I realise there are a few sexually related threads going round at the minute, and I do apologise if this has come up elsewhere already but I did search and this is praying on my mind from a conversation I was having earlier today.
I was chatting to a pretty close female friend and colleague of mine, and the topic of our number of sexual partners came up seemingly out of nowhere. She seemed a little edgy but after some coaxing divulged that she had had more than 40 sexual partners in the 3 years since she lost her virginity. We are both currently 19 years old and I can count the number of my partners on one hand so I was very taken aback by this. I was actually speechless as she really didn't seem the type to get around so much.
Which brings me to my first two questions;
At what point would you consider a person, male or female, to be a slut? (I do realise the gender imbalance with regards to this issue but just be honest as to your opinion)
And Would knowing a person had had so many partners make them less attractive to you? Because knowing a girl has had more guys in 3 years than I will have girls in my lifetime sure as hell made me look at her differently.
This got me contemplating whether she was just rolling over for any guy on a night out or whether I (and seemingly all of my friends) are just incredibly sexually inactive. But when I considered the mitigating factors that may have been responsible for this, the one I personally kept sticking on was gender. I would imagine it easier for girls to pick up guys than the reverse, but does anybody else have the same experience where girls tend to have far, far more sexual partners than any guy they know? I mean is that the norm? Because if it is there's gotta be like a handful of guys out there getting all the action while 90% of the male population are moping about so ronery most of the time.
I realised that I may have been generalising based on one person here so I went away and did some other field research of my own (texting most of the girls in my phone book asking them) and sure enough, of the ones that weren't weirded out and insulted and actually replied (9), all but one had had far more sexual partners than any of the guys I know.
Did I miss something here or is this a little imbalanced? The people I asked included a few girl gamers and some non gaming folk, and about half of my male friends aren't nerds in the slightest so what the hell is going on?
I'd really like to know if the Escapists have the same experiences or whether there's just something in the water where I live because this is bugging me like hell. So please, discuss...
I was chatting to a pretty close female friend and colleague of mine, and the topic of our number of sexual partners came up seemingly out of nowhere. She seemed a little edgy but after some coaxing divulged that she had had more than 40 sexual partners in the 3 years since she lost her virginity. We are both currently 19 years old and I can count the number of my partners on one hand so I was very taken aback by this. I was actually speechless as she really didn't seem the type to get around so much.
Which brings me to my first two questions;
At what point would you consider a person, male or female, to be a slut? (I do realise the gender imbalance with regards to this issue but just be honest as to your opinion)
And Would knowing a person had had so many partners make them less attractive to you? Because knowing a girl has had more guys in 3 years than I will have girls in my lifetime sure as hell made me look at her differently.
This got me contemplating whether she was just rolling over for any guy on a night out or whether I (and seemingly all of my friends) are just incredibly sexually inactive. But when I considered the mitigating factors that may have been responsible for this, the one I personally kept sticking on was gender. I would imagine it easier for girls to pick up guys than the reverse, but does anybody else have the same experience where girls tend to have far, far more sexual partners than any guy they know? I mean is that the norm? Because if it is there's gotta be like a handful of guys out there getting all the action while 90% of the male population are moping about so ronery most of the time.
I realised that I may have been generalising based on one person here so I went away and did some other field research of my own (texting most of the girls in my phone book asking them) and sure enough, of the ones that weren't weirded out and insulted and actually replied (9), all but one had had far more sexual partners than any of the guys I know.
Did I miss something here or is this a little imbalanced? The people I asked included a few girl gamers and some non gaming folk, and about half of my male friends aren't nerds in the slightest so what the hell is going on?
I'd really like to know if the Escapists have the same experiences or whether there's just something in the water where I live because this is bugging me like hell. So please, discuss...
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