Think I might be falling for my best friend.

[Cupid]

I've dated my best friend and it ended terrible. Sometimes 2 people are great as friends, and a disaster as anything more. However, it is nice to talk this over with those we have the 'more than friendship feelings for' but it is my experience that no matter what 2 people will eventually agree on, it won't work out the way you thought. People say so many things when they are caught up in the moment. In my case (which is not yours) my best friend and I spoke of our friendship and how horrible it would be if we both didn't work out as a couple, we promised eachother that no matter what happens as a couple, that we would always remain friends. In our minds and hearts at the time, we were positive this would not be a problem if we ever broke up. The truth is, we dated for 7 months, and I ended it. It's been 4 months that we haven't spoken. Not only did I lose a boyfriend, but I learned how not so strong our friendship was, and how easy it was for us both to walk away from eachother.

It's a chance, a big risk. I always say to follow your heart, but be prepared for the worst, and go into things with no big expectations.

Good luck.

 

[mannaroth]

Actually I have a good idea, I read from someone else. Flip a coin 1 side being you go for the relationship the other stay as friends. Flip the coin but before you look the result it quickly think which result you thought of while flipping. Then do not look at the coin and go for it.

 

[coolicus]

Forget all that "don't want to ruin a good friendship" stuff. Trust me when I say this, you'll be even more torn up if you don't do anything and she starts dating someone else.

This a million times I made the mistake of not doing anything and it was awful because it really damaged our friendship when she was telling me about a guy she was seeing or interested in she'd sort of sense something wrong and be like "whats up?".

Past all that now but could of avoided lots of awkwardness/damage by just coming out and saying it because you wont suddenly stop being great friends if you say you are interested. Better to be honest than bottle it so talk to the girl .

 

[inFAMOUSCowZ]

go for it, and if it doesnt work out so well, you can go back to be being friends. Happened to me and my ex

 

[aussiebear]

Here's the longer version. So I'm like best friends with this girl. I think she's awesome. I met her last year in drama class when we were paired to do a scene together. To me she'd always just been "That cute girl in drama, but that was the first time we really started talking or spending any amount of time together. Anyways, before long we started texting and stuff and hanging out and in a few months we were super close. At this point we're basically best friends. I feel like I can tell her almost anything and she's a great person to be around. She likes video games and she even played on our football team and we have everything in common. We're so close that since about march last year our friends have been bugging us about how we're in love and may as well be dating. No doubt if they ever saw this post and think "Ha I fucking called it". I actually have had feeling for her before, and she's had feelings for me, but all of 1 other person knows that. I've always loved her like a sister, but recently I've been feeling different. I feel like I actually have legitimate feelings for her. And it sucks.

As you can imagine I really value our friendship. Fucking it up over something like this is the last thing I want. I have no idea if she feels the same way, and I have no idea how she would react if I told her. I mean in my experience things like this can cause lots of problems. Besides that we've talked about this kind of stuff before in like a semi serious semi joking way but I don't know. I'd love to be with her but I don't know if it's worth our friendship.

For the love of god, ask her out already! You won't know until you've tried...You're driving yourself nuts by over thinking the situation.

Side note:
What the hell is wrong with males these days? Its like they've all being pussy-fied by political correctness! Sometimes, you've got to take a deep breath, and go for it...See where it leads. You never know, you might have stumbled into your partner for life!

 

[thedeathscythe]

Ask her out. Just go for it man. You'll miss your chance if you wait, and you don't wnat to wonder "what-if" (as cheesy as that sounds). The worst that happens? She says no and then you do your best to go back to normal and maybe try again later. But you'd be stupid not to go for it, everyone deserves to be happy.

 

[wolf92]

I say go for it. It's better to try, than to spend your entire life not knowing. I asked out one of my best friends. We dated, it was great, then we broke up, and we're still friends.
You gotta take the chance