Things that annoy you about your friends

[MajorTomServo]

I love my friends. You love your friends. They're practically family. And because they're like family, I sure you have a lot of things to complain about. Let's vent to each other.

One of my best friends from high school recently came out as a lesbian, and my friends and I want to be supportive. Unfortunately, they're the overly PDA couple in a big way. We'll just be sitting around in a circle chatting or playing a bored game or something, and they start making out, sliding their hands down each other's pants, etc. We all just kind of awkwardly sit there and let it pass. When we all go out to eat, they spend the whole time texting each other and only kind-of sort-of pay attention to the rest of the group. No one wants to complain about it though, because she gets all emotional about how we're only pretending to be accepting. Ugh, it's annoying.

And on the subject of my friend's love lives, another one of my friends I just feel bad for. It seems like her concept of 'boyfriend' is 'guy I'm completely subservient to and have sex with whenever he wants without question.' She had an abusive father, so I have a feeling that's the sort of path she'll be on for quite a while, if not forever. Poor thing.

But enough about me, you don't care. Talking about yourself and your problems is rude. You guys tell me about your friends and stuff!

 

[Marter]

How a "meet me at 1:00" becomes an "I'll show up at 1:30 despite telling you I'd be there at 1:00."

That's really the only annoying one that isn't really excusable to me (if it happens every time, which, for one friend, it does).

 

[DugMachine]

How a lot of my advice goes in one ear and out the other.

"I'm leaving the house right now" is actually "I'm just getting dressed so it'll take me like half an hour to take the 10 minute drive to your house"

 

[Keoul]

When they ask for the answers for questions instead of asking how to solve it.
I am not a freaking answers book, I'll teach you how to get the answer. I will not tell you what the answer is unless you're checking it.

 

[Guffe]

A few of them have some troubling holding times, but then again I've gotten used to it so doesn't really bother me that much anymore.

 

[teqrevisited]

It might not seem like something that would grate, but it really annoys me that they keep buying me things when I can't afford to pay them back for everything. I appreciate their generosity but it annoys me to know or think that I owe someone, especially when I can't return the favour. It's the same reason that I don't borrow money from anyone.

 

[w9496]

My friends tend to do everything at the very last minute. My best friend likes to call and ask if I want to hang out, but he usually calls when he's driving down my street.

It's not just him either. My friend who also happens to work with me likes to ask me to cover a shift at 8:00PM when the shift starts at 7:00AM.

They're still my friends and I love them to death, but I suppose we all do things to annoy each other.

 

[King of Asgaard]

This one guy gets overly hyped for big releases, like AC3, and when I present what I believe to be cogent reasons to not get hyped, or be sceptical or cynical, he just cannot believe a word I say. It's like I insulted his family or something, he takes it that badly.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

I love my friends. You love your friends. They're practically family. And because they're like family, I sure you have a lot of things to complain about. Let's vent to each other.

One of my best friends from high school recently came out as a lesbian, and my friends and I want to be supportive. Unfortunately, they're the overly PDA couple in a big way. We'll just be sitting around in a circle chatting or playing a bored game or something, and they start making out, sliding their hands down each other's pants, etc. We all just kind of awkwardly sit there and let it pass. When we all go out to eat, they spend the whole time texting each other and only kind-of sort-of pay attention to the rest of the group. No one wants to complain about it though, because she gets all emotional about how we're only pretending to be accepting. Ugh, it's annoying.

And on the subject of my friend's love lives, another one of my friends I just feel bad for. It seems like her concept of 'boyfriend' is 'guy I'm completely subservient to and have sex with whenever he wants without question.' She had an abusive father, so I have a feeling that's the sort of path she'll be on for quite a while, if not forever. Poor thing.

But enough about me, you don't care. Talking about yourself and your problems is rude. You guys tell me about your friends and stuff!

There is being accepting and there is pointing out that they are being impolite and kinda annoying.
Being accepting also means that you won't treat them any different than you would treat any other couple.
If a male-female couple behaved like this, would you approach them and tell them " Hey you guys are kinda being jerks"?
If so, please go ahead and tell your friend that they should maybe be a bit more considerate.

 

[SpAc3man]

My friends are very cheap. Also their choice of alcohol is mainly based on the amount of alcohol by volume they can get for their money. Which, as a drinker of craft beer, annoys me.

 

[Sacman]

Well, the fact that I don;t have any friends is probably the most annoying thing...<.<

 

[hazabaza1]

My best mate has fucking shitty internet. Makes it really hard to play games without him disconnecting.
Also, in general, they're always late to stuff
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[The Harkinator]

It might not seem like something that would grate, but it really annoys me that they keep buying me things when I can't afford to pay them back for everything. I appreciate their generosity but it annoys me to know or think that I owe someone, especially when I can't return the favour. It's the same reason that I don't borrow money from anyone.

I have much the same problem with one of my friends, sadly they use it as some sort of leverage for favours.

Plus the stuff they buy for me is so I have the means to take part in their hobby, so it annoys me that they're buying these things for themselves, just for someone else to use.

 

[wooty]

I have one friend who is a massive compulsive liar. I'd say 90% of what he says is utter bullshit, no matter what you say to him about not believing him; theres always an excuse on why I should.

He doesnt drive, but he owns 2 Jags (which I've never seen because they're getting fixed in a garage.......for 3 years.) He does a lot of hiking, camping, climbing, cross country running, yet hes got a huge beer belly (and he always rings me up saying hes bored). He spent £2000 on.a huge gaming pc; yet Battlefield 2 wouldn't run on it because "oh, oh, errrr, the disk was a bit scratched", yet it runs fine on my rig which is bordering on being ancient.. (plus I've never even seen this monster machine). Things like that.

I am starting to think about scrapping him off now, six years of bullshit is piling up and the barn is getting full.

 

[Rariow]

This one guy in particular. We'll be using the text chat on Skype or Steam, just chatting, and something he isn't sure about'll come up. Now, he's obviously got a functioning browser because he'll usually send me funny videos, interesting articles and so on. But the second something he doesn't know comes up he'll invariably ask ME to google it for him. Since googling it actually takes less damn time than making HIM do it, I'll mostly cave in and do it without protesting. But it's getting seriously annoying.

Also, he refuses to play the original Deus Ex (My favourite game of all time) because "The graphics will make me not be able to enjoy it", even though he really liked Human Revolution, yet won't get off my back trying to make me play Assassin's Creed Brotherhood (HIS favourite game of all time) despite the fact that I played Assassin's Creed 1 and 2 and didn't enjoy either.

 

[Arakasi]

Hmm, one of my friends reads this forum. Oh well.
Note: I define friends by people who I interact with regularly enough (in the real world) and who I enjoy hanging out with.

Friend One.
-Goes along with the other friends a little too much.
-Somehow manages to piss off anyone that aren't his friends. Possibly due to lack of social skills. It's only really annoying for me because I have to deal with some of the fallout from whoever I'm living with.
-I used to have a lot more complaints about this friend, but I no longer do.

Friend Two.
-No empathy for pain. None.
-I have no idea who she is. None. I've known her for about 7 years.
-Is becoming a phone-person.
-Doesn't seem to be interested in anything philosophical or introspective. Probably why I have no idea who she is.

Friend Three.
-Keeps calling me a Jew. I am not Jewish in any way.
-Is normal. Perhaps I'm reaching a bit here.

And, since I have posted about all of my friends (yes, I only have three), I will proceed to guess their complaints about me.
-I am occasionally boring.
-I constantly require tissues. (Allergies, I think)
-I cannot do small talk well, unless in the zone.
-I am also terrible with people who aren't my friends due to my lack of social skills. This makes me very very uncomfortable and awkward at parties.
-I'm incredibly stubborn sometimes.
-I can be quite annoying.
-I post shit about them on forums at 11:48pm while procastinating doing a university assignment.
-I don't tend to take their advice on entertainment until it's too late to share the experience. I blame them for nagging me about it.
-I don't get social cues, like, to an insane degree. There was one time, where I was at dinner with them and one of their friend's girlfriends who was aparently incredibly hostile, and I had no idea. I just thought she was awkward because she only just met us.

Hell, I'm not even sure how I have any friends, let alone three.
And damn, this thread made me realise that I have a lot to work on.

 

[laggyteabag]

A couple of days ago, I was playing on Halo 4 when 2 of my friends asked me if I wanted to help them build a map for a gametype we enjoy, so I joined the game, and within 5 minutes I was left alone building the map, and they were climbing up mountains, driving around, and killing each other. Thanks guys, its not like I was playing multiplayer, y'know.

I also have a friend of mine who has been in a ton of dead end relationships, and she found a guy about 2 months ago, and whenever I talk to her shes constantly going on about how amazing this guy is. So I went out with her a couple of days ago, and she kept on texting him, using my phone because hers had ran out of battery, and after about 10 minutes of silence with the occasional giggle coming from her she came out with "Can he come over", interested as to how "amazing" this guy was, and I was met with the largest kid I have ever seen, with the most annoying voice, terrible humour, homophobic, and just racist to the core. Naturally I called him out on it, asking him to please cut down on the needless insults and he just told me to "fuck off", so I just stood up, walked way, looked back and my friend was practically crawling over him. Nice one.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Not existing is pretty annoying. How rude of them!
I suppose my workmates can be considered friends. Of course I have people online who are too, but that's different.
The reason I stopped having friends in real life is because they only ever spoke to me when they wanted something and when they wanted to hang out. Whenever I needed someone, they were never in sight. I got sick of being the one making the effort so I gave up and not many have cared enough to keep talking to me or coming to visit occasionally.

Hope that hasn't depressed anyone. I'm not unhappy, I've always done better on my own anyway.

 

[lRookiel]

Some of my friends copy everything I do and it's fairly irritating.

My best friend may actually be insane, as soon as he is even slightly bored he descends into some mad crazy individual that sings songs from the 19th century.