The single most destructive phrase...

[Spectrre]

There is no friend zone

"Lets just be friends" or " I like you as a friend"

SO much this. To girls who friend-zone guys = Fuck you.

How about no?
How is it a girls fault when a dude wants to boink her and she's not down for it?
You'd probably be a bit weirded out if a long term friend suddenly expressed undying love for you and then expects you to jump on them.

I think you are completely in the dark on what the term "Friend-Zone" means. Having someone in love with you and not feeling the same about them is fine as long as you make it very clear to them that that is the case.

Being friend-zoned however means that the girl in question is leading you on, giving you small bits of hope that MAYBE you can be with her and that maybe she feels the same way but isn't sure, while all the while she knows full well she doesn't feel the same but only says all of those things to have someone to go to.

That is not a nice thing to do. It's quite horrible in fact.

If you don't like someone the way they like you, you tell them. You make it clear. You don't leave things unsaid because you want to feel wanted. THAT is being friend-zoned. And fuck you to girls (or guys) who think it's ok to do it.

 

[Spinozaad]

There's no 'Friend Zone', just the bruised ego's of insecure guys spinning a fantasy.

Anywya, as to destructive phrases...

"I'm sorry, but we had to amputate the testes."

 

[Phasmal]

How is it a girls fault when a dude wants to boink her and she's not down for it?

She could at least try the dating thing. We don't expect to go straight from friends to fucking.

Well, not all of us.

Yeeeah, no.
She could try and awkward-ass date with someone she's not attracted to, but it would only be to spare the dude's feelings. The important part is `She's not down for it`.
Besides, she doesn't need to try jack shit if she's not interested in you.

I think you are completely in the dark on what the term "Friend-Zone" means. Having someone in love with you and not feeling the same about them is fine as long as you make it very clear to them that that is the case.

Being friend-zoned however means that the girl in question is leading you on, giving you small bits of hope that MAYBE you can be with her and that maybe she feels the same way but isn't sure, while all the while she knows full well she doesn't feel the same but only says all of those things to have someone to go to.

That is not a nice thing to do. It's quite horrible in fact.

If you don't like someone the way they like you, you tell them. You make it clear. You don't leave things unsaid because you want to feel wanted. THAT is being friend-zoned. And fuck you to girls (or guys) who think it's ok to do it.

That's rather specific, and not what most cases are about.
In fact, I googled `Friend zone` (barf), and that's not what came up most.
I say this as a person who tried to let a guy down gently (he'd never said he was interested to my face, so I wasn't direct, cause I wasn't 100% at first I'd heard the truth) only to be treated like a ***** by absolutely fucking everyone because `he's a nice guy` and `can't you give him a chance?`.
I do not think my case was rare, as I've met many other women who've recieved the same treatment.
It's a shame too. Me and that guy are no longer friends, just because he could not deal with the fact that I didn't want to date. We'd been good friends and now I feel like he just used that to creep on me.

 

[Spectrre]

I think you are completely in the dark on what the term "Friend-Zone" means. Having someone in love with you and not feeling the same about them is fine as long as you make it very clear to them that that is the case.

Being friend-zoned however means that the girl in question is leading you on, giving you small bits of hope that MAYBE you can be with her and that maybe she feels the same way but isn't sure, while all the while she knows full well she doesn't feel the same but only says all of those things to have someone to go to.

That is not a nice thing to do. It's quite horrible in fact.

If you don't like someone the way they like you, you tell them. You make it clear. You don't leave things unsaid because you want to feel wanted. THAT is being friend-zoned. And fuck you to girls (or guys) who think it's ok to do it.

That's rather specific, and not what most cases are about.
In fact, I googled `Friend zone` (barf), and that's not what came up most.
I say this as a person who tried to let a guy down gently (he'd never said he was interested to my face, so I wasn't direct, cause I wasn't 100% at first I'd heard the truth) only to be treated like a ***** by absolutely fucking everyone because `he's a nice guy` and `can't you give him a chance?`.
I do not think my case was rare, as I've met many other women who've recieved the same treatment.
It's a shame too. Me and that guy are no longer friends, just because he could not deal with the fact that I didn't want to date. We'd been good friends and now I feel like he just used that to creep on me.

I suppose different people assign it different things. The explanation I gave is the meaning I know and have seen used most.

In your example though I don't disagree with your sentiments. You can't just make yourself like or love someone. If those feelings aren't there then that's that. People shouldn't call you or anyone names for that, that's just ridiculous. I agree that you don't just give it a try or give them a chance just for the sake that they're you're friend and decided to announce to the world that they like you for more than one.

And it may seem rather specific because in part it is. It happened to me personally. But I'm far from the only one. It happens to a lot of guys. And girls too, sometimes.

 

[rum_monkey]

Usually when I hear a girl ask, "Do you think I'm fat/pretty/etc." For some reason no good can come from any answer the person responding will give, even if it's a positive response.

 

[hoboman29]

"Are you alright?" when I am really pissed off you know it and if you have to ask that then you really shouldn't be trying to help. In most situations this is an obvious answer and a redundant question.
"Manly" What the hell is up with the idea of this maybe a few decades earlier it wouldn't be a completely outdated set of ideas but in the 21st century it strikes as old fashioned that men should be overly macho asshats. (I have never seen it used to imply otherwise)

 

[superbatranger]

"Why can't you be more like so-and-so?"

Makes my fingers twitch.