The other side of "Girls only date jerks"

[rosac]

As a guy, I agree and disagree. Being a confident, brash person is a great way to start a relationship.

It takes a lot more to continue one.

Also, one of the lines I hate hate hate is "Oh my god, you're such a nice guy, you deserve a nice girl"

... So why not you? Are you not nice or something? (I know this comes across as bitter, but I get it all the time. It's getting silly now.)

 

[deadish]

Getting girls 101:

1) Be attractive
2) Don't be unattractive
3) See 1)
4) ???
5) Profit!

Seriously though, sometimes I wonder just how attractive you are to women simply comes down to looks and wealth.

Sure they say, "Be confident!". Well, confidence isn't exactly easy to fake. For most part, if you are good looking and/or wealthy (social status normally follows), you will naturally be confident.

 

[darlarosa]

Are you sure thats whats happening?
Could it be that you are acting more confident and dressing better?
Could it be that quite actually you're attracting a certain kind of girl and only noting that instead of the ones that don't like you?

Unfortunately, he seemed clear on this earlier in the thread. No real reason, just a certainty. Which brings me to another issue....

I'm so sick of this large portion of the male half of the species whining and complaining like they know every goddamn vagina bearing heterosexual female on the fucking planet

Additionally, there's the notion that "every girl I've tried with has rejected me. There's something wrong with WOMEN!"

That is actually a scary thought process to me. Everyone have occasional thoughts like that about something, but the whole "women reject me, so fuck women" mentality tends to boarded on the hyperaggressive not to mention pathetic.

I hate to be "that person" but sometimes ya know its either that guys like that are going after women who they shouldn't or....there is actually something off about them or how they interact with a female. This is a massive over generalization though. Sometimes a woman just doesn't like you in that way. Sometimes a woman just doesn't see you as dating material (she knows you have an issue or she doesn't want you in that way) Sometimes it's the fact that you are trying to hard or creep her out. Sometimes it's that she thinks she is not the right one for you. Sometimes she's not interested in a relationship. The list goes on.

I honestly think part of this mentality is from the idea that from a young age boys are taught that women are rewards. Every other fairytale, adventure stories, novels, movies, shows all tend to lean toward this idea somehow...

 

[Something Amyss]

I hate to be "that person" but sometimes ya know its either that guys like that are going after women who they shouldn't or....there is actually something off about them or how they interact with a female. This is a massive over generalization though. Sometimes a woman just doesn't like you in that way. Sometimes a woman just doesn't see you as dating material (she knows you have an issue or she doesn't want you in that way) Sometimes it's the fact that you are trying to hard or creep her out. Sometimes it's that she thinks she is not the right one for you. Sometimes she's not interested in a relationship. The list goes on.

It's almost like social scenarios are complex and sometimes even hard to figure out. One of the big problems is that people like easy answers.

 

[darlarosa]

I hate to be "that person" but sometimes ya know its either that guys like that are going after women who they shouldn't or....there is actually something off about them or how they interact with a female. This is a massive over generalization though. Sometimes a woman just doesn't like you in that way. Sometimes a woman just doesn't see you as dating material (she knows you have an issue or she doesn't want you in that way) Sometimes it's the fact that you are trying to hard or creep her out. Sometimes it's that she thinks she is not the right one for you. Sometimes she's not interested in a relationship. The list goes on.

It's almost like social scenarios are complex and sometimes even hard to figure out. One of the big problems is that people like easy answers.

This is true. Still I don't think that justifies it any. It's like if you have a repeated problem you figure out what it is and you either solve it or live it. Its not making it easy it's ignoring responsibility

 

[thesilentman]

And why is this topic still continuing? I think it's proven that if you are a nice, confident person, you will get men/women[footnote]Yes, women can be pricks too.[/footnote]. Lets move on, shall we?