The Myth of the Angry Feminist

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Zaik

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TheXRatedDodo said:
lithium.jelly said:
I dislike the term "feminist" because I find it sexist and demeaning. I stand for equality for all, but I absolutely will not call myself the f-word.
I'm a male, but this sums it up for me.
Say, hypothetically, that males were the "downtrodden" gender, rather than vice versa, I would never call mayself a... Male...Ist? Because even though it's about equality of both sexes, you're using the name of ONE of the sexes, at which point it becomes unbalanced. To me, this seems to be a big part of the percieved "angry feminist" thing
I myself know a few self-proclaimed feminists. When discussing it with them I agreed with everything they said, aside from the fact that they labelled themselves feminists.
If you are so firm in your belief of equality, you shouldn't have to attach such a word to yourself, especially not with all the cultural attachments surrounding it.

After all, there is a word for equality of the sexes aside from Feminism, it's called "equality." Better yet, it encompasses far more than simply equality of the sexes, but equality of all things great and small.
They call themselves masculists, and they're just as silly as feminists still existing today.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masculism

Applying all these -isms just makes people go batshit crazy and before you know it we live in a world where women are equal or better until the bill arrives.
 

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Imperator_DK said:
Indifference in regard to the woes other innocent groups face.
God damn that Martin Luther King! He was an awful person.. did you know he actually campaigned for black people to be treated better and he didn't specifically mention gays!

Do you see how silly that statement is. Sensitivity to the existence of gendered imbalances of power actually lends itself (and usually includes, at least nowadays) an appreciation of other imbalances of power. Disability studies, critical race studies and sexuality studies all grew out of and are still in many cases a part of 'feminist' scholarship areas like gender studies. There's a very good reason for that. Heck, I've found Franz Fanon a million times more relevant and useful than Germaine Greer.

In fact, one important feminist realization is that these things are almost always interlinked to the point where you can't think about gender without thinking about race, class, sexuality and particular 'normative' bodies. Remember, gender isn't sex, gendering happens for everyone.

Imperator_DK said:
Had they taken it from the top down, communicated a willingness to fight against any and all discrimination, then applied that general view to gender equality as well, that's a whole other story.
I don't really care about 'gender equality'. Well, I do in the kind of abstract way that I think it would be a nice goal for society to work for and I'll generally support measures to that effect, but it's not what I really care about. What I care about is gendering, or as some have called it the sex/gender system which lies at the root of prejudice and ideology of discrimination. That's not as simple as just saying 'yay women!' and then knocking off and saying 'my work here as done' once women have been handed the right to go to work and vote and whatever else society deems important enough to give them.

I'm interested in how people, not just women, are organized in relations to concepts and ideas like 'fem' on a structural level. Thus, 'feminism' is a pretty good description.

Imperator_DK said:
As for the methodology of bringing it about; complete reciprocity of the lowest anyone is willing to treat an innocent (innocent in the capacity the treatment is applied to, like "Blacks" or "Gays" etc.). This oftenmost goes for negative treatment - discrimination to discriminators - but a lack of positive treatment and interest in the problems of others can be reflected as well.
All I can say is that noone is harmless, who has ever got through life without inflicting emotional harm on another person or supporting ideas or practices that do? You're not really determining harm, you're distinguishing 'rational' or 'acceptable' harm from 'irrational' or 'needless' harm.

For example..

Imperator_DK said:
None (necessarily, though both men, as well as individual women who would voluntarily choose - prefer even - a more traditional family form, might be discriminated against by some despicable branches of it). A pure feminist just isn't helping out anyone who doesn't belong to a specific group, and thus have earned no help from anyone outside it.
And you don't think the 'traditional' family form is harmful?

How many divorces, how much domestic abuse, how much pressure on women to relegate themselves to the domestic sphere is 'acceptable' before traditional marriage becomes 'harmful'. And you're supporting that? You're saying that attacking an institution which causes untold misery to millions of people is a 'harmful' practice, while that institution itself and the people who uphold it as socially normal are 'innocent'?

Need I remind you that almost all of the horrific cultural practices of the past were entered into voluntarily and in many cases outright consented to. I'm sure had you explained your principle to people of the time, they would have maintained the 'innocence' of their position in exactly the same way.

It's a stupid question though, and I'm playing devil's advocate. My point is that dividing the world into 'aggressors' and 'victims' is is a bit pointless. I'd rather determine the social, linguistic and identity-based elements which cause and vindicate harm in the first place than worry about how much I'm allowed to harm people whom I don't think are innocent.

evilthecat said:
The one who exclusively labeled him/herself a feminist rather than committing to general non-discrimination.
Again, 'fem' = women.

evilthecat said:
I don't dispute it's a worthy cause (or part of a worthy cause); I despite whether those who single-mindedly pursue it in lieu of the woes of others are themselves worthy of being helped?
Okay, let's take feminist activism for a second, and this is the only time I'm going to do this because I don't think being a feminist necessarily means being involved in activism.

Sure, feminist activism is usually concerned with 'women's' issues such as equal pay or reproductive rights.

Now, why is that a bad thing? Is it bad because they don't specifically mention non-gendered forms of discrimination (ignoring the fact that such things don't exist in the real world) or is it bad because there are presumed to be active hostility towards other 'worthy' groups?

Because if it's the former, then you're saying that no form of activism is possible without the broadest of possible liberal goals and non-specific aims, and that would be a terrible loss. To go back to my above example, Martin Luther King was a clergyman and devoutly religious, it would be reasonable to say he likely had 'traditional' views on the family and homosexuality. Does that mean everyone should have stopped listening when he spoke out against racial discrimination and segregation? Does that mean that the white people, the women, the gays who got involved in the black civil rights movement shouldn't have done so because they weren't specifically included?

If that's the kind of society you want to live in, count me out of it. Yes, feminist activists can be tiring, but what is actually the problem with them and their agenda? The theory they draw on is good, the people they want to help are often as good as anyone else. I fail to see how you could possibly construe a few slightly cringeworthy speeches as being somehow equal to simply allowing sexual discrimination to occur and doing nothing about it in terms of the harm caused.

evilthecat said:
See the apartment complex analogy above. It suggest limited interest, and thus a lack of positive interest in the woes of others.
Why?

Do the words I mentioned imply limited interest? Because they certainly have done in the past.
 

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1) I am a male
2) i treat women equal. Unless they use the fact that they are a woman for their personal benefit. For example: I go to college. And I have never seen so many breasts than at an oral exam. Half of the girls don't wear a bra to an oral exam and half of those wear a see through shirt or have cleavage down to their belly button. If you do that just for an oral exam than you are a prostitute and deserve to be treated as such.
 

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Just throwing this out there, but the reason for the existence of groups lobbying for the rights of gays, non-whites, women, etc., is because those groups aren't yet equal to straight white males.[footnote]You can throw all of the "well tell that to 'straight white male x' lines you want, it doesn't change reality.[/footnote] Those groups are still trying to reach the standard. So acting like we need support groups to move the standard even more just widens the gap.
 

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The core idea of feminist hasn't changed, granted.
But still in Finnish law if I divorce, the woman gets the children no matter what her status in life is (If she is able to take of the children health wise). And they won't be able to live with me until they are allowed to decide them selfs (at the age of 14? I think).
Therefor we are not equal because they are in priority to get the Kids than I am. We are not equal, men is less and women is more. But yet I never see feminist fighting for my right to have my children to live with me.

They yell equality and when we ask them to go in to army they say No. They want the rights but not the responsibilities. They do not want to bare arms unless they choose so, men need to bare arms they choose or not. How can we be equal unless we have the same responsibilities and rights?

Issues is that we can not remove genetic differences, we can remove social differences for long shot but there will always be a first and a second. One will dominate one will be dominated.

I personally would prefer a world where there are no illogical genders. NO man no woman, just one singular being in perfect logic and order. Beautiful and organized, only even numbers. A world in which every word will lead up to even number. A perfect world, in perfect order, housing the perfect being - controlled by the perfect being. No paradoxes of language, just the purity of ideas.
 

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evilthecat said:
Snip.

My point is that dividing the world into 'aggressors' and 'victims' is is a bit pointless.
That is precisely what you are doing. Who are you to decide whether someone who decides to be a housewife or a househusband is a victim or not? Unless that was your point, I'm not sure.

I will concede though that with the gender roles (not gender, I resent that Americanisation of a Scientific term) there are those that are judged to be worthwhile and those that are not; most of the typically male ones are worthwhile and the female ones aren't. There you have a very valid point.

Do we go about fixing that by removing gender roles until we are left with just roles? Or do we go about showing the worth of the previously scorned and derided attributes? You seem to erring toward the first, I'd much prefer the second.

Imperator_DK said:
I don't dispute it's a worthy cause (or part of a worthy cause); I despite whether those who single-mindedly pursue it in lieu of the woes of others are themselves worthy of being helped?
Snip.
You're missing the point. He quite clearly states he believes it's a worthy cause.

What he's saying is that you do nothing to help him, ergo why should he do something to help you? The you being feminism and the him being non women. Admirable it is not but it is a perfectly reasonable response. As he said earlier, he's merely reciprocating indifference. And because indifference is shown to other issues that may or may not be more serious than those that feminists deal with respect is lost.

An umbrella humanist organisation with the serious backing that feminism gets could do some widespread good.
Imperator_DK said:
Sorry to hijack respond in your place but you speak in, in my opinion, unnecessarily technical terms and I wanted to dumb it down for my own sake.

OT: Liberal Feminism has to rebrand itself, the name is too tinged with the man hating loon to be taken seriously without having to effortfully preface itself first.
 

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I have a question to the world at large here.

You know they say that women get payed less for doing the same job as men? Well just what job's are they talking about? I my self have had a few different jobs in my life so far and i can hand on heart say that i have never been in a job where i am payed more than a woman simply because i am a man.
 

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Without reading all of the debate and drama and whatnot...

The only woman I know that's occasionally vocal on the subject is very much of the "women should be in charge, men should know their place" persuasion. I guess all the others either don't much give a shit or just don't care to talk about it for whatever reason.

...so, yeah. As far as I'm concerned, everyone's equal, so I have no interest in hearing someone go on about why one group should be in charge. Therefore I pretty much tune out whenever I hear the word 'feminist'. Sorry. If it were replaced with 'humanist' and intended to mean the same thing (like it's apparently supposed to), it'd be a different story.
 

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Dragunai said:
Shadowkire said:
Summary of your post:

You presented needless insults
You insulted my opening point without providing a counter point
Your "Arguement" consisted of rehashing what I said with more arrogance and self importance
You come off as a "I know better than you do" sort of jerk and therefore ARE what I was discussing in closing elements of my post.

Have a nice day.


EDIT:

Just to clarify, I come from a loving home with an awesome mother who just goes over the top on this subject. The fact that you saw this as an arguement when it was simply my opinion on the matter says that its probably you who needs the therapy kid.

Your post basically says my opinion was wrong and I laughed for real when I read "In my experience" because you dont know me from jack therefore you cannot over ride my thoughts with your own.

So yeah,
Troll on.
Lol, so I made a few statements that could be considered insults by someone who is overly sensitive in response to your original post which is all about insults, then you called me out on it. Nice job troll.

Sorry for the phrase "Says crap about..." I should have typed stuff/things instead of crap.

You come off as a "I know better than you do" sort of jerk and therefore YOU ARE what you were discussing in the closing elements of your post.

I suppose I should have clarified what I mean by mistreatment at the hands of your family members, I apologize if that statement was too personal.

I apologize for assuming that all those attacks and insults to the OP were an argument. If your opinion about a subject is filled with needless insults toward others I reaffirm my previous statement: you may need some therapy.

And your thoughts can't "override" my own, stalemate.
 

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Zaik said:
TheXRatedDodo said:
lithium.jelly said:
I dislike the term "feminist" because I find it sexist and demeaning. I stand for equality for all, but I absolutely will not call myself the f-word.
I'm a male, but this sums it up for me.
Say, hypothetically, that males were the "downtrodden" gender, rather than vice versa, I would never call mayself a... Male...Ist? Because even though it's about equality of both sexes, you're using the name of ONE of the sexes, at which point it becomes unbalanced. To me, this seems to be a big part of the percieved "angry feminist" thing
I myself know a few self-proclaimed feminists. When discussing it with them I agreed with everything they said, aside from the fact that they labelled themselves feminists.
If you are so firm in your belief of equality, you shouldn't have to attach such a word to yourself, especially not with all the cultural attachments surrounding it.

After all, there is a word for equality of the sexes aside from Feminism, it's called "equality." Better yet, it encompasses far more than simply equality of the sexes, but equality of all things great and small.
They call themselves masculists, and they're just as silly as feminists still existing today.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masculism

Applying all these -isms just makes people go batshit crazy and before you know it we live in a world where women are equal or better until the bill
arrives.
Well I'll be buggered. I didn't even know about these people before today.
 

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Sylocat said:
"Ultrafeminists," "Feminazis" and "The PC Police" are strawmen created by misogynists who don't want to be called out for their own bigotry.

These strawmen are created using the same logic that right-wing Christians use to claim that anyone who believes differently from them is actively oppressing them and wanting to disenfranchise them, or that racists use to take down affirmative action (by claiming that "there is no racism anymore, so stop whining").
A friend of mine got yelled at by a 'feminist' for holding the door open for her. How in the hell is he a misogynist?
 

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FUN STUFF ABOUT ME!

I have a measured IQ that is measured in the range of 149-133 (If you know anything about the IQ test you'll know that it is kind of weird to be that spread-out) but even if you go from 133 I still enjoy 1/3 more mental aptitude than the average person. I played football in High School and was pretty good (though unfortunately several shoulder injuries prevented me from finding out just how good I could be). And I am good-looking enough to get by (by this I just mean that I am not actively ugly). These traits have resulted in me being described as: Arrogant, an Ass, a Dick, Utterly Lazy, and even occasionally as brilliant. And I generally believe that I am better than most people I meet.
Do I attribute any of this to the fact that I have male reproductive organs instead of female reproductive organs (I translate football as athletic aptitude)? The answer is a resounding: No.
I have these attributes due to the random chance that is the passing of genetic traits (you would agree with me if you could see my mother or biological father), and I would expect to be just as Arrogant, etc... if I were a female.
I guess that what I am driving at is: I am a fairly well off human being (as far as most measurable traits) and none of it has anything to do with me being a male.

Sorry if I ranted, and I was operating under the impression that we were discussing SEX as opposed to GENDER. For obvious reasons of course.
 

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Psycho Cat Industries said:
No point to it.You equal and every little issue you see involving society is by your choice.


http://www.commondreams.org/view/2008/04/28

I suppose military rape wouldn't be an issue if we'd stop trying to be equal/serve our country and just go back to the kitchen...
 

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I always thought that the simplest definition of feminism was wanting an increase in the rights of women. Usually there is the added point for where it should stop at equal rights when compared to men but there are certain "feminazis" that don't include that limit ( they are still feminists regardless of if you like their beliefs).

(Tangentially related to the discussion at hand.) Would equality in a field of work between the sexes mean having an equal number of men and women in it or would it mean whichever candidate is more qualified for the job gets it regardless of gender?
The only reason that I ask this is because I often see the difference in the number of men and women in a field paraded around as proof of institutionalized sexism, where it could just mean there are more men with better skill in that field and thus are more qualified for it than women.
 

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SuperMse said:
Alright, guys, I was just looking at this thread [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.270981-Poll-Do-you-consider-yourself-a-feminist], and I'm about to go Super Saiyan as a result. There are tons of people questioning the OP's definition of feminism and further perpetrating that feminists are angry, crazy women who want more rights than men.
I'm going to say the same thing here as I said over there:

Hells yes I am a feminist!

And to those of you who think that means I'm a bra-burning man-hater, really, have you seen me in other threads? I am a proponent of casual sex, kinky sex, sexy outfits (usually involving a bra), and hot sexy fun with all genders.

Feminism is about equal rights. If you think women are currently equal to men in society, you are wrong. We are STILL trying to get those rights that men take for granted every day. Do the laws say we're equal? Sure. Do people treat us that way? No. Feminism means that we want to be treated as if we are equal with men. Not better than - equal to.

Or, to put it another way...

I want to have the right to be a US Marine, and if I choose to become a Marine, to be given the same rights and risks as male marines are. The same goes if I want to be a video game designer, a physicist, or a stay-at-home mom.

I want the right to choose without anyone - male or female - telling me I'm not supposed to do what I choose to do with my life.

And yes, I want the right to be a stay at home mom IF I CHOOSE, and not be ridiculed for it. Feminism is about rights and freedom, not specific lifestyle choices.

I don't burn bras - I buy my bras from Victoria's Secret. In fact, I support the new Wonder Woman's "Boobalicious Duds," as the Escapist put it, because the right to wear sexy clothes (like bras) it in and of itself empowering. It will only be pandering or sexist if the writing on the show turns out to suck... but I digress.

I'm a feminist, and proud of it.
 
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DuctTapeJedi said:
Psycho Cat Industries said:
No point to it.You equal and every little issue you see involving society is by your choice.


http://www.commondreams.org/view/2008/04/28

I suppose military rape wouldn't be an issue if we'd stop trying to be equal/serve our country and just go back to the kitchen...
I don't mean that there aren't issues among individuals and never would I claim such things as to go back to an unequal time but really,it evened out and I really don't see the point to this so called power grab that people continue to mention.
 

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Psycho Cat Industries said:
DuctTapeJedi said:
Psycho Cat Industries said:
No point to it.You equal and every little issue you see involving society is by your choice.


http://www.commondreams.org/view/2008/04/28

I suppose military rape wouldn't be an issue if we'd stop trying to be equal/serve our country and just go back to the kitchen...
I don't mean that there aren't issues among individuals and never would I claim such things as to go back to an unequal time but really,it evened out and I really don't see the point to this so called power grab that people continue to mention.
Sexual assaults and their cover ups within the military aren't an "individual" issue.
 
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DuctTapeJedi said:
Psycho Cat Industries said:
DuctTapeJedi said:
Psycho Cat Industries said:
No point to it.You equal and every little issue you see involving society is by your choice.


http://www.commondreams.org/view/2008/04/28

I suppose military rape wouldn't be an issue if we'd stop trying to be equal/serve our country and just go back to the kitchen...
I don't mean that there aren't issues among individuals and never would I claim such things as to go back to an unequal time but really,it evened out and I really don't see the point to this so called power grab that people continue to mention.
Sexual assaults and their cover ups within the military aren't an "individual" issue.
Individuals,and pardon me as I was not in meaning to offend.It is just an opinion and from what I am hearing,you have a good case of where this is not perfect.All I was trying to say and still are is that there seems to be a fuss over the stereotype and not the meaning
 

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Um...... Cool story sis? I'm a male that belives in equality when applicabe. I'm sorry but as things are right now, not just with women but equality in general, it is staring to be too much. Scolarships for any race BUT white, ok. White only scholerships.... RACIST!!!! I feel that if someone can pass the entry requirements that they should be allowed to work in that job. However, many jobs such as fire fighters, police departments, and the military have implemented different standards for women. I know a fire fighter who does not like women in his department, not because he is anti-femonist, but because he fears for his life. He worries that if he is knocked unconscious a women will not phisically be able to get him out of the building.

So I think equality is all good and well, but it has to be TRUE equality. In both oppertunity and expectations.