he was an asshole and to get lost.

or i was gaming once, and losing pretty badly, and this guy yelled over his mic "Stop playing a mans game and go make me a sandwich, *****" that was a fun one.

Good on you, firearms are one of those areas where the slack-jawed proto-makes haven't been weeded out yet. Props to you for being an awesome gun nut.

i nearly got shot the other day on the range by an idiot 14 year old. I was off the shooting line, reloading a couple magazines before stepping back to the line. A couple booths down, this father and his son were there. The father was loading a rifle, his kid was "playing" with a Glock. His father told him to put it down, and he said "i know its unloaded" and pulled the trigger. THe pistol was aimed down the line, round in the chamber. Bullet struck a post 2 feet from me. When i was able to get up, i went over and SCREAMED at this kid, for nearly killing me, disobeying all the safe gun handling laws, and just being a general jackass. His reply was "chill out *****, it was an accident". by this point, his father was screaming at him, the range officer was yelling at both of them. THey preceeded to both be thrown out of the range permenantly.

 

[Unstable Ark]

I can't say I've been a specific target of sexism, but I get the feeling that the time will soon come.

Though, I have been a victim of generalizations, mainly from female teachers back in high school. Again, it wasn't specified to me, but to all the guys in class, saying how different and superior the female thought process is and how guys are all the same, something like that. I really didn't care, though I hate being generalized or pushed into a cliche in any form. Then again, considering the general attitude and mentality of pretty much the entire male student body, I can't exactly say I blame them.

To hell with that school. Glad I got through it as the quiet dude. No one bothered me.